That's one of the problems with online. You're texting and she's interpreting what she believes is your demeanor, tonality, and making up a fantasy version of who you are. If you meet up for the date and don't act the way she's imagined then it'll be like you're not the same person you presented yourself to be during a text conversation. The way around that is less talk and more action on the date. She's already interested in you and you have no reason to not act on that early into the date. Sweep her off of her feet rather than beat on her eardrum.

I get what you're saying, but I feel like I am being myself, and putting up a lot of action during the dates..another thing I noticed is a lot of these girls aren't asking me anything about myself on the dates and it's me constantly asking questions or having to talk, and it's like pulling teeth to keep the conversations going..still at the end of the dates, most end up kissing me and making out but then it's radio silence after but they still want to get together at a later date. They just show little effort into getting to know me really. I've noticed this rarely happens when I meet a chick in person, but happens literally every time I meet a girl online. It's like they don't want to get to know me really since most likely they are talking to so many other men or just want a free meal/nothing better going on. I'm ready to give up the online dating complely..at this point I'm just trying to figure out if I even give this girl a shot or just be done with it and end the whole online experience. It's frustrating and getting super expensive going on all these dates with lukewarm women. Fml lol

You feel like you're being yourself and I'm not doubting that. I'm saying that you may not act like the person that she envisioned you to be. The moment you start saying that you have to constantly ask questions and force conversations, that's the first clue that it's more talking and less action at that moment. The goal of a first date isn't trying to get her to know you and you know her, IMO. It's more about getting her to see you as a sexual being.

What I think may be happening to you is that these girls would make out with you closer to the beginning of the date but you spend time trying to get them to be engaged in talking and learning about each other and she ends up seeing in a less sexual way. By the time you make it to the makeout you've changed who she's envisioned and the next day she's not feeling that same attraction she did in the beginning.

They just show little effort into getting to know me really

Most of my conquests is because I want to have sex and get that out of the way. To get a girl all hot you have to compliment her and sexualize her. If she has a nice feature let her know. She will like it coming from you if she digs you

I have no problem saying this kind of stuff but I do find it hard to compliment like that because I don't want to look desperate or creepy. Ill def have to work on that aspect, thanks for the advice.

If this is happening with more than one person who is the common denominator in all of these issues? You right? So who do you think the problem stems with? All of the random once super talkative girls? Or..... YOU?

Sounds like you're still in the beginning stages of developing your game, character, and personality and thus you're great online where you can hide behind a wall and take time to generate a personality not congruent with your own; and you're not so great in person in which you have to consistently be yourself.

Delete Bumble for a few months and actually focus on approaching real women, in real life, which will develop your confidence and character that will be necessary on the actual dates.