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Author:  Hammerthor [ Tue Aug 29, 2017 9:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Cut contact?
Whatsup fam.
So, during the summer I've been working by my families summerplace. I met a girl over there and we clicked pretty fast. We had something going on the whole summer, I saw her as relationship material. We made out and kissed but no sex. We went on a date at my place the last day before I left the summerplace. Everything went well, we kissed, got into bed. Then... problem, I had a limp Dick, was kind of embarrased so I didn't even go for it. Didn't take off my underwear to try to get it up. Might have been tension building up for this moment for a long time..

It's been about 2-3 weeks since, in the beginning 1-2 weeks we still used snapchat a lot. Last week I asked if she wanted to come to see me (live 2 hours away). She wasnt able to that day but suggested that she would come to my city anyway sometime soon and we could meet then. I Responded with a short text, not letting her off the hook, she wrote happily about meeting me when she would go to my city though, maybe should've been a bit more nice. (text game help)

I have a good female friend that know her aswell that lives in my city, she asked how it goes with her, and borrowed my phone to write to her. I didn't see what my friend wrote but I got the responses (she was pushing for a relationship).
The answers showed that she wasn't really into a long distance relationship, that it would be hard. I sent a normal sc pic when my friend was done and she didn't respond, I didn't send another one and our snap-streak ended. My friend told me I have to meet with her atleast and talk through our intentions with eachother, before it fades away too much, and before I give her up. (Wise?)

To clear things up I haven't been the desperate kind sending her snaps if she didn't respond. I've been taking long times to respond and don't write too much.

I really liked this girl alot and she's been getting in my head to much, the thing is I thought we were getting close to into relationship so I didn't try too much with other girls => Less women around/abundance. Which made me vulnerable now when she seems to be a bit uninterested.

Now I'm gonna focus on getting abundance with girls again to get my mind off her. Should I contact her again in a bit pushing for a meet-up (she said she were going to my town sometime), and how should I write this?
Or should I cut contact with her and forget her until I'm having abundance with other women, so I won't be vulnerable again?

Best regards
Hammerthor :mrgreen:
Author:  ChaseChase1007 [ Tue Aug 29, 2017 9:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Cut contact?
First having your friend send text messages for you is pretty fucking stupid. No offense.

Second, it's entirely up to you. Is this girl worth it? Do you want a relationship? Normally you let the girl push for the relationship... the minute you do you just threw all your cards and she has the winning hand. So now I wouldn't push for shit because it's to much of a gamble and B you come off as needy. You also convey this girl can have that at any point, but I think she knows this already now given what you said.

My advice. Limited contact so you don't come to needy and progress elsewhere and in the future stop letting your friend borrow your phone.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Tue Aug 29, 2017 9:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Cut contact?
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We had something going on the whole summer, I saw her as relationship material.
Ignore this thought until she brings up exclusivity.
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I Responded with a short text, not letting her off the hook, she wrote happily about meeting me when she would go to my city though, maybe should've been a bit more nice. (text game help)

You need to learn to let women off the hook. you must let women choose you, organically.
she already said she'd see you in the city. At that point, get off the phone and focus on your goals.

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I have a good female friend that know her aswell that lives in my city, she asked how it goes with her, and borrowed my phone to write to her. I didn't see what my friend wrote but I got the responses (she was pushing for a relationship).
WTF is this bullshit?

Never give a phone to someone and have them be a surrogate for you. This is incredibly weak.
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The answers showed that she wasn't really into a long distance relationship, that it would be hard. I sent a normal sc pic when my friend was done and she didn't respond
I wouldn't respond either if a woman did this to me.

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, I didn't send another one and our snap-streak ended. My friend told me I have to meet with her atleast and talk through our intentions with eachother, before it fades away too much, and before I give her up. (Wise?)
Why in the fuck would you need to "have a talk" with a woman you're not even in a relationship with?

Do you know what your intentions are? It's really easy. Stop seeing love/sex as serious, and see it for what it is: fucking awesome and fun.

Your intentions are to be fun, playful, happy, and to live in the moment. NOT to be a neurotic weakling figuring out ways to lock a girl down. Socially valuable women will NEXT you, hard.
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Now I'm gonna focus on getting abundance with girls again to get my mind off her. Should I contact her again in a bit pushing for a meet-up (she said she were going to my town sometime), and how should I write this?
Or should I cut contact with her and forget her until I'm having abundance with other women, so I won't be vulnerable again?

