PUA Forum :: What do you when a date goes horribly wrong?

so i had a date that went terribly wrong yesterday.met the chick took her to a lounge.we didn't have any alcoholic drinks because it was a bit early.she was engaging and laughing all the time.we talked about literally everything.she sexualized the conversation(a hint i thought that meant she was down for it).After that we hit another place kept talking,fun conversations etc.

Then it got very late.

i tried to bounce her to a motel nearby.she asked why.

i said we will have a private conversation.

she flat out refuses gets mad and demands i take her home.

so i take her home.she was pissed off while i was dropping her off kept complaining and saying i got the wrong idea .she doesn't do stuff like that(i guess sex on the first date) and that we are only 'friends"

when i was dropping her off she was literally pissed off.I am tempted to apologize because she seemed like a nice girl but every time i apologized to a woman it never went well.What do you suggest? or what would you do if a woman turned down your sexual advances?

UPDATE:she texted me asking about how am doing.says she can meet up again if i won't try and do what i did the last time lol.i just laughed it off and changed the topic.How to take it from here

Did she texted you on her own?

If so, she's still interested.

I don't think you would want to make friend with somebody creepy.

I still hold to my opinion that you went too aggressive without escalating further.

If I were you, I'd try to understand from her words if she's friendzoning you.

Because from your words you didn't escalate kino, you didn't even kiss her and then told her to go to a motel to speak..

UPDATE:she texted me asking about how am doing.says she can meet up again if i won't try and do what i did the last time lol.i just laughed it off and changed the topic.How to take it from here

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UPDATE:she texted me asking about how am doing.says she can meet up again if i won't try and do what i did the last time lol.i just laughed it off and changed the topic.How to take it from here

Who texted who first?

UPDATE:she texted me asking about how am doing.says she can meet up again if i won't try and do what i did the last time lol.i just laughed it off and changed the topic.How to take it from here

Author:	matador of fun [ Fri Sep 02, 2016 5:48 pm ]
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so i had a date that went terribly wrong yesterday.met the chick took her to a lounge.we didn't have any alcoholic drinks because it was a bit early.she was engaging and laughing all the time.we talked about literally everything.she sexualized the conversation(a hint i thought that meant she was down for it).After that we hit another place kept talking,fun conversations etc. Then it got very late.i tried to bounce her to a motel nearby.she asked why.i said we will have a private conversation.she flat out refuses gets mad and demands i take her home.so i take her home.she was pissed off while i was dropping her off kept complaining and saying i got the wrong idea .she doesn't do stuff like that(i guess sex on the first date) and that we are only 'friends".she moved away when i earlier tried to kiss close her while we were in the lounge(i thought then maybe she wants to kiss but it is a lounge and she wants some more privacy.her body language was facing towards me always and she kept gazing at me and that made me think she was DTF). anyway to summarize,the date was fun until i tried bouncing her to a motel.when i was dropping her off she was literally pissed off.I am tempted to apologize because she seemed like a nice girl but every time i apologized to a woman it never went well.What do you suggest? or what would you do if a woman turned down your sexual advances?

Author:	Aqualol [ Fri Sep 02, 2016 7:04 pm ]
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How was the kino escalation? I mean, did you tried to bounce her to a motel before kissing/touching, ecc? If yes, that's obvious what was wrong.

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Sep 02, 2016 7:06 pm ]
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A little rapey? I think you creeped her out Bro. You put her in a state of suspicion and uncertainty in a her mind regarding your inappropriate and obscene sexual intentions. Now she's wondering about your current legal status as a sex offender. No comfort. Fail.

Author:	JackZero [ Fri Sep 02, 2016 7:08 pm ]
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Did she know it was a date?

