I thought about telling her the following (through whatssapp) "Although I was really feelink like kissing you because ..(here I tell somethings to make her feel special: like because I felt so connected with you or stuff..) I did not because I did not want to hinder in your relationship (here I generate value for making myself more "harder" to accede, and I also reduce her slut-sense and blame). Then at the end I would say: "Sorry girl.. we getting laid will never happen that's impossible between us" (Again in a funny way I would increase my value and reduce her defenses)
(The message won't be like this one, and of course it all will be funny, with humor)

I am really interested in knowing your opinions

I would just play it cool. Verbally going back to a prior moment with a girl will usually not yield a result because although you, possessing a logical mind, can justify the explanation and it makes sense to you - she will not see it this way most likely because her actions are driven by emotion.

When you're with her again if she FEELS like kissing you she might kiss you. Don't try to explain it logically or you'll be cockblocking yourself.

Another thing to consider besides the bf is she may feel you're not that into her because you didn't make a move and now she is protecting herself with the shields because in a sense you "rejected" her.

Just keep it light and fun.

It's shit.

Like OceanX said, you're trying to logically convince a woman over text.

Everything you just wrote is needy. Women don't care about this stuff. They are over it, that night. Men tend to obsess over meaningless, small shit and scare women away.

Instead of explaining yourself over an issue she doesn't care about, show the balls you didn't have before:

You: Hey, I'm celebrating good news at my place tomorrow night with a movie. You're welcome to join.

If she declines, then you say: "Cool, have a good one".

Eventually, if she has any attraction for you, she'll love your leadership in getting her over to fuck, and then your chill indifference at her decline. This tactic will pull women on the fence to your side many times. They'll text you a few days or weeks later with a "hi" or something along those lines. Then you invite them over again, or for drinks.

it's right that it is an intend of logically justify myself, and that kind of stuff doesn't work, but it goes beyond. The main thing that it generates is Value/attraction for letting her know

Terrible.
This tells me you still don't get it. You're getting advice here, and ignoring it. You're too wordy and needy in your plans. And attraction is either there or it isn't. Words will not convince women to fuck you. The only thing that can is chill indifference.

You're reading too much bad PUA shit.

When I hear words like "display value", "kino", "raise attraction" I want to shake my head. That shit is either there, or it isn't. It can't be faked. The girl knows you're fuck material right away. It's your job to remain emotionally centered and fun (not clown or ass kissey court jester fun, but cool fun), and not fuck it up.

Your machinations are nothing more than your insecurity and fears protecting you from rejection.

Plow through that bullshit and just ask her to hang out, directly. This is what a dominant male does, and women pick up on this. It also tells them this guy is probably dominant in the bedroom, and in his career. He doesn't need to "tell" or "convince", he just shows by actions.

Bla bla bla bla. Your need to be hyper analytical and explain every facet of every possible angle is going to doom you with women if you don't change.


You: Hey, I'm celebrating good news tomorrow night at Bar X, 9 pm. You're welcome to join.
Her: Sorry, can't.
You: Cool, have a good one.

Then you game other women.


You: Hey, I'm celebrating good news tomorrow night at Bar X, 9 pm. You're welcome to join.
Her: Okay, sounds good.
You: Cool, see you there.

Then you escalate in person.


Everything else you are doing, everything else you are thinking or explaining, are machinations based on fear and insecurity to protect your ego from possible rejection.

Dominant males with abundance mentality push through, take action, and lead.


And quite honestly, if a woman is ignoring you on Whatsaspp repeatedly, stop contacting her, or you'll come off as a stalker. You left this relevant piece of information out.

Cause she acted less receptive than before, but kept messaging me first sometimes, whilst other times ignored me (even if she started the conversation first). So i started to wonder: what the hell is happening here? Does she want anything or not?

It is impossible to figure out women. All you can control is YOU, and give women the space they need to sort through things.

It's good that she reaches out to you sometimes. Don't contact her, and wait for her to reach out again. As soon as she does, ask her to meet. Be the direct and decisive guy you have not been! Follow my text examples in the above posts. Don't engage in boring chit chat. Ask her out immediately.