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Author:  Nappl [ Tue Nov 01, 2016 7:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Not sure how to behave after 1st date with this girl
A few weeks ago I met a girl, exchanged numbers and we texted every now and then for a few weeks. After I asked for a date she was eager to go and we texted almost every day until the date itself happened, which was a period of about 10 days. We had a good first date, chatted for hours and she even talked about some really personal family business.

After the date I drove home and when I got there she already left me some messages: telling me she had a great time and wished me a nice weekend. Last saturday I texted her again, had a small chat and we agreed on having a second date next sunday.

Since then we havn't texted anymore. I'm not really that experienced yet with dating and I'm wondering what to do now. Before our first date she would basically ask me every day how my day was, and now it's been silent for several days.

Do you think the broken pattern means anything?

I basically have a few options:
* Try to setup a text conversation or call and talk about anything.
* Wait until saturday and then ask if we're still on for sunday.

Got any tips for me?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Nov 01, 2016 8:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure how to behave after 1st date with this girl
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I basically have a few options:
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Got any tips for me?
Get more options in your life.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Tue Nov 01, 2016 8:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure how to behave after 1st date with this girl
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A few weeks ago I met a girl, exchanged numbers and we texted every now and then for a few weeks. After I asked for a date she was eager to go and we texted almost every day until the date itself happened, which was a period of about 10 days. We had a good first date, chatted for hours and she even talked about some really personal family business.

After the date I drove home and when I got there she already left me some messages: telling me she had a great time and wished me a nice weekend. Last saturday I texted her again, had a small chat and we agreed on having a second date next sunday.

Since then we havn't texted anymore. I'm not really that experienced yet with dating and I'm wondering what to do now. Before our first date she would basically ask me every day how my day was, and now it's been silent for several days.

Do you think the broken pattern means anything?
You bored her to death with way, way too much texting and chit chat. You got friend-zoned because you didn't escalate on the date or remain mysterious. You acted like you were in a relationship with her before you even kissed her by checking up on her everyday.

Early on, it's so important to not smother the woman, and to give her space, while also leading sexually.
Author:  Nappl [ Tue Nov 01, 2016 8:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure how to behave after 1st date with this girl
She was the one who did most initiating in the days before our first date. I simply replied and she also kept the conversation going a lot of the times.

Yes, maybe I should have taken it further on the date itself. But she did agree to a second one, so it can't be completely bad, right? I can't believe that not kissing on the first date equals complete failure.
Author:  Curtis72 [ Tue Nov 01, 2016 9:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure how to behave after 1st date with this girl
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She was the one who did most initiating in the days before our first date. I simply replied and she also kept the conversation going a lot of the times.

Yes, maybe I should have taken it further on the date itself. But she did agree to a second one, so it can't be completely bad, right? I can't believe that not kissing on the first date equals complete failure.
If she was constantly initiating before the date, she was probably expecting you to return the favour on the date.

It's not the end of the world, but make sure to escalate on the second one.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Tue Nov 01, 2016 9:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure how to behave after 1st date with this girl
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She was the one who did most initiating in the days before our first date. I simply replied and she also kept the conversation going a lot of the times.
She must've really liked you. But somehow, you talked her out of it with too much texting . As men, we win in person with our posture, tone, and confidence.
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Yes, maybe I should have taken it further on the date itself. But she did agree to a second one, so it can't be completely bad, right? I can't believe that not kissing on the first date equals complete failure.

Many girls will agree to second date, and then never do it just to save the guy's feelings.

And yes, not going for the kiss on the first date IS pathetic, and makes you look like you either just want to be pals, or that you don't have a dick. Girls like sex, too.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Thu Nov 03, 2016 1:09 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure how to behave after 1st date with this girl
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I basically have a few options:
*
Got any tips for me?
Get more options in your life.

Lol, your advice has been simple but I think only seasoned vets will understand the implications of it.
Author:  neo87 [ Thu Nov 03, 2016 1:17 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure how to behave after 1st date with this girl
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A few weeks ago I met a girl, exchanged numbers and we texted every now and then for a few weeks. After I asked for a date she was eager to go and we texted almost every day until the date itself happened, which was a period of about 10 days. We had a good first date, chatted for hours and she even talked about some really personal family business.
Wow, way too slow. Its just talk talk talk. You spent weeks talking to then talk on the date? Keep the talk to a minimum, meet quickly, escalate on the date. If you are going to talk alot before, then on the date at least be physical after all that built up comfort.
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After the date I drove home and when I got there she already left me some messages: telling me she had a great time and wished me a nice weekend. Last saturday I texted her again, had a small chat and we agreed on having a second date next sunday.
More messages, and a second date scheduled far out. Why not just meet up soon?
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Since then we havn't texted anymore. I'm not really that experienced yet with dating and I'm wondering what to do now. Before our first date she would basically ask me every day how my day was, and now it's been silent for several days.

Do you think the broken pattern means anything?

I basically have a few options:
* Try to setup a text conversation or call and talk about anything.
* Wait until saturday and then ask if we're still on for sunday.

Stop talking so much, set dates sooner, and escalate. This is a guide on how to bore a chick.
Author:  Nappl [ Thu Nov 03, 2016 7:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure how to behave after 1st date with this girl
We couldnt find an available day sooner than sunday, unfortunately. Well I hope I can still make something out of this but if not, I'll keep it as a lesson to escalate much sooner next time. Thanks.
Author:  kathykit [ Fri Nov 04, 2016 1:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure how to behave after 1st date with this girl
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We couldnt find an available day sooner than sunday, unfortunately. Well I hope I can still make something out of this but if not, I'll keep it as a lesson to escalate much sooner next time. Thanks.
I wish you good luck.
Please just relax.
As I am a girl, Sometime I would be really happy that you really care about me.
But you need to leaves her some sapces.
Try to listen to her feelings.
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