Be a man - call her out on her bullshit. Be the alpha male who doesn't take shit from anyone, lives for himself first and just brings women along for the ride. Think of how James Bond would handle your situation.
As for the player question, that is easily fielded. As you're probably aware neither "Um… yea" nor "OH-NONONONONO!!" are any good to respond to with. What you want to say is something along the lines of this:
"I enjoy getting to know a woman who is intelligent, natural, and who has a child-like curiosity for life. And when I meet such a woman, I would want to enjoy all that life has to offer together with her. And for me there is nothing finer then feeling that incredible connection with someone that you feel so very close to."
Then BAM! You've just made her feel even better while avoiding a direct answer.
Also realize that being known as a ladies man is good thing with some women, but not others, but having her wonder is probably better than either - It maintans a sense of mystery.
- Chris
