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Author:  Parcival [ Fri Nov 18, 2016 12:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Comfort vs Sexual
Hey people, There’s something on my mind I’d like your opinion on.

I’ve read somewhere that woman categorize men they are instrested in in one of two categories:

Sexual partner

Comfort partner

Now I think I’ve pretty much always been placed in Comfort, and I’m ok with that, I like relationships and the such.(not talking about friendzones) But what if I wanted to be categorized differently, what if I wanted to be the sexually interesting partner?

Woman pick up so many non-verbal que’s I’m not even aware I’m showing,  I feel like they will always categorize me as comfort, because that’s what I’m showing.

Could it be as simple as being sexual in the conversation, using innuendos and lots of Kino to show her I’m an Sexually interesting partner?

I think what I’m asking is:
How do you get girls to change from
“I want to date that guy and make love near the fireplace..”
to
“I want to fuck that guy! Tonight! In the bathroom of this crappy club!” ?

Any thoughts?

Yours, Parcival
Author:  DJ_Z [ Fri Nov 18, 2016 12:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
You have to be willing and able to convey sexuality very early on. Triangular gaze, picture yourself fucking a girl while you talk to her, speak relatively slowly, get closer and touch her (as appropriate, you just gotta know what's okay in a situation). Basically do not be afraid of her getting alarmed by you.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Fri Nov 18, 2016 2:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
I'm always the dude girls just want to bang. If girls want to get into a relationship with me, I just sprinkle a little personality in there. I always get girls sprung if I lay them.
Author:  itchybrother [ Fri Nov 18, 2016 4:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
Get in a bar fight and win.

Any chick in the place is yours for the taking.

True.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Fri Nov 18, 2016 4:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
Quote:
Get in a bar fight and win.

Any chick in the place is yours for the taking.

True.
Massively false, stupidly risky.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Fri Nov 18, 2016 4:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
Quote:
Quote:
Get in a bar fight and win.

Any chick in the place is yours for the taking.

True.
Massively false, stupidly risky.

Lol. Come on man, let some advice take its course
Author:  itchybrother [ Fri Nov 18, 2016 4:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
Quote:
Quote:
Get in a bar fight and win.

Any chick in the place is yours for the taking.

True.
Massively false, stupidly risky.
Of course it's stupid. But it's true. Remember: what women say, and what women respond to, are poles apart usually.
Author:  R.C [ Fri Nov 18, 2016 4:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
Quote:
Get in a bar fight and win.

Any chick in the place is yours for the taking.

True.
I mean if you're going for the kind of woman that's impressed by a bar fight sure. Take all of them as far as I'm concerned.
Makes the weedout process easier on me.

@OP if you wanna be seen as a sexual option you have to present yourself as such. So flirt, don't be afraid of expressing your own sexuality. Innuendos, teasing, that kind of stuff works magic.
Author:  Parcival [ Fri Nov 18, 2016 6:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
Thanks guys, i'll start punching guys and slapping butts this weekend! :lol:

Also, i'll experimenting with Kino. As I pretty much never did Kino before, I only did innuendos.
Author:  Charity_ [ Fri Nov 18, 2016 8:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
Fighting to fight is stupid. Fighting to protect a girl is good. In my opinion a guy that I see as sexy knows how to carry himself with the way that he walks. He can look me right in the eyes and I can tell that he knows what he's doing in bed and doesn't even have to say it. I don't know how to explain it but it's so hot and hard to ignore. A guy that's comforting is nice too, but most guys are comforting and it's no big deal. Comforting guys just have to catch me on the right day.
Author:  neo87 [ Fri Nov 18, 2016 8:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
Seen many bar fights. Not really a turn on for most chicks...you just look like the drunk guy. Plus you get kicked out of the bar. Starting bar fights is not a good strategy...you must be joking
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Fri Nov 18, 2016 9:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
Quote:

I think what I’m asking is:
How do you get girls to change from
“I want to date that guy and make love near the fireplace..”
to
“I want to fuck that guy! Tonight! In the bathroom of this crappy club!” ?

Any thoughts?

Yours, Parcival

1. Get a few muscles. Doesn't have to be body building competition level, but build up those shoulders and arms. Just like men drool over fit women with great bodies, women do the same. It just speeds seduction up. More women will fuck you or go down on you the first night.

As men become more and more feminine due to video games, shopping, and a couching lifestyle, those of us who work on building a masculine body have a tremendous advantage in terms of first night sex (a great body will not help you keep a girl if you're emotionally-uncentered, but it gets their pants off faster).


2. Don't kneel before her (tone of voice, body language, dumb comments).
3. Be congruent with your desires and escalate.
4. Let her talk 70% of the time.
5. Lots of eye contact.
6. Brutal honesty (probably the fastest way to get a girl comfortable with you).
Author:  Black Phantom [ Sat Nov 19, 2016 6:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
It really comes down to how quickly do you start talking sexually with a girl.

For example, 2 days ago I'm in this pub in London, and this hot blonde walks past me and looks
at me. She's looking for a chair.

She asks me, "Is this chair taken?"

I say, "Yea it is, but if you'd like to sit here you can...for a fee of course :)"

We start talking and I notice she has a thick south england accent. So I comment on it.

I say, "Wow your accent is really interesting. It turns me on in a weird way..." And I smile comfortably
while taking a sip of my drink.

At that point, I can see in her eyes the "Ohhh, this guy gets it."

She looks at my friend and smiles, and says, "Did you hear what he just say to me..."

But she liked it.

It was ON.

My point is you have to be willing to make a sexual comment as soon as possible.

The comfort zone she puts you in is when you talk too long about whatever, and never
make a comment that pushes you both out of that comfort zone.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sat Nov 19, 2016 11:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
Quote:

My point is you have to be willing to make a sexual comment as soon as possible.

The comfort zone she puts you in is when you talk too long about whatever, and never
make a comment that pushes you both out of that comfort zone.


Yep.
Author:  Parcival [ Mon Nov 21, 2016 10:31 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Comfort vs Sexual
Thanks People!

Off course I was joking about punching guys, it's not me so even if I win it will probably look patheticly out of character.

The answer seems simple enough,

Grow some muscles and find cloths to accent them.

Present yourself as a sexual option by:
Being honest about your desires
Escelating Kino, starting directly as you open
Being flirty as soon as possible
Displaying sexual interest non-verbally

Tough the answer seems simple, I get nervous only thinking about it. I dont mind opening that much, but for some reason getting flirty and Kino gets me in AA.. "i'll just have a nice conversation and start Kino&flirt once i'm comfortable"

Remembering the golden rule "she feels what you feel" I can clearly see my problem.

Apperently I fear getting sexual.

Thank you for helping me realize this.
Knowing the problem is half the battle,right? :)
And now to overcome sexual AA, any recommendations?

Yours
Parcival
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