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| Author: | textbook [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 3:36 am ] |
| Post subject: | What is the best way to ask out a girl on a date |
I know this HB7 from class, we talk and i am really interested in her. how would i approach asking her out on a date or should i even ask her on a date at all? |
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| Author: | dman [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 6:37 am ] |
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forget about dates, too much pressure/expectations just hang out together the two of you |
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| Author: | trackjunkie [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 10:38 am ] |
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start by asking her what she's doing this weekend.. she will most likely have plans, if she sounds a little interested you can say something like "you better reschedule we're going rafting" that will get her attention for sure and you can base what you say next on it. But it shows confidence and dhv and spontaneous, all things girls love she will say one of these "family plans/funeral/birthday/wedding" in which you can play it off like a joke and say "hah well i wasn't entirely serious, but we should get together for coffee before class" "yah..i dunno" you can use the same response "ohh that sounds interesting" hopefully you can number close this, and tell her you'll call her. If she doesn't have plans, go out..but as the pickup artist say don't pay for anything until you f-close. |
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| Author: | nosferatu [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 5:13 pm ] |
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yea screw dates. maybe after a few times hanging out and if you actually like the girl. otherwise it's rather afc. the last time i took a girl out on a date she bailed on me right after to go hang with some other dude and that's when i vowed to stop being such an afc and NEVER pay for girls. this is 2008, women can pay for themselves. plus if you're in college, girls typically aren't looking for a husband, just something to have fun with. enjoy it and go with it. tell her she has to help you grocery shopping or cooking something or to come over for a movie or my favorite, hookah and homework. |
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| Author: | undefined [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 7:55 pm ] |
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Damn that brings me back, form experience ill tell you, EVEN if the girl shows enough IOI, to the point your 110% sure she likes you, DONT, (first of all screw dates in general), ...but if you insist, FIRST, and trust me on this, BUILD comfort with her to the point where you can kino her anytime, ex: when you see her you can come up to her and hug her, a big warm hug not some shy hug, kiss on the cheek and touch, grab her arm waist, etc, CONSTANTLY, you should also be able to talk to her all the time and best of all feel comfortable with her(if you don't in class, it'l be worse anywhere else) I made the mistake of asking a girl out to a date on valentines, I know she liked me, but because of my shyness I barely talked to her and felt so akward, in short, it was a disaster, I don't talk to her... I think dates should be more of when you'r going out with her. But again if you insist, try to keep it original and MOST of all build COMFORT with her first... Good luck =) |
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| Author: | tk750 [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 10:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: What is the best way to ask out a girl on a date |
Quote: I know this HB7 from class, we talk and i am really interested in her. how would i approach asking her out on a date or should i even ask her on a date at all?
Mistake #1: "I'm really interested in her"First off, you're not supposed to show your interest. It's like playing poker, don't show your cards. Instead try to be deceptively playful, kino escalating and keeping her guessing. A strange phenomena, that I see happen definitely to women and myself, is that when a girl who I previously thought was cute shows too much interest in me, I begin to lose interest. It's not a challenge anymore. No thrill. You've gotta let go, be loose and playful, and have a good energy. You can do anything with her as long as you have that energy. Try to see the positive things to it, and DO NOT DO NOT invest yourself too much into her. If she blows you off, which she probably will if you're the whole sensitive type, I would suggest looking at the positive side and see how there are so many other HBs. Remember, this girl is not all that. She's normal with her flaws. It sounds like you're making the same mistakes as me. Just let go and be free. Let it flow. Mistake #2: Don't overthink. Just do it. I have a problem with this a lot. I contemplate too much about my next move, thinking about all the possible obstacles which may come up. Just be smooth and while talking and laughing (you've gotta at least make her smile), just be like "Hey, let's go out this blah blah blah to blah blah blah." Don't give her a chance to say yes or no. If she makes some excuse, use this line which works pretty well: "You've gotta do what? Cancel it, I'm much more fun!" Possible Mistake #3 Don't ask her out to dinner and a movie. Way cliche. Go for something more unique. I believe that there was a really good thread about first date ideas. You're gonna have to look it up. I remind you, I'm not an expert, but I have my fair share of experiences. |
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| Author: | tk750 [ Fri Apr 04, 2008 10:11 pm ] |
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Quote: forget about dates, too much pressure/expectations
You're two statements are contradicting. just hang out together the two of you And secondly, dates are a good way to escalate. And you know what they say about pressure. If you can't take the heat, get out of the oven. Lol, or something like that. Pretty corny but it conveys my point. |
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| Author: | textbook [ Sat Apr 05, 2008 1:10 am ] |
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thanks alot, i am going to hang out with her this weekend. we are playing volleyball with couple of other people. I think this is a good chance for me to build on comforts with her. |
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