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Author:  Onoma [ Sat Mar 25, 2017 2:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Texts with a stripper
Decided to go to a strip club the other night, got a lap dance with this girl and offered to buy her a drink after. So we end up talking for half an hour or so while I sip on a beer and she has a shot. I wasn't really trying to run game, but I was in a good cocky/funny mood I think... so anyway out of the blue she asks for my number. She ended up texting me a pic of her cat, and another of her and her friend. I told her my name but jokingly said I would text her a different name and did so. Then a little later we said goodnight, I texted her good night from the car and she responded in kind.

Now normally when a stripper has given me her number it's been pretty clear she was turning tricks, but this girl presented it differently. So basically I wasn't really sure, but figured I'd text her after work the next day and see what she says from there.

Only, she texted me the next morning. So maybe she was a little interested, only I wasn't able to carry the text conversation... so hoping I can get some tips to improve.

Her: :P
Me: Is that how you say good morning? ;)
Her: Sorta kinda a great morning since it's Friday! ;)
Me: Saturday mornings are better :p
Her: Mhmm
*I wait an hour to see if she follows up, maybe I already screwed it up?*
Me: Got anything fun planned for this weekend?

So yeah, the last line is terribly generic right? But I suck at thinking of something to say...
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sat Mar 25, 2017 6:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Texts with a stripper
You need to learn how to accept girls when they're qualifying themselves to you.

For example:

Girl: Friday mornings are great!

You: Yeah!/ Cool./ Woohoo!/ Awesome./ You bet.
You: U + Me + Lunch = Fun

If she agrees to lunch, get a takeout, pick her up, take her to your place and have lunch in bed.

One upmanship with girls is a surefire recipe for failure. Like:

a) Friday mornings suck. Saturday mornings are better.

b) My mom cooks better spaghetti than you do.
Author:  Onoma [ Sat Mar 25, 2017 6:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Texts with a stripper
Well, I wasn't necessarily trying to "one up her." I'm just naturally pretty sarcastic... guess I need to tone that back. I wish I could say this was the first time being too sarcastic cost me a lay, but that'd be a lie. :(

Thanks!
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sat Mar 25, 2017 8:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Texts with a stripper
No worries. I used to say the same thing like:

Girl: I cook the best tasting pork sour stew.

MC: Nah. I do it better.

Now, no more. It's something like:

Girl: I cook the best tasting pork sour stew.

MC: Awesome. It would be cool if you helped me cook lunch today. Let's go.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sat Mar 25, 2017 9:22 pm ]
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As long as what you say brings you closer together is what matters. If it doesn't- maybe save it and don't press send
Author:  GKS [ Sat Mar 25, 2017 11:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Texts with a stripper
The biggest mistake most of the people that are into PUA, even me, usually make is not recognizing the green light. Or see it but still try to stick to the rules and pull a bunch of unnecessary stuffs.

In this case, she was clearly giving him the green. It's very rare for girl to text you first. If they do, they are interested and want to meet up. At this point, you should have recognized the clue and lead the conversation to a date or something to spend time with each other. This is where most guys that are into PUA will fail. They will start to stick to the book and qualifying, negs, push and pull, etc... Doesn't help. Just complicate things and make you miss the opportunity.

When she said, it's a great morning bc it's Friday. You could have suggest something to do in such a great day. For EX: "I know right. A cold beer and some good bratwurst would be so freaking perfect right now. Even better. A picnic! You bring the beer. I bring the sausages ;)"

TLDR; if a girl takes initiate to contact or invite you out, stop playing hard to get or dance around. GET TO THE POINT!
Author:  Big_H [ Sun Mar 26, 2017 2:16 am ]
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Quote:
TLDR; if a girl takes initiate to contact or invite you out, stop playing hard to get or dance around. GET THE THE POINT!
True, but context matters here. a) She's a stripper b) He bought her drinks c) She asked for his contact d) She's texting him about her cat and friends

All of that could mean it started slow then he gamed her successfully, or he just got turned and now is on a steady way to the friendzone (groupfriend and cat pics could mean many things).

