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Author:  Ricardo999 [ Wed Oct 12, 2016 10:36 am ]
Post subject:  First date went really well but hardly any contact since?
Approached a girl in the supermarket weekend before last....she is at least a 8/10 - early thirties I'd say. Half English/Dutch. She seemed totally gobsmacked that I asked her out. (I was pretty direct). She did mention that she had split up from her ex four months ago and "it was a long story". She seemed to think that me approaching her was some kind of joke! Anyway she says she hasn't got her phone on her but gave me her number. A few hours later I tex her say 5-6 times before asking her when we can meet. Next day she says we cannot meet as I haven't made enough effort getting to know her by text! Anyway I manage to turn it around next day and after a few getting to know you texts we arrange to meet. I pick her up and we hit it off in the car straight away. No awkward silences.

The date goes pretty well, I am repeatedly making her laugh, and she is subtly touching me all evening. She does go to the ladies twice, and both times she forgot her phone and came back for it. (Actually as soon as we arrived at the venue her phone did ring- I did ask her "Why don't you just turn it off" - she then turned the sound down). She did mention a couple of times (in a jokingly way) if that supermarket was my normal hunting ground and she also said "I don't do dates - not boasting but normally the guy would fall for me and then we date".

I drop off her off, she talks and says " I don't know how to end this date".....I simply said "Come here" and kissed her. I then say I will tex her the next day - she looks at me like a piece of shit. next day I msg her saying I had a great time she says the night was "wicked" - thats a UK phrase for great/brilliant. I ask if I can see her again ans she says "yeah sure", I ask when she is free and I hear nothing back. That was Sunday and not heard a peep since. I will stress that I am still socialising and chatting to other girls in the meantime but I would appreciate anybodys input on this situation.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Oct 12, 2016 1:32 pm ]
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Why didn't you push further on the date?
Author:  Ricardo999 [ Wed Oct 12, 2016 1:46 pm ]
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Why didn't you push further on the date?
Well I just went with the flow, we kissed and then she got out the car.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Oct 12, 2016 2:40 pm ]
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Why didn't you push further on the date?
Well I just went with the flow, we kissed and then she got out the car.
Did she ask to go right home?
Did she not want you to come in?
Author:  Ricardo999 [ Wed Oct 12, 2016 3:25 pm ]
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Why didn't you push further on the date?
Well I just went with the flow, we kissed and then she got out the car.
Did she ask to go right home?
Did she not want you to come in?
Yes and no. After the kiss I said "I will be in touch tommorow" and she sneered at me - as if to say "Yeah right"
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Thu Oct 13, 2016 12:03 am ]
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I drop off her off, she talks and says " I don't know how to end this date".....

You:

"I do".



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I simply said "Come here" and kissed her. I then say I will tex her the next day - she looks at me like a piece of shit.

Nice.
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next day I msg her saying I had a great time she says the night was "wicked" - thats a UK phrase for great/brilliant. I ask if I can see her again ans she says "yeah sure", I ask when she is free and I hear nothing back. That was Sunday and not heard a peep since. I will stress that I am still socialising and chatting to other girls in the meantime but I would appreciate anybodys input on this situation.


Dude.

Dude.

Asking a girl over text if you can please see her again is really freaking weak Just set a date. Lead.

Don't do anything, game other women until you hear back from her. I smell princess syndrome here, and she wants your attention, bad. Don't be like her orbiters. Bail. She can come to you.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Thu Oct 13, 2016 2:16 am ]
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Yes and no. After the kiss I said "I will be in touch tommorow" and she sneered at me - as if to say "Yeah right"

That's an insecure line. It shows that your fearful she won't text you again, so you're trying to set something up on the first date.
Author:  Ricardo999 [ Thu Oct 13, 2016 8:47 am ]
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I drop off her off, she talks and says " I don't know how to end this date".....

You:

"I do".



Quote:
I simply said "Come here" and kissed her. I then say I will tex her the next day - she looks at me like a piece of shit.

Nice.
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next day I msg her saying I had a great time she says the night was "wicked" - thats a UK phrase for great/brilliant. I ask if I can see her again ans she says "yeah sure", I ask when she is free and I hear nothing back. That was Sunday and not heard a peep since. I will stress that I am still socialising and chatting to other girls in the meantime but I would appreciate anybodys input on this situation.


Dude.

Dude.

Asking a girl over text if you can please see her again is really freaking weak Just set a date. Lead.

Don't do anything, game other women until you hear back from her. I smell princess syndrome here, and she wants your attention, bad. Don't be like her orbiters. Bail. She can come to you.
I did not, and never would say "please" with regards to women as this looks too needy. I agree about the Princess syndrome though. I intend on gaming other women anyway. I'm just confused with this whole situation. Any by kisisng her - well I thought this was a good way to end the date.
Author:  Ricardo999 [ Thu Oct 13, 2016 8:53 am ]
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Yes and no. After the kiss I said "I will be in touch tommorow" and she sneered at me - as if to say "Yeah right"

That's an insecure line. It shows that your fearful she won't text you again, so you're trying to set something up on the first date.
I didn't set up anything specific at the end of the first date. I don't normally say anything but because she said that when I approached her I came across as Alpha but on the tex's not so much I got totally confused with the whole situation.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Thu Oct 13, 2016 11:49 am ]
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She doesn't like you as much as you like her. She might like you
.... but there are other guys. And a job. And a family. And the gym. And whatever else she's got going on in her life that she just doesn't have time for you.

My guess is she isn't sure how to telll you nicely that you didn't make the cut so ignoring you is easier.

Think of it as if you went on a date with a nice fat girl.
Author:  Ricardo999 [ Thu Oct 13, 2016 1:31 pm ]
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She doesn't like you as much as you like her. She might like you
.... but there are other guys. And a job. And a family. And the gym. And whatever else she's got going on in her life that she just doesn't have time for you.

My guess is she isn't sure how to telll you nicely that you didn't make the cut so ignoring you is easier.

Think of it as if you went on a date with a nice fat girl.
Thats fair enough. She doesn't have a job by the way.....says she sells "bits and bobs" via e-bay.
Author:  neo87 [ Thu Oct 13, 2016 1:53 pm ]
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Make it happen ON THE DATE. Not over text the day after. Next time, invite yourself up.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Thu Oct 13, 2016 4:00 pm ]
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I did not, and never would say "please" with regards to women as this looks too needy.

When you ask if you can see a woman again, "please" is inferred. Just lead and make a date, don't ask permission. That's Nice Guy Syndrome.

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Any by kisisng her - well I thought this was a good way to end the date.

It is. But she might not have liked the kiss. This is so important for women.
Author:  Ricardo999 [ Thu Oct 13, 2016 5:44 pm ]
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I did not, and never would say "please" with regards to women as this looks too needy.

When you ask if you can see a woman again, "please" is inferred. Just lead and make a date, don't ask permission. That's Nice Guy Syndrome.

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Any by kisisng her - well I thought this was a good way to end the date.

It is. But she might not have liked the kiss. This is so important for women.
How do you know that she wasn't a crap kisser......I've had better :-)
Author:  Ricardo999 [ Thu Oct 13, 2016 5:46 pm ]
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Make it happen ON THE DATE. Not over text the day after. Next time, invite yourself up.
Ok.....but tbh I'd be worried that she might say/think "So are youi after only one thing"...
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