Adding a few things on my list:
- walking into a few stores trying to strike up a short little conversation with the people working there
- smile and give compliments to old ladies "hello, nice hat!"
- talking to random dudes
- smile and express friendliness and openness to as many people as possible
- and from gestalttherapy there is a self-therapy exercise I've found really helpful, and that is just acknowledging by saying it out loud whatever I'm feeling, ie, a prevalent feeling when I'm daygaming is feeling utterly lonely and without any friends whatsoever (not true at all but it feels that way when daygaming or going out alone) and like a total creep and stalker of random woman walking around. So if I can formulate that into a sentence starting with "I feel....." my experience is that that is creating acceptance and calm around that feeling and giving space to more feelings of confidence and clear-mindedness.
- also I like walking into art galleries and chat up the people working there
- seeing the whole experience as a great chance to get to know my city better, ie, when I was into photography I liked the added perspective of seeing my city as photographer walking around looking for interesting things to capture instead of just rushing from A to B like most people, now I have the chance of viewing city life from a daygamers perspective.
- keep myself motivated by the fact that the braver I get at daygaming the braver I'll be at nightgame, and vice versa
- basically whatever it takes to break apart this "fearful looser narrative" and re-build it into being a courageous pioneer on a fun and exciting adventure.
- remind myself "if you want something done right do it yourself"
- remind myself that the more I get used to doing this alone, the more I can go back to my normal social life, and just have this as an integrated part of my life that smoothly blends into everything else.
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