PUA Forum :: Newbie question - sort of related, I suppose

Hello, I'm new to this forum, just registered not long ago.

I have a few questions, however, and I don't know under which section they would belong to, so I thought the newbie section is the best place to put it.

Well, here's the thing. In the past year or so I have been forming a group at uni where I was the only guy - it's mostly due to the fact that I was dragged by one of the women there in the group and I joined in because I didn't see any flaws in this ( even though it turned out the one who dragged me in is sort of a cockblocker and tried numerous times to friendzone me ). It was I, a guy, and 3 girls and we'd pretty much hang out and stuff, but it was mostly based out at uni. I didn't really want anything else other than a group and I was glad I was the only guy, because the dude groups I had been in before didn't go very well and being without a group isn't very beneficial, especially when you need stuff at uni. In the meantime, however, I befriended this dude who seemed quite interested in becoming friends.

Fast forward to nowadays and it seems like he is trying to use me to get to these women, mostly because of the fact that he tries to make an ass out of me in order to steal a laugh from them. And also, the other day, we were sitting at a table in a café and he came up with the idea of playing cards, but we had no cards, so he tried to persuade me into buying a deck from a store nearby - I obviously didn't bite, but it still pissed me off. Not only that, but he always tries to crack jokes whenever I attempt to say something, which, again, is quite annoying and they respond to this, so it's quite hard to ignore and keep going - what I understand from this is the fact that he tries to shift the attention to him and away from me and I personally dislike all this - sure, I don't mind him talking or anything, but not letting me talk when I'm being asked a question or when I'm trying to participate in the conversation after a fair bit of time is annoying. And it's not like I'm some sort of Good Guy Greg and he's some sort of Scumbag Steve or anything, we're mostly on the same level, with small differences and perhaps that's why he does this.

Also, one of the women keeps trying to poke me with all sorts of remarks, similar to his style and I'm also confused as to how to respond to this.

What I want to ask you guys is if there is a way to get the hang of this, because obviously I'm not down for disrespect ( although I believe I have shown the exact contrary so far ), or I should simply try to get the hell out of this group - I know this ain't exactly a pick-up question or something, but it can be related to the mindset you guys seek to develop in the PUA.

Also, if I missed something important, feel free to ask, I'll respond asap.

Author:	Chancelance [ Tue Feb 28, 2017 6:43 pm ]
Post subject:	Newbie question - sort of related, I suppose
Hello, I'm new to this forum, just registered not long ago. I have a few questions, however, and I don't know under which section they would belong to, so I thought the newbie section is the best place to put it. Well, here's the thing. In the past year or so I have been forming a group at uni where I was the only guy - it's mostly due to the fact that I was dragged by one of the women there in the group and I joined in because I didn't see any flaws in this ( even though it turned out the one who dragged me in is sort of a cockblocker and tried numerous times to friendzone me ). It was I, a guy, and 3 girls and we'd pretty much hang out and stuff, but it was mostly based out at uni. I didn't really want anything else other than a group and I was glad I was the only guy, because the dude groups I had been in before didn't go very well and being without a group isn't very beneficial, especially when you need stuff at uni. In the meantime, however, I befriended this dude who seemed quite interested in becoming friends. Fast forward to nowadays and it seems like he is trying to use me to get to these women, mostly because of the fact that he tries to make an ass out of me in order to steal a laugh from them. And also, the other day, we were sitting at a table in a café and he came up with the idea of playing cards, but we had no cards, so he tried to persuade me into buying a deck from a store nearby - I obviously didn't bite, but it still pissed me off. Not only that, but he always tries to crack jokes whenever I attempt to say something, which, again, is quite annoying and they respond to this, so it's quite hard to ignore and keep going - what I understand from this is the fact that he tries to shift the attention to him and away from me and I personally dislike all this - sure, I don't mind him talking or anything, but not letting me talk when I'm being asked a question or when I'm trying to participate in the conversation after a fair bit of time is annoying. And it's not like I'm some sort of Good Guy Greg and he's some sort of Scumbag Steve or anything, we're mostly on the same level, with small differences and perhaps that's why he does this. Also, one of the women keeps trying to poke me with all sorts of remarks, similar to his style and I'm also confused as to how to respond to this. What I want to ask you guys is if there is a way to get the hang of this, because obviously I'm not down for disrespect ( although I believe I have shown the exact contrary so far ), or I should simply try to get the hell out of this group - I know this ain't exactly a pick-up question or something, but it can be related to the mindset you guys seek to develop in the PUA. Also, if I missed something important, feel free to ask, I'll respond asap.

