PUA Forum :: How many compliments should I give?

Hmmm.

Let's forget about cold approaches for a moment, then.

Let's say we're on a date, and I'm thoroughly impressed by how she's dressed. It's obvious she spent a good two hours on that dress, makeup, hair, nails, smell. Is it so bad to express my appreciation of the time she put in herself, so she'll feel her work was worthwhile, or, simply put, sexy?

While I was hanging out with my gf the other night, an orbiter popped up on her Facebook IM. He said, "you're hot. I just want you to know."

She showed me, sighed, and then said "tell me something I don't know" while rolling her eyes.

Don't be that guy. Hot girls have heard this shit their entire lives. It's tedious.

Save the physical compliments for post-pickup.

I'm going to have to agree with arch Stanton on this one, without disagreeing with poeticlyskuac, hot women are not compliment proof but something like you are hot or you are cute, are not really do anything but roll her eyes up, of course the proper compliment can make good effect on them and open the door to start a conversation
And no I don't have any example of a good compliment for a hot girl

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Hot girls like compliments on their hotness but it's only from men that they find attractive. If you aren't physically attractive, the worst thing you can do is tell a hot girl that she is hot until you give her a reason to find you attractive. Consider it a part of escalation once you establish a mutual attraction. So yeah...Arch's example is a good example of what not to do because the guy who gave the compliment didn't establish himself as an attractive man to her. If he did, there wouldn't be any mocking of the compliment.

You offer a great genuine compliment.

The easiest way to disarm to super cute girl? Offer a great compliment,

Author:	notepad [ Wed May 31, 2017 8:00 pm ]
Post subject:	How many compliments should I give?
I kind of like to give honest compliments (my first lay, who kinda 'taught' me stuff, said that women love to hear compliments; but, I was kind-of getting into a relationship with her so it's quite a different situation). If an HB is wearing a well-suited makeup, I'd say , "I like the way you wear your makeup. It says you have a good eye for art. And most girls out there look like a makeup helicopter crashed on their face or something. Disaster." (this is something I said to some random girl on the street after a short introduction, because I was on a "compliment chicks" mission. She laughed.) I am however, not sure when to use this, and where is the barrier between doing it and overdoing it. If the chick is embarrassed, I would say, "don't be so embarrassed. I'm giving you a compliment, you should be glad!". I am not sure about whether this is a good line to use, as well. In general, I am working on my own natural game. I don't like canned material. I want to use what is most natural to me. But, I also want to get laid and not come of as needy, so I'd like to make sure this tool is well refined. Thanks in advance for your input. Cheers.

Author:	JackZero [ Wed May 31, 2017 8:10 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How many compliments should I give?
Ask yourself this question: Why do you hope to get out of complimenting a woman?

Author:	Johnny Utah [ Wed May 31, 2017 8:45 pm ]
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I never compliment women unless I have hooked up with them at least once lol.

Author:	notepad [ Wed May 31, 2017 9:49 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How many compliments should I give?
Hmmm. Let's forget about cold approaches for a moment, then. Let's say we're on a date, and I'm thoroughly impressed by how she's dressed. It's obvious she spent a good two hours on that dress, makeup, hair, nails, smell. Is it so bad to express my appreciation of the time she put in herself, so she'll feel her work was worthwhile, or, simply put, sexy?

Author:	JackZero [ Wed May 31, 2017 10:00 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How many compliments should I give?
Quote: Hmmm. Let's forget about cold approaches for a moment, then. Let's say we're on a date, and I'm thoroughly impressed by how she's dressed. It's obvious she spent a good two hours on that dress, makeup, hair, nails, smell. Is it so bad to express my appreciation of the time she put in herself, so she'll feel her work was worthwhile, or, simply put, sexy? Again, what do you hope to gain by giving women compliments?

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Author:	puaninja [ Thu Jun 01, 2017 1:29 am ]
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When approaching I don't believe in complimenting their actual physical features. Once you get a day 2 or start dating, then yes, compliment heavily and win her over with praise. But when cold approaching and whatnot, I recommend you don't do it. The reason is because it doesn't add to the trust or rapport building since it is merely empty praise from a stranger. It's basically pointless. Now you may have no choice but to make an observational opening comment about her in order to justify why you have chosen to walk up to her and start talking to her. Even if it is complimentary, make it about her dress, or shoes, or bracelet, and NOT about her body, face, or physical traits. I hear some PUA's swearing by the same opener "I had to come over and tell you how gorgeous you are", but I think it telegraphs too much intent from the start and raises the girls shields as its yet ANOTHER guy hitting on her because he thinks she's hot. In fact, that's more of an icebreaker opening for people with approach anxiety who aren't comfortable with making more subtle and complex openings.

Author:	Arch Stanton [ Thu Jun 01, 2017 1:47 am ]
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While I was hanging out with my gf the other night, an orbiter popped up on her Facebook IM. He said, "you're hot. I just want you to know." She showed me, sighed, and then said "tell me something I don't know" while rolling her eyes. Don't be that guy. Hot girls have heard this shit their entire lives. It's tedious. Save the physical compliments for post-pickup.

