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Author:  tankfrank48 [ Mon Oct 03, 2016 4:31 pm ]
Post subject:  She 'totally forgot' our date
I have been out with this girl 6x's already. I text her on a Wednesday to make plans for Saturday. She enthusiastically responded with exclamation points, emojis, and how that 'sounds fun'. I set things for Saturday, she said she can make it (though I didnt give a specific time yet) and she continued the conversations asking me about things giving ;) emojis etc. All seemed good.

There is no contact between us until I message her early Saturday letting her know what time I can pick her up that night. She replied "ugh I totally forgot :( " and then "im sorry' nothing else. I replied "its ok no worries" (trying not make a big deal out of it) and nothing else from her. No suggestion for rescheduling, or saying some other time, or asking when Im free. No signs she wanted to converse or see me after 'forgetting'. There was no contact either way for a week after this until I text her a pic today that was an inside joke between us to test the waters. Her response "aww thats great haha!". Her reply didnt suggest she wanted to engage in convo so I didnt reply.

So it appears her interest is dropping. But I'm confused why when we're dating, things are going well, and she eagerly accepts the next date she all of a sudden 'forgets' our date and goes cold. Should I actually believe she forgot? (she is busy starting a brands new full time job beginning September and takes classes 3 nights a week also so shes a lot busier now then when we started dating in the summer). Regardless if you are truly feeling someone you don't 'forget' when you can see them again. Is she just too busy with other things in life that dating isnt a priority now? I plan to leave things alone and not message her until she reaches out to me. Any other insight or advice how to proceed would be appreciated. Thanks guys.
Author:  masterm1ne [ Mon Oct 03, 2016 4:50 pm ]
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You did fine - give it some space and time. You're right, when you're really into someone, you don't just forget. I forget about girls I'm not interested in too. Keep yourself busy and productive. It's not really that helpful to dwell on this one. Keep moving forward.

I wish my words will cure you but the fact is there truly are plenty more girls out there. More than we can imagine.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Mon Oct 03, 2016 5:08 pm ]
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Quote:
'forgets' our date
Means she got a better option. Girls don't forget about dates with guys they are interested in.
Author:  nr32 [ Mon Oct 03, 2016 5:13 pm ]
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It's not ok. I would never tell a girl who forgets a date that "it's ok" cause fuck that. Always be honest with yourself and her. I would've said "you're so mean, you're not cool anymore" but the stuff I say is in accordance with who I am. Say what you really feel, not shit to try to get a reaction like "playing it cool" (I hate that phrase). BE cool with your emotions and say what you mean. Don't be needy for her approval, be willing to completely lose this one.
Author:  JackZero [ Mon Oct 03, 2016 5:25 pm ]
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I hate to ask this question...but did you attempt to have sex with her yet?

I know a lot of the naysayers will say that it's okay if you haven't but without sex (or without attempting to have sex) as adults all you two are is friends.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Mon Oct 03, 2016 6:24 pm ]
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Word. Did you attempt any physical escalation at all ? After the first date the girl can tell whether you're gonna be a sexual presence or just another chump. Girls don't like wasting time on things going nowhere and will not talk to you if you fail to make a good first date escalation.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Mon Oct 03, 2016 10:16 pm ]
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Girls want men to lead. 6 dates, no escalation and her blowing off the last one mean's she's off to find a dominant male.

Always, always respect your time, AND a woman's. She's in it for romance and passion. Act like you belong.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Mon Oct 03, 2016 11:04 pm ]
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Quote:
Word. Did you attempt any physical escalation at all ? After the first date the girl can tell whether you're gonna be a sexual presence or just another chump. Girls don't like wasting time on things going nowhere and will not talk to you if you fail to make a good first date escalation.
A girl wants to be around a guy who can make her feel sexy. There's nothing more potent to female attraction than being desired by a guy they feel some sort of an attraction to. If you can't do that, women's attraction fades rather fast and they'll simply give the next guy a chance who is willing to stoke that flame.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Oct 04, 2016 1:29 pm ]
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Have you guys slept together?
Author:  tankfrank48 [ Tue Oct 04, 2016 5:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She 'totally forgot' our date
Met her on tinder. Our dates included activities like zip lining, paddle boarding, 2 times at beach, seeing a band she likes at a bar, out for food, exploring top of a lighthouse. The bar and one of the trips to beach included 1 or 2 female friends of hers and she invited me out to those activities. Our texting communication over this time was usually reserved to setting dates and included infrequent small talk. I was usually the one reaching out to her but she was always eager and readily available to set time and meet up for all the dates we did go on. She did the same for this last one just as she had always did so it was surprising 3 days later she 'totally forgot' and that was it.

I never got the vibe from her she was totally committed to investing or seeking more then casual dating. She came across to me as a bit guarded and protected and not willing to get into anything serious at this time. She told me she ended her previous relationship because she felt 'trapped' and wants to live and see whats out there. Realizing this I never pushed things to develop too hard and just text her to set dates and then just hang out, have fun, and hook up. Thought the hooking up never got beyond kissing and touching. She seemed unready when I tried escalating. We kissed on every date but on third date when I first tried to make out with her she pulled back and seemed surprised. This caught me off guard as she had told me a number of times throughout the date she was having such a good time with me. I had been playful putting my arm around her and smacking her butt a few times on this date and previous ones so I had done some touching.

This isnt the first time she forgot something though. When planning our fourth date she did immediately agree but text me back later that day she forgot she had already promised to babysit, but she followed that up with offering another day. The follow up and offering of the other day didnt happen this time. She's a teacher so its easier to reschedule during the summer then it is now. She does has limited free time now due to teaching full time and classes 3 nights also. I realize though if she really liked me she would make time and wouldnt forget. Her interest in me and in dating right now does not seem to be a priority in her life. Work, school, friends, and exploring life take precedence for her right now and that sucks for me since I liked her.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Tue Oct 04, 2016 6:18 pm ]
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And none of this sounds to you that maybe she wants some sex but wants to worry about relationships later ? Come on bro, less boyfriend shit and more lover shit. She sounds busy and she wants that body at night here and there.
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