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Author:  BornInABurialGown [ Fri Dec 16, 2016 9:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Was this the right thing to do? Looking for tips/improvement

Yesterday I was in the library studying for a test. I saw an attractive girl from my class I recognized studying alone. I had the urge to approach her, but went through doubt/fear, but unlike usual, I decided to ignore it all and go talk to her. Interestingly enough, I didn't have as much fear as usual, I asked her how her studying was going, and then eventually, we migrated to two computers and studied together for a couple hours.

Today I waited around for her after the test, and talked to her. I wasn't quite sure where I was in her books, so I just clarified her name and said I'll add her to Facebook. On the positive note, I think I'm getting a lot more confident, and I'm amazed that I could get the courage to do this and last a few hours after approaching a stranger. On the flipside, there's a few things I'm a bit confused about.

Am I being too persistent and wolf-like in waiting for her after the test, and should I be initiating everything? Should I have asked for her number or to go out for coffee? I felt like I just met her and I didn't want to be creepy or screw something up with my classmate. Third, with classes done for the semester, what should I do next?

Cheers.

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Dec 16, 2016 9:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Was this the right thing to do? Looking for tips/improve

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wolf-like

Author:  BornInABurialGown [ Fri Dec 16, 2016 10:40 pm ]
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wolf-like
Thanks for your contribution.

Author:  Arch Stanton [ Fri Dec 16, 2016 11:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Was this the right thing to do? Looking for tips/improve

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so I just clarified her name and said I'll add her to Facebook.
Weak.

She's right there, man. Ask her out in person instead of hunting her down on Facebook.

Women are looking for masculine, dominant men who are not afraid of going after what they want.

A lack of confidence and leadership is a "tip off" to women. It says a lot of things about you, from lack of dominance in the bedroom to a more submissive nature. A man afraid to ask her out in person is a man who will ask "what position would you like next, sweetheart?" in bed when she just wants you to have your way with her.

Author:  DJ_Z [ Sat Dec 17, 2016 12:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Was this the right thing to do? Looking for tips/improve

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so I just clarified her name and said I'll add her to Facebook.
Weak.

She's right there, man. Ask her out in person instead of hunting her down on Facebook.

Women are looking for masculine, dominant men who are not afraid of going after what they want.

A lack of confidence and leadership is a "tip off" to women. It says a lot of things about you, from lack of dominance in the bedroom to a more submissive nature. A man afraid to ask her out in person is a man who will ask "what position would you like next, sweetheart?" in bed when she just wants you to have your way with her.
Arch you gotta remember a lot of us didn't learn that for a long damn time. It doesn't come up in high school sex ed.

OP, persistent is good. For instance, yeah normally you wouldn't want to stand there and wait for a girl to walk towards you. But in this case, you can't damn well interrupt an exam to hit on her without some legit consequences. Arch is ultimately right (delivery was a little on the negative side). It is actually easier to chat up a girl and go right into a date or a hookup than it is to chat her up, get contact info, then back off. Look at it like a really long video game that only has like two save points. You may as well try to beat the thing in one sitting, because if you turn the playstation off you lost a lot of the progress.

Not just for this girl, but every girl, try to go as far as you possibly can until she is outright saying no. Persistence, neediness, and creepiness are separated by thin lines, but you virtually always would rather go too far and learn from the experience than fear something that you don't know is going to happen.

Author:  BornInABurialGown [ Sat Dec 17, 2016 2:31 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Was this the right thing to do? Looking for tips/improve

That makes sense. Okay, I'll ask them for their number from now on, regardless of what I think the consequences will be.

Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sat Dec 17, 2016 2:39 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Was this the right thing to do? Looking for tips/improve

Hell yes. And that lack of fear gets them hot.

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