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Author:  requiem11 [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 2:49 pm ]
Post subject:  After hooking up, she steped back.

Hi everybody. I'm from Argentina, my name is Juan. So i'll try to use my best english.

Been studing pick up for a lot of years, not like super intense. But I know the basics and a bit more. I have a situation and I would like to have some other guys opinion, so I'll make it short, and clear.

5 Days ago, I added a girl on FB, we chatted a lot and like each other. The next day she invited me to see a band, with some female friends of her. which was cool. Had a couple of drinks, and the night was ok, nothing happend there. 1 Am I walk with her to her house, suddenly we're kissing. And she invites me to her dorm. She is the kind of girl that would NOT do this.
We had a blast, great sex, and she said all kids of stuff like she really liked me, we should see each other again.

Next day, via text, she didn't regret it. But seemed super cold. I started to ask some question about she was really interested or not, cause I liked her. And then she started saying stuff like "you think too much, I liked you. we will see each other again, dont worry, bla bla".
Been 2 days since she doesn't talk to me, or anything. I may have given the impression of being just a little needy, I felt it.

So what do you guys think? I must give her time? is she giving excuses to dissappear? maybe she had regrets for being so "slutty" the first time. She has personal issues? Or something else? What should I do. I don't wanna talk to her cause it will be super needy again. But if I do, what could I say that doesnt look like needy.

Hope someone understands and can help me.

Much love to all the pua comunity.

Juan

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 3:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

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She is the kind of girl that would NOT do this.
Don't fucking kid yourself, they ALL would do this. That's why she was DOING IT!
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I started to ask some question about she was really interested or not, cause I liked her. And then she started saying stuff like "you think too much, I liked you. we will see each other again, dont worry, bla bla".
Been 2 days since she doesn't talk to me, or anything. I may have given the impression of being just a little needy, I felt it.

Your needy vibe punched your cool guy vibe in the balls.

Instead of saying something needy AF, say something sexy, like; "So many dirty thoughts today…you inspired them all ;)"

Author:  requiem11 [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 4:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

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She is the kind of girl that would NOT do this.
Don't fucking kid yourself, they ALL would do this. That's why she was DOING IT!
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I started to ask some question about she was really interested or not, cause I liked her. And then she started saying stuff like "you think too much, I liked you. we will see each other again, dont worry, bla bla".
Been 2 days since she doesn't talk to me, or anything. I may have given the impression of being just a little needy, I felt it.

Your needy vibe punched your cool guy vibe in the balls.

Instead of saying something needy AF, say something sexy, like; "So many dirty thoughts today…you inspired them all ;)"
Ok, maybe she would do it. What i meant is that she is the "good" kind of girl.
I asked her out on saturday already. she said she got plans, but maybe sunday or monday we could MAYBE. Don't know what's going to happen. I think I will wait till sunday to see if she writes. If not, I'll write her to hook up, if she doesn't want or "can't" I'll cry in a corner :(
Why do they do this, she really enjoyed me. I've read about this, and lived it also, but you know, sometimes it just hits you again like the first time. Btw she was gorgeus, almost out of my league, that's why I'm also acting like this. Jesus christ, I registered in a forum, which I didnt do like since 2012.
Thanks a lot mate.

Still open to other suggestions.

Author:  Arch Stanton [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 4:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

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And she invites me to her dorm. She is the kind of girl that would NOT do this.
We had a blast, great sex, and she said all kids of stuff like she really liked me, we should see each other again.
That's pedestal thinking. She did do it, and does.

Stop seeing her as a princess, and see her for what she is: a wild animal who fucked you on the first night. Respond accordingly, be the fun guy.


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Next day, via text, she didn't regret it. But seemed super cold. I started to ask some question about she was really interested or not, cause I liked her. And then she started saying stuff like "you think too much, I liked you. we will see each other again, dont worry, bla bla".
I'm assuming you contacted her the very next day and brought up the insecure "do you regret it" talk. This gives off a vibe that you don't do well with women ( not saying you don't, it's just the vibe).

in the "you think too much" line, SHE is acting like the man, and you the woman. She's trying to calm your feminine nervousness.

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Been 2 days since she doesn't talk to me, or anything. I may have given the impression of being just a little needy, I felt it.
Felt it? It's smeared across everything you posted.

Give it a week and let her contact you. You need a Needy Cleanse. This may allow the sex and good time memories to override your nervous womanish texting.

If she does not contact you, casually invite her out six days from now.