One thing is clear though, the texts in the next day could have been much more playful and her going NC is an IOD
Author:  Onoma [ Sun Mar 26, 2017 3:33 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texts with a stripper
Well, unfortunately I may have been right the first time. Texted me "hey" a little while ago, when I replied she said she was hanging out with her friend and sent me a picture of her in a see through top. She said she was taking the night off work so maybe it was just her work outfit but...

We're chatting a bit now and said we should get together. I guess I'll know for sure if she replies with a price tag. ;)
Author:  oceanx [ Sun Mar 26, 2017 3:37 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texts with a stripper
Quote:
This is where most guys that are into PUA will fail. They will start to stick to the book and qualifying, negs, push and pull, etc... Doesn't help. Just complicate things and make you miss the opportunity.
+1. Stopping the old school pua games of one-upsmanship will make things flow so much easier. Not that there isn't a time and place for it but to have it on autopilot is not a good idea. I'm not insinuating the OP has that on autopilot but some guys do. I once did.
Author:  oceanx [ Sun Mar 26, 2017 3:39 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texts with a stripper
Quote:
We're chatting a bit now and said we should get together.
Cool. Let's see how she replies from this point. Lol @ your price tag comment. :D
Author:  Onoma [ Sun Mar 26, 2017 3:54 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texts with a stripper
Quote:
Quote:
We're chatting a bit now and said we should get together.
Cool. Let's see how she replies from this point. Lol @ your price tag comment. :D
She never really answered... I suggested Monday at a local bar but we were talking about other stuff so, I dunno. Just said goodnight (actually couldn't go out tonight because I'm looking at rental properties in the morning) so I guess I'll just ask her if we're good for Monday sometime tomorrow, or on Monday?

No mention of price tag though, so that seems like a good sign.
Author:  Onoma [ Tue Mar 28, 2017 4:48 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texts with a stripper
So apparently I picked up a stripper. After a lapdance. Which, afaik, is nearly unheard of. :)

Texted her after I got out of work to see if she wanted to grab a drink, she said yes but wanted to bring her friend. So only problem was the friend was very talkative and kinda monopolized the conversation, but I think we all had fun. So now to plan day 2... or is it 3?
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Tue Mar 28, 2017 5:36 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texts with a stripper
Two things:

1. When a girl goes out alone with you on the first date, she sees you as the hot guy who is good for short term relationships.

2. When she tags along her bestfriend (not a bunch of friends which means you're in the friendzone), she wants the opinion of her bestfriend whether you're good for her for long term relationships.

With #1, you can f-close on the first up to the third date. With #2, it's going to take longer. If you're a patient guy, cut your losses if she doesn't give up the pussy after the 6th date. You might get lucky though on the second date if you can isolate her alone to your place and escalate there.

The odds for the f-close goes sky high when you get her in your apartment alone.

Moreover, strippers earn a good deal of money and will be generous with you as long as you're not the jealous type and you're not framing yourself as the customer.
Author:  oceanx [ Tue Mar 28, 2017 6:27 am ]
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With future girls when they suggest bringing along their bestie, gracefully decline. Never worth it when playing the averages.
Author:  R.C [ Tue Mar 28, 2017 7:47 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texts with a stripper
Quote:
Her: :P
Me: Is that how you say good morning? ;)
Her: Sorta kinda a great morning since it's Friday! ;)
Me: Saturday mornings are better :p
Her: Mhmm
*I wait an hour to see if she follows up, maybe I already screwed it up?*
Me: Got anything fun planned for this weekend?

So yeah, the last line is terribly generic right? But I suck at thinking of something to say...
What exactly was she supposed to follow up on? That conversation was by all accounts ended. Then you just threw out a text for no reason other than to hold on.

Put some effort into this, you've been here long enough to know these things.

PS: Her wanting to bring a friend is her way of saying "This is note a date".
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