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Author:  CopernicanShift [ Wed Jun 14, 2017 4:44 pm ]
Post subject:  teetering one way or the other
How do you think is a good way to respond if a girl is teetering over meeting up or not
like I got talking to one of my numbers today and managed to impress her with my humour and banter; ade her laugh, she started bantering back and warmed up to me quite a bit. She asked to add me on facebook I was like "I kind of don't want you perving on all my pics and reading my posts" but ultimately I added her instead
when I asked if we should meet up for a drink she was like "mmm I don't know"
which suggested she kind of did but she's also nervous about it, which I know because she has already told me she hates speaking on the phone because she's so awkward.

Where do you go from there? You don't want to try and reason her into it because if you argue with her she will
give herself reasons not to.
I think of just being empathetic and say, "it sounds like you'd feel a little nervous about meeting up with me, the same way you feel nervous about speaking on the phone" and leave it hanging to say what she says
but I don't want to be too mushy either
Author:  CopernicanShift [ Wed Jun 14, 2017 4:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
I'm thinking there are a variety of other ways to go that I have not even thought of that some of you may have.


One way would be the "do you like sushi/hot chocolate/etc. something?"
"Yeah I do"
"I know a great sushi/hot chocolate/etc. place, maybe we should go there"

Thing is I can't think of anything in this city. XD
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Jun 14, 2017 5:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
"Can you cook?" This not only assisted building comfort, it could easily aid in setting up a cozy dinner date. At her, or your shag pad.

Learn a basic signature simple dish, that you would eat, but is not over filling. And learn the matching wine.
Author:  CopernicanShift [ Wed Jun 14, 2017 5:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
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"Can you cook?" This not only assisted building comfort, it could easily aid in setting up a cozy dinner date. At her, or your shag pad.

Learn a basic signature simple dish, that you would eat, but is not over filling. And learn the matching wine.
Ok thank you, I can indeed cook, I will add it to the repertoire
but here's the thing - if a girl isn't at a comfort level enough to meet up for a drink yet
she definitely is not at a comfort level high enough to come over to your house or have you at hers yet
that's more a date 2, 3 or 4 for a girl like that
you can't run before you can walk - if anything I need a lower pressure date like coffee or lunch ugh
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Jun 14, 2017 5:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
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but here's the thing - if a girl isn't at a comfort level enough to meet up for a drink yet
she definitely is not at a comfort level high enough to come over to your house or have you at hers yet
that's more a date 2, 3 or 4 for a girl like that
you can't run before you can walk - if anything I need a lower pressure date like coffee or lunch ugh
You're missing the point. Well some of it.

Asking if she can cook, THEN building comfort around it. Fuck that coffee/lunch crap, save it for your Aunt Shirley.

"Can you cook?"

Of course she'll say "yes."

You start "I bet my chicken is better......"

Then lead, "I've gotta go, but we'll finish this conversation later, Be at X-Bar at 8 o'clock Friday! Wear something tight!"
Author:  DJ_Z [ Wed Jun 14, 2017 7:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
Low pressure dates are stupid. You want pressure. It's called sexual tension, not sexual relaxation...
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Jun 14, 2017 7:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
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Low pressure dates are stupid. You want pressure. It's called sexual tension, not sexual relaxation...
Hahaha +1
Author:  CopernicanShift [ Wed Jun 14, 2017 8:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
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Low pressure dates are stupid. You want pressure. It's called sexual tension, not sexual relaxation...
You have to get her on the date first. Then you can escalate the tension.
If she's not ready to come out you're getting nothing.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Wed Jun 14, 2017 8:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
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Low pressure dates are stupid. You want pressure. It's called sexual tension, not sexual relaxation...
You have to get her on the date first. Then you can escalate the tension.
If she's not ready to come out you're getting nothing.

Why logon and ask a question if you won't consider the answers presented?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Jun 14, 2017 8:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
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Low pressure dates are stupid. You want pressure. It's called sexual tension, not sexual relaxation...
You have to get her on the date first. Then you can escalate the tension.
If she's not ready to come out you're getting nothing.
Being a leader will get her out.
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those who say it can't be done should get the fuck out the way of those doing it
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Wed Jun 14, 2017 9:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
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How do you think is a good way to respond if a girl is teetering over meeting up or not
like I got talking to one of my numbers today and managed to impress her with my humour and banter
Are you the queen's court jester?

maybe you should've set a firm date and time rather than impressing yourself and staring at your phone.

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when I asked if we should meet up for a drink she was like "mmm I don't know"
"If you should meet up"?

That's a weak way to ask a girl out.

post the actual text you sent her, or we can't really help you.

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Where do you go from there? You don't want to try and reason her into it because if you argue with her she will
give herself reasons not to.
Post the texts, hard to say.
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I think of just being empathetic and say, "it sounds like you'd feel a little nervous about meeting up with me, the same way you feel nervous about speaking on the phone" and leave it hanging to say what she says
but I don't want to be too mushy either
Hahahah this is terrible. It's such a nice-guy-butthurt response. Don't ever try to be this logical with a woman early on.

Don't go into meta, EVER early on unless it's for humor.

Just lead.

You: "Hey little diva, let's do bar X at 9 tomorrow night."
Author:  CopernicanShift [ Wed Jun 14, 2017 10:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
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Why logon and ask a question if you won't consider the answers presented?
Of course I considered the answers; I don't think they were well calibrated to the interest level of the girl and realistically would just end in her ceasing to reply to messages.
If you are actually here to help then you would listen to what I am saying and work with it instead of trying to one up and insult slinging.
Author:  oceanx [ Thu Jun 15, 2017 6:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
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she definitely is not at a comfort level high enough to come over to your house or have you at hers yet
that's more a date 2, 3 or 4 for a girl like that
Multiple dates before having a girl over is inadvisable. Heywood's text sequence was excellent. She's either going to come out or not. Just invite her and find out.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Thu Jun 15, 2017 4:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: teetering one way or the other
All I did was say that low pressure dates are dumb. And they are. You need to consider the possibility that you are wrong, as opposed to assuming you're 95% right and just need us to fill in a few blanks.

You're going too slow because you are afraid of rejection, except she is more likely to shut you down due to timidity than aggression.
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