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Author:  bartm [ Mon Apr 03, 2017 9:18 pm ]
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how to respond to "that wasn't funny but nice try"?

example scenario: I was on the bus, waiting for the bus to stop so I can exit. this girl was also standing there, waiting to exit. When the door opened, she yelled at the drive "thank you" I turned around and said "you're welcome"

when we both exited I was walking ahead of her. I turned around and looked at her in amusement like "lol lol"
but not laughing. she said "that wasn't funny but nice try"

I have got that a lot. so wondering what's a good way to respond to such situations?

"I wasn't TRYING to be funny" <<< this would disarm her?
"Then I guess we're not compatible" <<< this would disqualify her?
"why not?" <<< this would allow her to express herself?

what would you do?
Author:  JackZero [ Mon Apr 03, 2017 10:14 pm ]
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what would you do?
Not go down that path. She's dismissive of your line of conversation, so there's no reason for you to force more out of a negative place. Why dig deeper?
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Mon Apr 03, 2017 10:49 pm ]
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how to respond to "that wasn't funny but nice try"?
This is where you change the frame immediately with shocking honesty.

See, you tried to be the lame ass court jester, and entertain her. This is ass-kissing, pleaser behavior.

Her: That wasn't funny, but nice try.
You: Let's grab a drink tonight.

You got into trouble, because you were fearful of outcome and told a lame joke probably full of nervous tension. Circle around to dominance.

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"I wasn't TRYING to be funny" <<< this would disarm her?
Explaining yourself to a woman is beta behavior unless you're exclusive.

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"Then I guess we're not compatible" <<< this would disqualify her?
No, this is a butt-hurt comment that conveys a lack of abundance mentality.
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"why not?" <<< this would allow her to express herself?
This response is needy as fuck.
Author:  G.M [ Tue Apr 04, 2017 12:47 am ]
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she said "that wasn't funny but nice try"
Her: "that wasn't funny but nice try"
Me (with a sly grin): N here I am thinking I was being cute and funny. Guess I was just being cute!
Author:  JackZero [ Tue Apr 04, 2017 12:51 am ]
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Her: That wasn't funny, but nice try.
You: Let's grab a drink tonight.
Would this really work? I'm not saying it would or won't, but I'm having a hard time with even remotely turning things around with it when the only words uttered to the girl before this moment was a joking "you're welcome". If you were going to say "let's grab a drink tonight," in the second sentence that wasn't even serious then you may as well make it your approach if this is something that actually works.
Author:  Autoregressive [ Tue Apr 04, 2017 4:11 am ]
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Well if we're going to throw out every possible comeback...

You could go down the humility route, though it would only be authentic if you knew your joke was shit, and say:

"Alright, you got me"

and then just ignore her.

If she continues the conversation she might just have thought you were good looking enough to give another chance and authentic humility isn't a bad thing.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Tue Apr 04, 2017 7:23 am ]
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Would this really work?

In this specific scenario, probably not. But it will train the OP to act more dominant in the future, instead of making an offhand comment, trotting off, and then looking back over his shoulder for her reaction to see if she was entertained.

The more you begin to just go for what you want rather than couching your intentions in court jester and pleaser mentality, the more it will come naturally. And there are women who will be floored by this direct approach even if it is not entirely refined yet.
Author:  Furiox [ Tue Apr 04, 2017 12:50 pm ]
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The problem here is you tried to be funny but it was a lame joke, leave it at that and learn to make better jokes in life, this was not the right setting, its rather weird to say stuff like that in the bus.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Apr 04, 2017 12:57 pm ]
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how to respond to "that wasn't funny but nice try"?

example scenario: I was on the bus, waiting for the bus to stop so I can exit. this girl was also standing there, waiting to exit. When the door opened, she yelled at the drive "thank you" I turned around and said "you're welcome"

when we both exited I was walking ahead of her. I turned around and looked at her in amusement like "lol lol"
but not laughing. she said "that wasn't funny but nice try"

I have got that a lot. so wondering what's a good way to respond to such situations?

"I wasn't TRYING to be funny" <<< this would disarm her?
"Then I guess we're not compatible" <<< this would disqualify her?
"why not?" <<< this would allow her to express herself?

what would you do?
Wouldn't it be great if girls had tails, like puppies, so they could wag them when your doing well, and stop when you say stupid shit?
Author:  Curtis72 [ Wed Apr 05, 2017 2:00 am ]
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Her: That wasn't funny, but nice try.
You: Let's grab a drink tonight.
Would this really work? I'm not saying it would or won't, but I'm having a hard time with even remotely turning things around with it when the only words uttered to the girl before this moment was a joking "you're welcome". If you were going to say "let's grab a drink tonight," in the second sentence that wasn't even serious then you may as well make it your approach if this is something that actually works.
It just reads as a Hail Mary with a girl he likely won't see again
Author:  bartm [ Wed Apr 05, 2017 2:15 am ]
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In this specific scenario, probably not. But it will train the OP to act more dominant in the future, instead of making an offhand comment, trotting off, and then looking back over his shoulder for her reaction to see if she was entertained.

The more you begin to just go for what you want rather than couching your intentions in court jester and pleaser mentality, the more it will come naturally. And there are women who will be floored by this direct approach even if it is not entirely refined yet.
Arch,

I agree that some women are floored by directness. I have personally experienced it. In fact, when I think back to all my experiences, the most successful ones (by my standards) are the ones where I was being direct and not ashamed of my directness. I am naturally direct, I hate political correctness and I hate filters, I like to say exactly what's on my mind.

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The problem here is you tried to be funny but it was a lame joke, leave it at that and learn to make better jokes in life, this was not the right setting, its rather weird to say stuff like that in the bus.
I wasn't TRYING to be funny. To me, that shit is funny. period. some people like pizza, some people don't.

I have stopped trying to mold myself or trying to change myself to fit what I think she likes. if she doesn't like my sense of humor, then we are not a good match and I try to find a girl who finds it funny.

Now you might be wondering "ok then, why did you ask the question in the first place?" I just wanted to know if it's some kind of a test by the girl to see how you react or how you handle yourself.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Wed Apr 05, 2017 4:19 am ]
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Why are we still helping Bartm. Let him drown. He has been sinking since he first started. Still sinking...
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