yea thats what it seems I do whenever im on a date, like i can be fine with a group i know but when its dates it seems that i ask a milliion question and it feels awkward. i come out as boring
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| Author: | NOILLUSION [ Wed Apr 23, 2008 12:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | Having trouble going into non-boring convo after opening |
There are some openers that make it really hard to transition into a interesting convo. How would I keep the discussion lively/interesting/funny, because I don't like hanging around too long as it just becomes awkward. I also don't prefer to run the cube-game or any other intense game on someone I've just met. I save that shit for day one or day twos. For example, I use a direct approach such as: "Hey, you're cute so I wanted to say Hi" what's next? can I skip the name introduction? |
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| Author: | c_n12 [ Wed Apr 23, 2008 2:11 am ] |
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No one is really a bad conversationalist some people just don't know how to go about it. Here is a simple technique I give to a lot of people that I have have cultivated from personal experience which makes a night and day difference. You could say something as simple as "You want to know a secret about girls with red dresses" if she's wearing a red dress or find something else about her and keep her curious. Leave a lot of things open-ended in the discussion for her to be curious about (women are naturally curious). Make sure you give away as little at a time as possible so she has something to be curious about and get involved with. Also fill whatever you say with colorful emotion to make her constantly feel. Instead making her sit there listening to you rant "I went to Vencice, Italy it was beautiful. I just spent two weeks there and we did X1, X2, X3, X4, X5." Try like this... You: “I just got back to the States” Her: “Oh cool! Where did you go?” You: “I went to Italy it was beautiful – We went hiking on some of the most amazing golden brown mountains in the world. there was gorgeous fields and mountains and immaculate architecture that just swept me away like nothing has ever done in my life.” Her: “That sounds really amazing. What part did you go to?” You: “Venice, I got to do some really wild stuff” Her: “Cool! like what?” It's even more ideal if you can start on something, get a woman wrapped in it and then end a convo and leave her wondering about how it ended(and thinking about you) With this you can make a conversation that would otherwise be boring (you ranting about your trip) into an engaging and interactive story which she feels like she Is having input on even if you’re really controlling the conversation. Another great advantage to this is that you leave her wondering (woman can’t walk away from curiousity like men can) and she will feel compelled to act upon that curiosity. |
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| Author: | cupid [ Wed Apr 23, 2008 2:11 am ] |
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good question, what are some good topics to talk about with girls, or even examples would be even better |
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| Author: | Psychology3 [ Wed Apr 23, 2008 2:13 am ] |
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Don't start asking a million questions... Mix questions with comments. I often take the situation around me and use it for conversation. This also shows you don't have "canned' material. |
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| Author: | cupid [ Wed Apr 23, 2008 9:50 pm ] |
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yea thats what it seems I do whenever im on a date, like i can be fine with a group i know but when its dates it seems that i ask a milliion question and it feels awkward. i come out as boring
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| Author: | AaronW [ Wed Apr 23, 2008 10:52 pm ] |
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I agree with C_n12 a convo can start with just about anything. look up about DHV stories and create your own. Take a look at Threads and the uses and techniques. once i create my DHV stories i look at something about the girl and transition them that way. i like to use unique peices of jewlery they are wearing. also the I heard statements are great for conversation I heard the other day that so and so happened, will happen...did you hear about that! NO? OMG! (then talk about it.) then learn about breaking threads and starting new ones. keep her guessing and curious. ~ Mystic |
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| Author: | Gay [ Wed Apr 23, 2008 11:03 pm ] |
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Ugh dude im in the same boat. Today i just got over my one itis (yay) and im using her as 1. Social Proof 2. Connections to girls And i've notcied how more...lively I am around her, how much more fun i am in general. But What i dont seem to get is, how come i can't do that with other girls ya know? If you ever wanna bounce ideas off each other just pm. |
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| Author: | cupid [ Thu Apr 24, 2008 12:24 am ] |
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I think the fact that i always think "im going to run out of ideas, im going to sound boring soon, etc." really demolishes the flow too, any ideas on how I can get rid of that fear? |
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