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"I just wanted to tell you I am dating somebody since recently, so when we hang out, I really cannot like kiss or do anything like that. I'd still like to hang out as friends!"

I am seeking an advice what to do ...

Early September 2016

Me and her met through Tinder for a coffee. We had blast, everything was perfect and went for a few dates. She is new in town, her family is 2000 miles away. We're about the same age 29. Unfortunately, she has been trying to fight lyme disease and is in serious debt. So I had started helping out, not financially but it'd pay for most of the things when we did things together.

Late September 2016

We go on 4th or 5th date and already had sex afterwards. I think the sex was good, but soon after she began to be distant. She does not reply to my calls or texts immediately. Sometimes it takes days.

Early October 2016

We don't see each other in person because the excuses are " I am busy", "a lot of work", "medical SPAM". We only exchange a few text messages in which I am called "too clingy". Allegedly due to her medical stuff she is cannot do anything romantic and is not looking to date anyone. And she loves her independence. I fly to Europe on business and coming back in the middle of November...

Late November 2016

We get back in touch and she "would love to see me".

Early December 2016

We go for a few "dates". We go on dinners for which I'd pay. Spent over $100 on her in the last 48 hours. Then we kissed, she was a bit hesitant. After the last dinner, I ended up at her place (was hoping to have another round of sex with her after some time). We did not have sex, but we kissed and cuddled a bit.

This morning I am getting a text from her:

Quote:

"I just wanted to tell you I am dating somebody since recently, so when we hang out, I really cannot like kiss or do anything like that. I'd still like to hang out as friends!"

I'm heartbroken hence I am putting this message together.

What did I do wrong?
Why does she continue to want to be friends?
What should I respond to that?

What did I do wrong?

Why does she continue to want to be friends?

What should I respond to that?

You sell ferraris at a car dealership. A guy comes in a few times gushing over the cars. Says he's on the market for a new car. He test drives a few for a couple of weeks. A month later you find out he bought a Honda Civic.

What did you do wrong?

Quote:

I'm heartbroken hence I am putting this message together.

What did I do wrong?
Why does she continue to want to be friends?
What should I respond to that?

Quote:

What did I do wrong?

She clearly told you. To girls clingy guys are like wedgies, they just can't pull them out of their ass fast enough and they won’t care who’s looking!

Quote:

Why does she continue to want to be friends?

So you can feed her.

Quote:

What should I respond to that?

ERROR CODE 404 THE PERSON YOU ARE TRYING TO REACH HAS ALREADY MOVED ON>

, it feels like there is nothing I can do about the situation then.

She clearly told you. To girls clingy guys are like wedgies, they just can't pull them out of their ass fast enough and they won’t care who’s looking!

So you can feed her.

Quote:

, it feels like there is nothing I can do about the situation then.

Cry.

Or sack up and try again.

ERROR CODE 404 THE PERSON YOU ARE TRYING TO REACH HAS ALREADY MOVED ON

Seriously send her that. Leave with some dignity.

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ERROR CODE 404 THE PERSON YOU ARE TRYING TO REACH HAS ALREADY MOVED ON

You didn't do anything wrong, she likely is just looking for no strings attached sex and that judging by how she was acting is not what you offer. Just find a different girl that is looking for a relationship.

Author:	Voght9 [ Fri Dec 09, 2016 4:02 pm ]
Post subject:	Advice on how to get her attracted again? Another boyfriend?
I am seeking an advice what to do ... Early September 2016 Me and her met through Tinder for a coffee. We had blast, everything was perfect and went for a few dates. She is new in town, her family is 2000 miles away. We're about the same age 29. Unfortunately, she has been trying to fight lyme disease and is in serious debt. So I had started helping out, not financially but it'd pay for most of the things when we did things together. Late September 2016 We go on 4th or 5th date and already had sex afterwards. I think the sex was good, but soon after she began to be distant. She does not reply to my calls or texts immediately. Sometimes it takes days. Early October 2016 We don't see each other in person because the excuses are " I am busy", "a lot of work", "medical SPAM". We only exchange a few text messages in which I am called "too clingy". Allegedly due to her medical stuff she is cannot do anything romantic and is not looking to date anyone. And she loves her independence. I fly to Europe on business and coming back in the middle of November... Late November 2016 We get back in touch and she "would love to see me". Early December 2016 We go for a few "dates". We go on dinners for which I'd pay. Spent over $100 on her in the last 48 hours. Then we kissed, she was a bit hesitant. After the last dinner, I ended up at her place (was hoping to have another round of sex with her after some time). We did not have sex, but we kissed and cuddled a bit. This morning I am getting a text from her: Quote: "I just wanted to tell you I am dating somebody since recently, so when we hang out, I really cannot like kiss or do anything like that. I'd still like to hang out as friends!" I'm heartbroken hence I am putting this message together. What did I do wrong? Why does she continue to want to be friends? What should I respond to that?

