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| Author: | sam_magic [ Sat Dec 03, 2016 2:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | When to stop talking and let the girl chase me instead?? |
Hey guys, I am really frustrated with me having to talk and talk and talk and then just walk off. I do not know after what signals do I stop talking and let the girl talk and ask questions to me. I just do not know when to stop talking because the freeze outs or silences in a conversation seem to be bone crunching and I just end up avoiding them and start talking more and more. Please help! |
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| Author: | Nifty20 [ Sat Dec 03, 2016 7:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to stop talking and let the girl chase me instead?? |
Quote: Hey guys, I am really frustrated with me having to talk and talk and talk and then just walk off. I do not know after what signals do I stop talking and let the girl talk and ask questions to me. I just do not know when to stop talking because the freeze outs or silences in a conversation seem to be bone crunching and I just end up avoiding them and start talking more and more.
Some girls like silence every now and then, its okay. Its the vibe that you give off makes it whether or not the silence is uncomfortable. As long as you are comfortable with silence and she likes you, its all good. However, Its good to ask questions about her, her goals, ambitions, what makes her happy, and build from there to get her to talk. Please help! Not really know what you mean by talk and talk and walk off, for talking to girls on the street though, maybe just get the number, say what you need to say and leave (or invite her out then and there), the good questions should come at the date. |
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| Author: | Cross De Lena [ Sat Dec 03, 2016 9:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to stop talking and let the girl chase me instead?? |
You're over investing and you haven't even touched her, right? |
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| Author: | Arch Stanton [ Sat Dec 03, 2016 10:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to stop talking and let the girl chase me instead?? |
Quote: I just do not know when to stop talking because the freeze outs or silences in a conversation seem to be bone crunching and I just end up avoiding them and start talking more and more.
Bad. You should embrace the silence. Like the best music, the best game/courtship has spaces between the notes/action.Please help! Letting silence into the space between you two tells her you aren't a desperate clinger. And that you are a patient man. |
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| Author: | Finished [ Sun Dec 04, 2016 4:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to stop talking and let the girl chase me instead?? |
Quote: Bad. You should embrace the silence. Like the best music, the best game/courtship has spaces between the notes/action. Letting silence into the space between you two tells her you aren't a desperate clinger. And that you are a patient man. I believe you should approach every girl as though you were the employer of a fortune 500 company offering a position with a million dollar salary. Most guys make the mistake of putting the girl above them when they approach, and it automatically kills any chance that they have. I have to be honest, I've been guilty of this in the past, and every-time I myself or other guys I've witnessed have approached in the manner of OP, I've witnessed it go to shit, because she feels as though she is the prize, and that is not going to generate attraction. But the more I do pick up the simpler the process actually gets. It truly is enough to just approach, open, then once she's hooked, start asking qualifying questions as you relax and listen to her answers, get her talking and opening up, shut the fuck up and listen more. Quote: I just do not know when to stop talking because the freeze outs or silences in a conversation seem to be bone crunching and I just end up avoiding them and start talking more and more.
Approach stronger and ask better questions.
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| Author: | Arch Stanton [ Mon Dec 05, 2016 1:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to stop talking and let the girl chase me instead?? |
Also, you first have to provide value for the girl to chase you, and that usually comes after first-night-sex, or an emotional connection. When you make a woman orgasm, certain hormones are released that make her feel bonded to you. This is when you "dial back" and let her feminine energy take over and chase. And this is why having bedroom skills is so important. |
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| Author: | Autoregressive [ Mon Dec 05, 2016 6:58 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to stop talking and let the girl chase me instead?? |
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Its good to ask questions about her, her goals, ambitions, what makes her happy, and build from there to get her to talk.
This is a good starting point, OP, assuming you are having a "personal" conversation with her. To get her to ask you questions, you have to tell her about yourself and give her some glimpse into who you are. If she's into you, she'll ask for you to elaborate on various things. In a non-personal conversation, if she's interested in a topic, she should be talking pretty liberally back and forth with you. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Mon Dec 05, 2016 9:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to stop talking and let the girl chase me instead?? |
There girl isn't going to start chasing until you've imposed upon her consciousness that you're someone that she should follow. Leaders have followers.. Followers.. "chase the leaders". You'll know when its time to pull back because the girl will be competing with you for conversation space. You're probably just not making emotional connections with them women you're approaching. That can either correct itself through instruction or over time by you being consistent with the volume of your approaches. |
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| Author: | bluesunrise [ Wed Dec 07, 2016 8:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to stop talking and let the girl chase me instead?? |
This is a good question... Normaly when you leave a gap to let her invest you get the hook point cause when she speaks back that indicates you that she is willing to REENGAGE to keep the conversation going.The moment you have to let her talk is crutial but it is impossible to tell when exactly but you do it when you judge that with your talking you created enough amount of "social capital" with a particular girl. When I look in my personal notes there are 7 situations that indicate that she is into you so you can chill and let her game you... ■ Reengagement : we talked above ■ Emotion : When you look at the girl's eyes as If you are not hearing her words (like when you turn off the sound of the tv and watch the images) and observing her behaviours you ll notice in her eyes If she s into you even If she tells you the opposite ! ■ Justifying herself : to illistrate this I met a girl younger than me and I said her "ok so you are studying in university" she said "yes but I am in my last year and it s almost finished I m not that young"...then I understood that she says this to suit in me... ■ Compliance : When a girl does things for you & "obeying" you : leaning in / cooking / giving you something...ex: I talked to a girl occasionaly in the street and just after a few seconds a crowd seperated us after she stopped looked back and waited...this is compliance when you see this it s gold it can also be a walking set that you open by walking and after she slowes down...not because you did slow down but If she decreases her speed without you doing it...this is also compliance when you understand compliance you ll notice many of them when a girl likes you ■ Secretive complicity : If you have a something secret that only the girl and you know...you do it with physicality and eye contact ex : when a girl (even without smiling) locks eyes with you and you notice that in that environnement this thing is your secret this is a big indicator of "she is into you" ■ Get to know you in an authentic way : If a girl talks you not only to reengage but also to realy get to know you...I mean you see it in her eyes when she is realy curious and asking questions to realy getting to know you ■ When she shows intend : This is very rare but If you have a very chilled back game and you don t show intend verbaly the girls may do it also they do it when the situation is kinda urgent I mean fir example she has to leave early in the morning and she still wants to make it happen that night so she ll do things like showing intend to say you "we don t have much time take to lead and isolate me fast I like you" |
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