Dear All,

I think I just lost for ever a girl I really love, and I would appreciate some advice. I have been flirting with a girl from work for over 3/4 months and a lot of chemistry has been building up between us. We were writing emails everyday, sharing a lot of personal things, & hanging 3/4x a week for lunches/ coffees at work. I met her twice for drinks and nothing happened on these occassions, but 2 days ago, we did meet again for a drink, and this time we kissed/hugged quite sexual. I am engaged with someone else, and she nows, and I told here I am not well with this girl and may not continue. Actually, we would never speak about my personal live, until she insisted that I tell her and during our last date I did give her many details about my personal life (and still we did make out afterwards). Our date lasted from 10 p.m. to 10 a.m. the next day, so it was really intense (although no sex). However towards the end of our date she told me she felt very bad with herself & told me we should reduce our communication to a minimum. That same day, we still texted each other several times and even went out for a quick dinner, no hugs or kisses though, just as friends. I returned home and she texted me to ask if I arrived home well. I told her I did and that my head was a mess after what had happened, and that I needed to speak to her soon once I digested everything. She replied thanking me for the dinner and that we could speak whenever I wanted. The next morning I texted her back something funnyish. She did not reply until nighttime when I received from her the following email:

"I thought a lot today and without wanting to sound too dramatic, I would really appreciate if we stopped talking at least for now. Take care and see you around."

I am really in love with this girl, and I now I have screwed things up (i.e. lied to her once). I know I should leave her alone for a while, but should I at least reply to her saying what I really feel for her / think about her and say I'm sorry for lying to her, email her just to let her now that I respect her decision and that she knows where to find me, or should I not even reply? what should I do?

Many thanks for your guidance and help.

Dear All,
hanging 3/4x a week for lunches/ coffees at work. I met her twice for drinks and nothing happened on these occassions

but 2 days ago, we did meet again for a drink, and this time we kissed/hugged quite sexual. I am engaged with someone else, and she nows, and I told here I am not well with this girl and may not continue. Actually, we would never speak about my personal live, until she insisted that I tell her and during our last date I did give her many details about my personal life (and still we did make out afterwards). Our date lasted from 10 p.m. to 10 a.m. the next day, so it was really intense (although no sex).

However towards the end of our date she told me she felt very bad with herself & told me we should reduce our communication to a minimum.

That same day, we still texted each other several times and even went out for a quick dinner, no hugs or kisses though, just as friends. I returned home and she texted me to ask if I arrived home well. I told her I did and that my head was a mess after what had happened, and that I needed to speak to her soon once I digested everything.

"I thought a lot today and without wanting to sound too dramatic, I would really appreciate if we stopped talking at least for now. Take care and see you around."

I am really in love with this girl, and I now I have screwed things up (i.e. lied to her once). I know I should leave her alone for a while, but should I at least reply to her saying what I really feel for her / think about her and say I'm sorry for lying to her, email her just to let her now that I respect her decision and that she knows where to find me, or should I not even reply? what should I do?

Many thanks for your guidance and help.