Author:	nyceboi [ Tue Feb 28, 2017 7:24 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Newbie question - sort of related, I suppose
hello sorry to hear that,(I had a similar experience) they are insecure people that have to make themselves notice and he is using you, worst is that the ladies play along with him and I know it sucks!.. you have to abandon the group let them go it seems you are confident enough to get into another group, you have to value yourself is not worth it, there is nothing to get the hang of it and you are not into any competition with nobody. you don't have to put up with any sh**t. it is what it is leave the group don't degrade yourself. there are plenty of groups/women around for sure you will find some.

Author:	neo87 [ Thu Mar 02, 2017 7:32 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Newbie question - sort of related, I suppose
Quote: Hello, I'm new to this forum, just registered not long ago. I have a few questions, however, and I don't know under which section they would belong to, so I thought the newbie section is the best place to put it. Well, here's the thing. In the past year or so I have been forming a group at uni where I was the only guy - it's mostly due to the fact that I was dragged by one of the women there in the group and I joined in because I didn't see any flaws in this ( even though it turned out the one who dragged me in is sort of a cockblocker and tried numerous times to friendzone me ). It was I, a guy, and 3 girls and we'd pretty much hang out and stuff, but it was mostly based out at uni. I didn't really want anything else other than a group and I was glad I was the only guy, because the dude groups I had been in before didn't go very well and being without a group isn't very beneficial, especially when you need stuff at uni. In the meantime, however, I befriended this dude who seemed quite interested in becoming friends. Fast forward to nowadays and it seems like he is trying to use me to get to these women, mostly because of the fact that he tries to make an ass out of me in order to steal a laugh from them. And also, the other day, we were sitting at a table in a café and he came up with the idea of playing cards, but we had no cards, so he tried to persuade me into buying a deck from a store nearby - I obviously didn't bite, but it still pissed me off. Not only that, but he always tries to crack jokes whenever I attempt to say something, which, again, is quite annoying and they respond to this, so it's quite hard to ignore and keep going - what I understand from this is the fact that he tries to shift the attention to him and away from me and I personally dislike all this - sure, I don't mind him talking or anything, but not letting me talk when I'm being asked a question or when I'm trying to participate in the conversation after a fair bit of time is annoying. And it's not like I'm some sort of Good Guy Greg and he's some sort of Scumbag Steve or anything, we're mostly on the same level, with small differences and perhaps that's why he does this. Also, one of the women keeps trying to poke me with all sorts of remarks, similar to his style and I'm also confused as to how to respond to this. What I want to ask you guys is if there is a way to get the hang of this, because obviously I'm not down for disrespect ( although I believe I have shown the exact contrary so far ), or I should simply try to get the hell out of this group - I know this ain't exactly a pick-up question or something, but it can be related to the mindset you guys seek to develop in the PUA. Also, if I missed something important, feel free to ask, I'll respond asap. It's you. Here's the thing, people socially catch on to things. If the chicks respect you, a new guy is going to get that and not disrespect you. If the chicks want to hear what you say, a guy isnt going to interrupt you. If you guy group didnt work and this group isnt working whats the common denominator? You. You sound way too serious, hence whats prob happening is there's this fun guy who is pulling your attention and highlighting how much value youre not adding. Guy is trying to persuade you to buy a deck of cards. So what? Thats disrespectful now? Dude, a chill fun guy wouldve said sure, lets go grab it, walked in the store with him, get the deck to the counter and left. Then you and him would be cracking up and laughing. I have friends who if we go out they tell the waitress its on me and they dont take their card out to pay their bill. I tell the waitress, I have no idea what he's talking about, here's my card for MY food, my friend keeps insisting to the waitress I'm paying, she is confused and nervous, then he springs out his card and we bust on each other. Its not something to get mad and think he's trying to persuade me to buy his food, he's just fucking around. Have a sense of humor, bust the guys balls, flirt with the chicks and keep it moving. At the end of the day, people want to have a good time. If they dont care what you have to say, its because you're not fun enough

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