Hi guys. I am new to the forum and I need your advise. I want to know if the game (described further) is worth it and if yes what would you advise me to do? (especially in direction of BF Destroying) I want you to know that I am not too emotionally attached to this girl and I didnt move on because I like the game whatever hard it looks like. And I feel its my principle to get the job done )
And btw Im ukrainian, so enjoy my beautiful english
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So now about the problem. It started 2(3?) years ago.
This girl (from now on - TDI) was my friend's GF (we studied at same university). And when they broke up she got attracted to me. At the same time my GF broke up with me. So I tried aproaching this TDI. There was one little problem - at that time I was TERRIBLE with women. So I fucked it up. Hard xD. I got to famous Playette kiss giveaway (when they turn a head slightly away before kiss) but reacted wrong, showed neediness (to a goddamn TDI ))) ), etc. and generally multiplyed myself on zero in her eyes.
Years passed. I got better with women but hard to tell if I am good now. 9-10 months ago TDI got her new boyfirend. Approximately 8 months ago I tried casually approaching her, but was not focused enough on her and it didnt work out (I wouldnt call that a serious approach, I didnt care enough for some reason :/ ). About 2 months later TDI joined me on one of my projects (she proposed it), so now we work together on something we are supposedly passionate about.
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So now finally current situation. Our human relationship is a goddamn mess:
1. I took time cutting off her memories of old me.I naturally behave different so wasnt hard, though we got in conflict several times because she got strong response where she obviously expected a weak one.
2. We have fun time together every time we meet (but we meet only because of the project). I tease her a lot (getting too harsh rarely), we discuss project in a playful manner, taking funny roles, she asks me questions about me etc. She doesnt reject arm touches, close distance conversation (much closer than platonic) lower back touch when entering/leaving the area (though for some reason she rejects walking close by me when we go somewhere hip by hip)
3.She knows I date other women and Im not in a rush.
4.She is not sure if she attracts me or not. That is intentional. For multiple reasons.
5. She has no rational reason to work with me (it is not profitable SPAM and she didnt put too much effort in it) I even tried 'kicking' her out of it - she resisted, because she said that I am her friend and she is in to help me. On which I decided to go cold (text conversation, not exact words, translated):
'I appritiate you thinking that you are my friend. I'm sorry, but I can't tell the same thing, I don't feel we have established our friendship. For me you are just a little lady I know nothing about, except your name ) ' (in context of 'cute little lady') Yes I know being friends with woman is good etc. but I felt it was the right thing to do. I did not get emotional.
6. Whenever she tries to make me play her game she suffers immediate turn down or ignore.
7. She still has that boyfriend. Though it doesnt seem like she is too attached to him. He orbited her for a while and was in open competition with other guy (both of them and TDI knew there is a competition, which is kinda pathetic if u ask me...) and she chose him because other dude flew off abroad (well, typical TDI
)8. She does not talk about her boyfriend openly. Though mentions him rarely in context. She suffers loss of my attention if she does that. Tries to keep conversation going after that.
9. Sometimes when we seem to have fun texting she can start ignoring me. Sometimes I Ignore her )). But Minutes/hours later or the next day we talk like nothing happened.
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So what do you think about this mess? )) It's already too many variables as for me ://