Author:	poeticlyskuac [ Thu Jun 01, 2017 4:16 am ]
Post subject:	Re: How many compliments should I give?
Quote: While I was hanging out with my gf the other night, an orbiter popped up on her Facebook IM. He said, "you're hot. I just want you to know." She showed me, sighed, and then said "tell me something I don't know" while rolling her eyes. Don't be that guy. Hot girls have heard this shit their entire lives. It's tedious. Save the physical compliments for post-pickup. STOP GIVING ADVICE... You don't know what the fuck you're talking about. You can compliment just fine as long as you know how. A compliment isn't about seeking approval or trying to get a girl's attention. A compliment when given properly is fine... the problem is guys like you only know how to give a needy compliment.... because you're needy. Check out this video if you want to learn to grant a great compliment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c_d3W99Hpn4

Author:	nyceboi [ Thu Jun 01, 2017 5:22 am ]
Post subject:	Re: How many compliments should I give?
I'm going to have to agree with arch Stanton on this one, without disagreeing with poeticlyskuac, hot women are not compliment proof but something like you are hot or you are cute, are not really do anything but roll her eyes up, of course the proper compliment can make good effect on them and open the door to start a conversation And no I don't have any example of a good compliment for a hot girl

Author:	JackZero [ Thu Jun 01, 2017 7:01 am ]
Post subject:	Re: How many compliments should I give?
Quote: I'm going to have to agree with arch Stanton on this one, without disagreeing with poeticlyskuac, hot women are not compliment proof but something like you are hot or you are cute, are not really do anything but roll her eyes up, of course the proper compliment can make good effect on them and open the door to start a conversation And no I don't have any example of a good compliment for a hot girl Hot girls like compliments on their hotness but it's only from men that they find attractive. If you aren't physically attractive, the worst thing you can do is tell a hot girl that she is hot until you give her a reason to find you attractive. Consider it a part of escalation once you establish a mutual attraction. So yeah...Arch's example is a good example of what not to do because the guy who gave the compliment didn't establish himself as an attractive man to her. If he did, there wouldn't be any mocking of the compliment.

Author:	notepad [ Thu Jun 01, 2017 9:36 am ]
Post subject:	Re: How many compliments should I give?
Thanks for the responses. What I am trying to achieve is, to stand out from the crowd. I'll never tell a woman I'm trying to pick up she's "hot" or "beautiful". Maybe 'kinda cute' if I'm being direct and it's in the first sentence. Maybe I'd compliment her eyeliner and say it makes her eyes pop out. And tell a story about being dressed to a woman in halloween and having eyeliner that made me look like an 'amazingly hot chick'. Or somethings. So it's always a specific, sincere compliment, accompanied by a bit of cocky / funny. The other day I started talking to some chick in a coffeeshop and after a minute or two I told her that her makeup was pretty; then I said that I wished I could wear eyeliner without seeming like a total fag, because it would make my eyes 'even prettier" (I do love my eyes and I think it radiates confidence to be aware of it and simply say it with a smile.

Author:	neo87 [ Thu Jun 01, 2017 10:19 am ]
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Quote: Quote: I'm going to have to agree with arch Stanton on this one, without disagreeing with poeticlyskuac, hot women are not compliment proof but something like you are hot or you are cute, are not really do anything but roll her eyes up, of course the proper compliment can make good effect on them and open the door to start a conversation And no I don't have any example of a good compliment for a hot girl Hot girls like compliments on their hotness but it's only from men that they find attractive. If you aren't physically attractive, the worst thing you can do is tell a hot girl that she is hot until you give her a reason to find you attractive. Consider it a part of escalation once you establish a mutual attraction. So yeah...Arch's example is a good example of what not to do because the guy who gave the compliment didn't establish himself as an attractive man to her. If he did, there wouldn't be any mocking of the compliment. I dont even think its a good example as of course his gf is going to have a mocking reaction with Arch right next to her. This guy could have been physically attractive, but how is she going to react with Arch right next to her? Bad example. They say don't get advice from women...thats especially true when its your gf in a current relationship. Of course she isn't going to tell you what works and what doesnt from other guys.

Author:	poeticlyskuac [ Thu Jun 01, 2017 12:16 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How many compliments should I give?
A good compliment goes with why... Tell a woman: "you're hot." "you're gorgeous." "you're beautiful." "you're sexy." Aren't really good compliments, if on the other hand you say: "I really love that shirt it compliments your skin tone and eyes very well." "I love your dress, it really makes your eyes pop." "Those glasses are a great choice, the are very unique and compliment your personality well." You offer a great genuine compliment. The easiest way to disarm to super cute girl? Offer a great compliment, that's why I got so agitated with his statement. Compliments are an awesome way to pick up girls as long as you have confidence and can state them without needing validation... you can lift someone up with a great compliment without coming across as super needy. Too many guys think well I shouldn't compliment women because this person said so... well you can if you know how to compliment a woman and if you're doing it because you actually feel that way... you're not doing it to impress her it's simply something you see and say.

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jun 01, 2017 2:01 pm ]
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Quote: You offer a great genuine compliment. The easiest way to disarm to super cute girl? Offer a great compliment, They all want to be a special snowflake. So if the compliment is specific to them, and a genuine observation, then they FEEL special. “You’re good at what you do.” "You have an amazing sense of style."

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Author:	DJ_Z [ Thu Jun 01, 2017 2:46 pm ]
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Don't do it at all about her looks. And by the way, if your "natural game" ain't working you may not be a natural. It's okay. Also...it's incredibly wrong to rely on the first female you date to create your entire belief system in how to get laid. Women lie a lot.