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Author:  Curtis72 [ Sat Oct 08, 2016 10:37 am ]
Post subject:  Awkward after approaching girl
Usually in a club, I'll say to a girl "You have a nice smile" or something along those lines. They generally say "I try" and then the conversation stops and she goes away. I can work with it if she continues the conversation after the compliment, but if she just accepts it I get pretty stumped. Any help?
Author:  kidfromcro [ Sat Oct 08, 2016 11:24 am ]
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why do you wait for her to talk,just continue
Author:  bartm [ Sat Oct 08, 2016 3:35 pm ]
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why do you wait for her to talk,just continue
this is right. according to kezia noble, the problem with most guys that compliment is that they wait there like a dog waiting for a treat.
"you have a nice smile" (give me my treat)
it comes off needy.
girl goes away.


instead, just continue. "you have a nice smile. what's your name?"

also, some people disagree with me but i hate compliments as opening lines. i think it's better to guess something about her. "you must be european, are you european?" this way, she starts wondering "what vibe am i giving off that this guy thinks i am european" and she won't go away like the first scenario.
Author:  JackZero [ Sat Oct 08, 2016 4:04 pm ]
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also, some people disagree with me but i hate compliments as opening lines.
How well do you do with women? Bart, start getting consistent, positive results with women before you start telling people what works and what doesn't.
Author:  Curtis72 [ Sat Oct 08, 2016 4:19 pm ]
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also, some people disagree with me but i hate compliments as opening lines.
How well do you do with women? Bart, start getting consistent, positive results with women before you start telling people what works and what doesn't.
What's your opinion overall on the thread?
Author:  JackZero [ Sat Oct 08, 2016 4:35 pm ]
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also, some people disagree with me but i hate compliments as opening lines.
How well do you do with women? Bart, start getting consistent, positive results with women before you start telling people what works and what doesn't.
What's your opinion overall on the thread?
The advice of just keep talking is correct. Don't look for your compliments to give you permission to continue.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Sat Oct 08, 2016 11:18 pm ]
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Usually in a club, I'll say to a girl "You have a nice smile" or something along those lines. They generally say "I try" and then the conversation stops and she goes away. I can work with it if she continues the conversation after the compliment, but if she just accepts it I get pretty stumped. Any help?
That's why leading with a compliment is generally bad. As soon as you get her attention, you gotta try to draw her in. A quick cold read is great for that.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sun Oct 09, 2016 2:38 am ]
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why do you wait for her to talk,just continue
this is right. according to kezia noble, the problem with most guys that compliment is that they wait there like a dog waiting for a treat.
"you have a nice smile" (give me my treat)
it comes off needy.
girl goes away.


instead, just continue. "you have a nice smile. what's your name?"

also, some people disagree with me but i hate compliments as opening lines. i think it's better to guess something about her. "you must be european, are you european?" this way, she starts wondering "what vibe am i giving off that this guy thinks i am european" and she won't go away like the first scenario.

I just had to lol at this.
Author:  R.C [ Sun Oct 09, 2016 8:38 am ]
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Don't talk with the intent of getting a reaction out of women. If you do you limit yourself.
Author:  Curtis72 [ Sun Oct 09, 2016 4:26 pm ]
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Don't talk with the intent of getting a reaction out of women. If you do you limit yourself.
I was doing it mainly as a way of starting the conversation and stating my intent and it worked better for me than other approaches I tried. I thought you were suggesting something similar in your texting guide:

"You tell her exactly why you're there, how she looks half-cute and you how you wanna know her name."

What would you propose to open with otherwise?
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sun Oct 09, 2016 7:49 pm ]
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Usually in a club, I'll say to a girl "You have a nice smile" or something along those lines. They generally say "I try" and then the conversation stops and she goes away. I can work with it if she continues the conversation after the compliment, but if she just accepts it I get pretty stumped. Any help?

Argh.

You: "Hey, what's your name?"

If she gives you her name and then asks yours, engage further. If she doesn't ask your name, bail.
Author:  JackZero [ Sun Oct 09, 2016 7:56 pm ]
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Usually in a club, I'll say to a girl "You have a nice smile" or something along those lines. They generally say "I try" and then the conversation stops and she goes away. I can work with it if she continues the conversation after the compliment, but if she just accepts it I get pretty stumped. Any help?

Argh.

You: "Hey, what's your name?"

If she gives you her name and then asks yours, engage further. If she doesn't ask your name, bail.
Good advice. Handsome man advice, but it's solid.
Author:  Curtis72 [ Sun Oct 09, 2016 10:46 pm ]
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Usually in a club, I'll say to a girl "You have a nice smile" or something along those lines. They generally say "I try" and then the conversation stops and she goes away. I can work with it if she continues the conversation after the compliment, but if she just accepts it I get pretty stumped. Any help?

Argh.

You: "Hey, what's your name?"

If she gives you her name and then asks yours, engage further. If she doesn't ask your name, bail.
The issue is that if I ask a girl her name it's a little under 50/50 she'll tell me, whereas if I compliment her eyes for instance I'll nearly always get a positive response, like her asking me to dance. I've done enough approaches to know which one is more effective.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sun Oct 09, 2016 10:51 pm ]
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It seems like you're contradicting your original post for ego protection.
Author:  Curtis72 [ Sun Oct 09, 2016 10:59 pm ]
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It seems like you're contradicting your original post for ego protection.
I've no reason to protect an ego on an anonymous site where I'm asking for help. People were suggesting a different approach and I was pointing out that it hadn't worked. If it works for you then that's all fine and dandy.

There's no contradiction in my stance, with compliments the girl will generally accept them nicely and possibly she may extend the conversation.

If I ask her name however, half the time they'll pretend not to hear me/ask why I'm asking/give a dodgy look.
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