Author:	Arch Stanton [ Fri Sep 02, 2016 10:23 pm ]
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Quote: so i had a date that went terribly wrong yesterday.met the chick took her to a lounge.we didn't have any alcoholic drinks because it was a bit early.she was engaging and laughing all the time.we talked about literally everything.she sexualized the conversation(a hint i thought that meant she was down for it).After that we hit another place kept talking,fun conversations etc. Too many places, IMHO. I know a lot of dudes recommend a "multi date experience" on the first date in an effort to simulate three dates (thus increasing the chance for sex) but I find it doesn't work on high value women who have jobs. Get to the point, and be charming and playful while doing so. Quote: Then it got very late. She was tired. You needed to do this WAY earlier. Quote: i tried to bounce her to a motel nearby.she asked why. Her: "Why the hotel?" You (with a warm smile/look): "It's been a long day, I'm up for relaxing a bit." Quote: i said we will have a private conversation. Way to creep her out, dude. Quote: she flat out refuses gets mad and demands i take her home. Combination of her not being turned on enough and you not being very smooth. Quote: so i take her home.she was pissed off while i was dropping her off kept complaining and saying i got the wrong idea .she doesn't do stuff like that(i guess sex on the first date) and that we are only 'friends" You had her early on, then fumbled badly, and she friend zoned you. Quote: when i was dropping her off she was literally pissed off.I am tempted to apologize because she seemed like a nice girl but every time i apologized to a woman it never went well.What do you suggest? or what would you do if a woman turned down your sexual advances? DISAPPEAR. Wait to hear from her. Game other women in the mean time. Don't ever bring that up again, she will have likely forgotten, and the good things about you will erase the bad. Women don't hang onto minor things/past events as long as men do.

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Author:	BigTim [ Fri Sep 02, 2016 11:27 pm ]
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- Escalate faster. See where you at. - Change that "we will have private conversation" line. Aside from that, I don't see any mistakes from what you wrote. It is not your fault that you wanted to fuck her. Don't apologize for being a sexual person, that's the worst thing you can do now. That girl either likes you, but want a relationship(she wants to be sure that you don't think she's a slut). Basically, she wants you to know that she is LTR material. Or she just wants you as a friend. But the real question is what do you want? Because if you just want to bang her, women can smell that miles away. So if that's the case, you better next her. Decide what you want and act according to that.

Author:	matador of fun [ Sat Sep 03, 2016 11:14 am ]
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UPDATE:she texted me asking about how am doing.says she can meet up again if i won't try and do what i did the last time lol.i just laughed it off and changed the topic.How to take it from here

Author:	JackZero [ Sat Sep 03, 2016 2:19 pm ]
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Quote: UPDATE:she texted me asking about how am doing.says she can meet up again if i won't try and do what i did the last time lol.i just laughed it off and changed the topic.How to take it from here Why didn't you tell her that you weren't interested? She told you that you guys were only friends.

Author:	n2thevoid [ Sat Sep 03, 2016 2:24 pm ]
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Welcome to the friendzone, Mr. Creepy.

Author:	Aqualol [ Sat Sep 03, 2016 6:44 pm ]
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Did she texted you on her own? If so, she's still interested. I don't think you would want to make friend with somebody creepy. I still hold to my opinion that you went too aggressive without escalating further. If I were you, I'd try to understand from her words if she's friendzoning you. Because from your words you didn't escalate kino, you didn't even kiss her and then told her to go to a motel to speak..

Author:	JackZero [ Sat Sep 03, 2016 6:50 pm ]
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Quote: Did she texted you on her own? If so, she's still interested. I don't think you would want to make friend with somebody creepy. I still hold to my opinion that you went too aggressive without escalating further. If I were you, I'd try to understand from her words if she's friendzoning you. Because from your words you didn't escalate kino, you didn't even kiss her and then told her to go to a motel to speak.. Again, why accept spending time with someone who called you just a friend? Sure, she may or may not be interested in him, but there is power in saying that we are not on the same page. If she does like him, she will change her attitude on the LJBF stance in order to go out with him again. If she isn't interested, she is less likely to waste his time.

Author:	Arch Stanton [ Sat Sep 03, 2016 9:12 pm ]
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Quote: UPDATE:she texted me asking about how am doing.says she can meet up again if i won't try and do what i did the last time lol.i just laughed it off and changed the topic.How to take it from here Who texted who first?

Author:	Arch Stanton [ Sun Sep 04, 2016 4:40 am ]
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Quote: UPDATE:she texted me asking about how am doing.says she can meet up again if i won't try and do what i did the last time lol.i just laughed it off and changed the topic.How to take it from here Why would you change the topic? She texted you first and told you she can meet up again! The whole point of texting is to arrange a meet up. Get the off the phone after you set a firm time and place. Her: "don't pull any of that funny stuff the next time we meet up" You: "haha, I'll try my best, plus I know a cool bar...."

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