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Author:  HBhitman [ Thu Apr 10, 2008 5:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Managing jealousy
So I'd like to hear some suggestions from experienced PUA's on managing jealousy in one of the women you're working with.

Thx,
- Hit
Author:  Tyler Dom [ Thu Apr 10, 2008 5:08 pm ]
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You need to explain what you want from your question?

I have interpreted it as you are trying to game a girl, and you are having trouble when she talks with other guys etc?--Am I close if so:

Neil Strauss explains in The Game:<Amazing advice>

"And that's when I realized the mistake I'd been making my whole life: To get a woman, you have to be willing to lose her."
Author:  sL!CK [ Thu Apr 10, 2008 5:24 pm ]
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I think it's more of having issues with keeping one of the girls you're gaming from throwing tantrums every time you talk to another girl.

I'm working on that too. I was trying to turn one of my MLTR's into a pivot and it's still an ongoing process. You really need to have strong frame control there. You need to get her to realise that she is special to you, but that you are a man, with natural urges and if she would like for you to surpress them and have these urges act grow and act out when she's not around, sure you can do that.

It's really about how confident she feel in herself and the relationship you guys have. Call her out on this.
Author:  Tyler Dom [ Thu Apr 10, 2008 6:04 pm ]
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You need to get her to realise that she is special to you, but that you are a man, with natural urges

I agree with half of this!--"ou need to get her to realise that she is special to you, but that you are a man, with natural urges"
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if she would like for you to surpress them
But if you enter a relationship with this girl, and she will still be the same insecure girl that gets jealous and will ask you to "suppress" every girl you talk to!
Author:  HBhitman [ Thu Apr 10, 2008 10:23 pm ]
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Slick, you're right.

I've basically got one LTR with other options. My LTR is going back and forth from "Oh it's cool" to sulking. I've been pretty fucking clear the whole time about what I want and want she can expect from me but I'm still getting the SPAM.

I've tried both tough love and sweet and sappy strategies to get her to maintain the "Oh it's cool" attitude. I've said, "This is who I am. If you can't deal, bounce." I've tried, "Hunny you're the greatest". Both have inconsistent results.

If either of you have further ideas with this new 411 or anyone else out there, again, I'd appreciate the feedback.

- Hit
Author:  Yillan [ Sat Apr 12, 2008 6:10 am ]
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That's because you're not being serious about it.

This is who I am, if you can't deal, then we shouldn't be seeing each other. Then don't call her after she starts sulking about it.
Author:  HBhitman [ Mon Apr 14, 2008 8:09 am ]
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Yillan,

Thanks for the additional input. On a positive note, I kind of laid into her and told her that her jealousy is basically wrecking our relationship. She admitted to milking the deal a little bit. Since then she's been pretty damn cool. Not calling her is not an option. We live together. lol.

But again, thanks for the info. I always appreciate any feedback. A new chance to either learn something or get a different perspective.

- Hit
Author:  Yillan [ Tue Apr 15, 2008 1:53 pm ]
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My point with not calling her is that you need to show her that you're willing to walk away. Find another way to show her that you're not going to be around someone who sulks because they can't handle you.
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