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Author:  Aitch1 [ Thu Sep 29, 2016 12:19 pm ]
Post subject:  how to overcome limiting beleif
whenever I go to speak to average asian girls, I have 0 approach anxiety and am much more persistent. however whenever I go to speak to non asian 9s and 10s, I am much more likely to back out, and even when I do approach them I take anything they say as a sign of rejection and eject.

So It seems I have this inner belief that I am not good enough for the 9s and 10s even tho I logically know I am. Has anyone had similar limiting believes in the past? and how did you overcome them?
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Thu Sep 29, 2016 1:58 pm ]
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Just surround yourself with them. Talk to the waitresses, hostesses, bartenders which are usually attractive women. You'll get use to chatting with them and it won't be a big deal. Talking to hired guns is a good way to desensitize yourself to them.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Thu Sep 29, 2016 3:13 pm ]
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Go sarge.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Sep 29, 2016 8:36 pm ]
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I am not good enough for the 9s and 10s
You are asking the wrong question. Ask yourself if THEY are good enough for YOU.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Fri Sep 30, 2016 12:00 pm ]
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Everyone has limited beliefs that are overcome by pushing consistently themselves beyond there comfort zones and boundaries. Now of course affirmations and self talk can make things slightly easier, but its never going to completely destroy the anxiety or discomfort. When you want something in life, you have to step outside of yourself, get uncomfortable and make it happen.

Working out doesn't "feel good" at first, eating healthier doesn't feel good at first, neither doesn't approaching women. But after pushing and doing so consistent you will see and feel the results. I'll post quote below that could help you a tad, but this is all apart of the game. Pushing through discomforts will separate the successful from the unsuccessful.
Quote:
“I will act now. I will act now. I will act now. Henceforth, I will repeat these words each hour, each day, everyday, until the words become as much a habit as my breathing, and the action which follows becomes as instinctive as the blinking of my eyelids. With these words I can condition my mind to perform every action necessary for my success. I will act now. I will repeat these words again and again and again. I will walk where failures fear to walk. I will work when failures seek rest. I will act now for now is all I have. Tomorrow is the day reserved for the labor of the lazy. I am not lazy. Tomorrow is the day when the failure will succeed. I am not a failure. I will act now. Success will not wait. If I delay, success will become wed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person.”

― Og Mandino
Author:  New-Dawn [ Fri Sep 30, 2016 12:54 pm ]
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I agree with the advice given and i'd like to add something.

Exposure to the things you are afraid of, is a good way of overcoming said fear, but it's not guaranteed. It depends on how you'll interpret the results. In other words, exposure is meant to give you a more rational view of things (they don't bite, kill you, the World does not end, etc). But if your beliefs are so fucked up, that you interpret the rejections as "I KNEW IT/ i'm not rich enough/good looking enough" and the successes as "just luck", you don't actually alter anything in your subconscious. You'll need so much experience in this way that it becomes a huge burden.

At least that has been my experience. Just the though of having to go for 58748 approaches to get over some anxiety gave me a world of anxiety lol. So i started with fixing some poor beliefs i had through rational statements. In a little bit of time, rational statement become beliefs, and true beliefs show. I'm yet to ever go sarging and i'm having dates and fun through people i meet at work, online and social circle.

EDIT: this goes for more then just seduction; there are areas of life where exposure is limited by definition and beliefs are the key, like job interviews, talking with people of "superior" social standing, etc.
Author:  bartm [ Fri Sep 30, 2016 4:32 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how to overcome limiting beleif
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It seems I have this inner belief that I am not good enough for the 9s and 10s

There is no "good enough" because that implies someone is better than someone else.
nobody is better than you, nobody is worse than you. the concept of better and worse is meaningless if you think about it. if you see 2 dogs, is one dog better than the other? how do you decide which dog is better?
is my neighbor's dog better than my cell phone? that comparison is meaningless. is one human better than another? meaningless comparison.
Author:  New-Dawn [ Fri Sep 30, 2016 5:37 pm ]
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It seems I have this inner belief that I am not good enough for the 9s and 10s

There is no "good enough" because that implies someone is better than someone else.
nobody is better than you, nobody is worse than you. the concept of better and worse is meaningless if you think about it. if you see 2 dogs, is one dog better than the other? how do you decide which dog is better?
is my neighbor's dog better than my cell phone? that comparison is meaningless. is one human better than another? meaningless comparison.
No offence mate, but that is a very good example of a bad belief. It sounds good, but it's irrational, and so it will never become a belief :)

No matter how much you will try to convince yourself that no body is better then you at anything, the reality will prove you different.
Author:  bartm [ Fri Sep 30, 2016 6:33 pm ]
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No offence mate, but that is a very good example of a bad belief. It sounds good, but it's irrational, and so it will never become a belief :)

No matter how much you will try to convince yourself that no body is better then you at anything, the reality will prove you different.
ok, since you said "no offence" I won't get offended.

I never said nobody is better than you "at" anything. my mechanic is better than me at diagnosing and fixing cars. i thought perhaps the op thinks he is not good enough because other men are better (meaning superior) than him.

well, obviously, we also have a supply and demand thing going on here, the 9s and 10s have more men flocking to them, some of which have great game so op's game needs to be better than theirs.
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