Author:	neo87 [ Fri Dec 09, 2016 4:11 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Advice on how to get her attracted again? Another boyfri
Quote: I am seeking an advice what to do ... Early September 2016 Me and her met through Tinder for a coffee. We had blast, everything was perfect and went for a few dates. She is new in town, her family is 2000 miles away. We're about the same age 29. Unfortunately, she has been trying to fight lyme disease and is in serious debt. So I had started helping out, not financially but it'd pay for most of the things when we did things together. Late September 2016 We go on 4th or 5th date and already had sex afterwards. I think the sex was good, but soon after she began to be distant. She does not reply to my calls or texts immediately. Sometimes it takes days. Early October 2016 We don't see each other in person because the excuses are " I am busy", "a lot of work", "medical SPAM". We only exchange a few text messages in which I am called "too clingy". Allegedly due to her medical stuff she is cannot do anything romantic and is not looking to date anyone. And she loves her independence. I fly to Europe on business and coming back in the middle of November... Late November 2016 We get back in touch and she "would love to see me". Early December 2016 We go for a few "dates". We go on dinners for which I'd pay. Spent over $100 on her in the last 48 hours. Then we kissed, she was a bit hesitant. After the last dinner, I ended up at her place (was hoping to have another round of sex with her after some time). We did not have sex, but we kissed and cuddled a bit. This morning I am getting a text from her: Quote: "I just wanted to tell you I am dating somebody since recently, so when we hang out, I really cannot like kiss or do anything like that. I'd still like to hang out as friends!" I'm heartbroken hence I am putting this message together. What did I do wrong? Why does she continue to want to be friends? What should I respond to that? You sell ferraris at a car dealership. A guy comes in a few times gushing over the cars. Says he's on the market for a new car. He test drives a few for a couple of weeks. A month later you find out he bought a Honda Civic. What did you do wrong?

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Dec 09, 2016 4:23 pm ]
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Quote: I'm heartbroken hence I am putting this message together. What did I do wrong? Why does she continue to want to be friends? What should I respond to that? Quote: What did I do wrong? She clearly told you. To girls clingy guys are like wedgies, they just can't pull them out of their ass fast enough and they won’t care who’s looking! Quote: Why does she continue to want to be friends? So you can feed her. Quote: What should I respond to that? ERROR CODE 404 THE PERSON YOU ARE TRYING TO REACH HAS ALREADY MOVED ON>

Author:	Voght9 [ Fri Dec 09, 2016 4:49 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Advice on how to get her attracted again? Another boyfri
Quote: You sell ferraris at a car dealership. A guy comes in a few times gushing over the cars. Says he's on the market for a new car. He test drives a few for a couple of weeks. A month later you find out he bought a Honda Civic. What did you do wrong? This is a good comparison. However, it feels like there is nothing I can do about the situation then.

Author:	neo87 [ Fri Dec 09, 2016 4:50 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Advice on how to get her attracted again? Another boyfri
Quote: Quote: I'm heartbroken hence I am putting this message together. What did I do wrong? Why does she continue to want to be friends? What should I respond to that? Quote: What did I do wrong? She clearly told you. To girls clingy guys are like wedgies, they just can't pull them out of their ass fast enough and they won’t care who’s looking! Quote: Why does she continue to want to be friends? So you can feed her. Quote: What should I respond to that? ERROR CODE 404 THE PERSON YOU ARE TRYING TO REACH HAS ALREADY MOVED ON> My bad missing the clingy part. Yeah what Haywood said

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Author:	Voght9 [ Fri Dec 09, 2016 4:55 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Advice on how to get her attracted again? Another boyfri
Quote: She clearly told you. To girls clingy guys are like wedgies, they just can't pull them out of their ass fast enough and they won’t care who’s looking! True. And tried to learn from that. But apparently, it did not help. Quote: So you can feed her. I hate that she did not bring the boyfriend thing earlier. Me thinking it was a date I paid for everything. She did not wanna treat me as a "free lunch" though. When it came to paying she was putting her credit card on the table, but I insisted with "it is my turn you can pay some other time".

Author:	Voght9 [ Fri Dec 09, 2016 4:57 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Advice on how to get her attracted again? Another boyfri
Quote: Quote: , it feels like there is nothing I can do about the situation then. Cry. Or sack up and try again. It is the feeling of being defeated which I hate more than anything. You know if I could just fuck her once more and leave her then, it would make me feel better

Author:	Voght9 [ Fri Dec 09, 2016 5:26 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Advice on how to get her attracted again? Another boyfri
Quote: Seriously send her that. Leave with some dignity. Quote: ERROR CODE 404 THE PERSON YOU ARE TRYING TO REACH HAS ALREADY MOVED ON It is funny but now seriously, should I send her exactly that? It conveys a message that "I am hurt". Another options are: 1) Respond nothing. 2) Respond something like "I understand and being friends is a good idea." 3) Respond something completely unrelated to what she sent me, ignore the last message and set up another "date". 4) Or respond with the 404 code after should I: A) delete her from Facebook and other social media B) NOT delete from Facebook and other social media At this point, I feel like she owes me something. So I feel like doing 3-B and set up another lunch/dinner and make her pay for it. The promise is that I will get free dinner - maybe, and that there might be a slim chance that she is bluffing with an imaginary boyfriend and only wants to see my reaction. Could that be a plausible scenario?

Author:	pumpington [ Fri Dec 09, 2016 8:02 pm ]
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You didn't do anything wrong, she likely is just looking for no strings attached sex and that judging by how she was acting is not what you offer. Just find a different girl that is looking for a relationship.

Author:	Voght9 [ Fri Dec 09, 2016 9:08 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Advice on how to get her attracted again? Another boyfri
Quote: You didn't do anything wrong, she likely is just looking for no strings attached sex and that judging by how she was acting is not what you offer. Just find a different girl that is looking for a relationship. Man, I would love "no string attached sex" !!! But now it is over I guess ...

Author:	Voght9 [ Fri Dec 09, 2016 10:14 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Advice on how to get her attracted again? Another boyfri
Heywood Jablowme had a good funny tip for a farewell message. Does anyone else have a better suggestion? I don't wanna necessarily burn bridges and I don't wanna look hurt. I don't wanna jump the gun. I am in between just leaving no response versus sending something like "have fun" and "I don't care" sort of.

Author:	Charity_ [ Fri Dec 09, 2016 10:30 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Advice on how to get her attracted again? Another boyfri
From a girl's perspective: Leaving your city is like breaking up with your boyfriend. You want to be in your new city and be free to explore all of your options. A new guy that tries to get serious is interfering with that exploration.

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