Best regards
Hammerthor :mrgreen:


Start talking to other women, and cut contact with this woman. If she texts you, send her this:

"Hey, cool to hear from you. it's Netflix and drinks night at my place, saturday 9pm. Come by when you're free."

If she says "no", then cut contact again.


You are the prize, my friend. Act like it.
Author:  Hammerthor [ Wed Aug 30, 2017 5:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Cut contact?
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First having your friend send text messages for you is pretty fucking stupid. No offense.

Second, it's entirely up to you. Is this girl worth it? Do you want a relationship? Normally you let the girl push for the relationship... the minute you do you just threw all your cards and she has the winning hand. So now I wouldn't push for shit because it's to much of a gamble and B you come off as needy. You also convey this girl can have that at any point, but I think she knows this already now given what you said.

My advice. Limited contact so you don't come to needy and progress elsewhere and in the future stop letting your friend borrow your phone.
It was on a party. My friend Said I have to write something on your phone. I was like Alright, and she Did it. Now afterwards Its Pretty cringe, could sen lika i asked her to write.

About the relationship thing, I see your points that's probably best. We have never talked about relationship, didn't told her about that I want it. Maybe she sensed subconsciously though.

Alright thanks for the tips mate
Author:  Hammerthor [ Wed Aug 30, 2017 2:52 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Cut contact?
Quote:
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We had something going on the whole summer, I saw her as relationship material.
Ignore this thought until she brings up exclusivity.
Quote:
I Responded with a short text, not letting her off the hook, she wrote happily about meeting me when she would go to my city though, maybe should've been a bit more nice. (text game help)

You need to learn to let women off the hook. you must let women choose you, organically.
she already said she'd see you in the city. At that point, get off the phone and focus on your goals.

Quote:
I have a good female friend that know her aswell that lives in my city, she asked how it goes with her, and borrowed my phone to write to her. I didn't see what my friend wrote but I got the responses (she was pushing for a relationship).
WTF is this bullshit?

Never give a phone to someone and have them be a surrogate for you. This is incredibly weak.
Quote:
The answers showed that she wasn't really into a long distance relationship, that it would be hard. I sent a normal sc pic when my friend was done and she didn't respond
I wouldn't respond either if a woman did this to me.

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, I didn't send another one and our snap-streak ended. My friend told me I have to meet with her atleast and talk through our intentions with eachother, before it fades away too much, and before I give her up. (Wise?)
Why in the fuck would you need to "have a talk" with a woman you're not even in a relationship with?

Do you know what your intentions are? It's really easy. Stop seeing love/sex as serious, and see it for what it is: fucking awesome and fun.

Your intentions are to be fun, playful, happy, and to live in the moment. NOT to be a neurotic weakling figuring out ways to lock a girl down. Socially valuable women will NEXT you, hard.
Quote:
Now I'm gonna focus on getting abundance with girls again to get my mind off her. Should I contact her again in a bit pushing for a meet-up (she said she were going to my town sometime), and how should I write this?
Or should I cut contact with her and forget her until I'm having abundance with other women, so I won't be vulnerable again?

Best regards
Hammerthor :mrgreen:

Start talking to other women, and cut contact with this woman. If she texts you, send her this:

"Hey, cool to hear from you. it's Netflix and drinks night at my place, saturday 9pm. Come by when you're free."

If she says "no", then cut contact again.


You are the prize, my friend. Act like it.
Thanks for the answer man, gives some insight.
If I'm meeting her again I shouldnt talk about feeling/future then? Should the man never do this?

About letting her off the hook I meant like they describe in this article. http://www.girlschase.com/content/quit- ... ok-so-much
after i asked her out and she said she couldn't, but she would go to my town and could visit me, I answered:
Too bad, Nice!
It was on snapchat so we were in a discussion, but after this she responded with a pic, I wasn't about to open it until the next day to leave her hanging, but then I opened and just sent a pic an hour later, which she opened and waited for a couple hours before sending another snap. Probably the first time she didn't respond to my snap immediately so seems like I fucked up something here.

As for my friend writing from my phone. She said she had to write something to her, I was drunk and let her. I had a feeling it was about me though, so probably shouldn't have let her, thought she was gonna wing and do good for me.

My intentions was in the beginning to not be in a relationship with her during the schoolyear. As I'm in the last year of HS there are a bunch of parties arranged where I live, which are nice to be single at. I want to meet this girl at occasions, have fun with her, so that it could turn into something more serious in the future if I want to.

If I meet her again I'll just have fun with her and don't talk about the past or future. Have fun and if she likes it she will want to meet up again naturally. No talk about US. Sounds right?

:mrgreen:
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