Author:  requiem11 [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 5:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

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And she invites me to her dorm. She is the kind of girl that would NOT do this.
We had a blast, great sex, and she said all kids of stuff like she really liked me, we should see each other again.
That's pedestal thinking. She did do it, and does.

Stop seeing her as a princess, and see her for what she is: a wild animal who fucked you on the first night. Respond accordingly, be the fun guy.


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Next day, via text, she didn't regret it. But seemed super cold. I started to ask some question about she was really interested or not, cause I liked her. And then she started saying stuff like "you think too much, I liked you. we will see each other again, dont worry, bla bla".
I'm assuming you contacted her the very next day and brought up the insecure "do you regret it" talk. This gives off a vibe that you don't do well with women ( not saying you don't, it's just the vibe).

in the "you think too much" line, SHE is acting like the man, and you the woman. She's trying to calm your feminine nervousness.

Quote:
Been 2 days since she doesn't talk to me, or anything. I may have given the impression of being just a little needy, I felt it.
Felt it? It's smeared across everything you posted.

Give it a week and let her contact you. You need a Needy Cleanse. This may allow the sex and good time memories to override your nervous womanish texting.

If she does not contact you, casually invite her out six days from now.
You hit me hard bruh. Thank you, you are right. I slipped with my neediness.
Hate to find myself in this situations, 'cause I've been here before. And relapsing is shit, but I'll take it like another lesson. Thanks again, really helped me.

Author:  n2thevoid [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 5:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

This is so bizarre to me guys stepping back and getting in their heads after they fuck a girl.

After I fuck a girl all bets are off, I'm grabbing her ass in public, telling her how I'm going to pound her little tight twat, taking her home pulling her pants down and licking her snatch like a child to an ice cream cone.

What's wrong with these guys?! They start catching feelings and acting all needy when they just need to keep doing what they're doing and she'll at some point ask "where's this going/what are 'we'?"

Author:  requiem11 [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 5:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

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This is so bizarre to me guys stepping back and getting in their heads after they fuck a girl.

After I fuck a girl all bets are off, I'm grabbing her ass in public, telling her how I'm going to pound her little tight twat, taking her home pulling her pants down and licking her snatch like a child to an ice cream cone.

What's wrong with these guys?! They start catching feelings and acting all needy when they just need to keep doing what they're doing and she'll at some point ask "where's this going/what are 'we'?"
Have you ever been in the position where you know what you have to do, but sadly it's more clear when other people point it out?
Sometimes I think I want to be in a relationship, and other times I think I want to be happy. lol
thanks for the hard words and insight, I need more discipline.
I won't contact her again.

Author:  n2thevoid [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 5:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

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This is so bizarre to me guys stepping back and getting in their heads after they fuck a girl.

After I fuck a girl all bets are off, I'm grabbing her ass in public, telling her how I'm going to pound her little tight twat, taking her home pulling her pants down and licking her snatch like a child to an ice cream cone.

What's wrong with these guys?! They start catching feelings and acting all needy when they just need to keep doing what they're doing and she'll at some point ask "where's this going/what are 'we'?"
Have you ever been in the position where you know what you have to do, but sadly it's more clear when other people point it out?
Sometimes I think I want to be in a relationship, and other times I think I want to be happy. lol
thanks for the hard words and insight, I need more discipline.
I won't contact her again.
LEAD more and u'll notice women making it MUCH easier for you.

Author:  requiem11 [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 5:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

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This is so bizarre to me guys stepping back and getting in their heads after they fuck a girl.

After I fuck a girl all bets are off, I'm grabbing her ass in public, telling her how I'm going to pound her little tight twat, taking her home pulling her pants down and licking her snatch like a child to an ice cream cone.

What's wrong with these guys?! They start catching feelings and acting all needy when they just need to keep doing what they're doing and she'll at some point ask "where's this going/what are 'we'?"
Have you ever been in the position where you know what you have to do, but sadly it's more clear when other people point it out?
Sometimes I think I want to be in a relationship, and other times I think I want to be happy. lol
thanks for the hard words and insight, I need more discipline.
I won't contact her again.
LEAD more and u'll notice women making it MUCH easier for you.
The thing is exactly that. I LEAD, that's how I get them. But it seems that, after I get a really good match. I automatically want to have her, and be sure she really wanted me, this is some insecure self crap, I know. That's what I have to work. SECURITY goddamit. But I'm good with women, I know how to play hard, and so on. I have women behind me who constanstly want to have sex with me, wich I have had sex, but dont want anymore, but they're still there, and I treat them like the master pua 3000. But when a really cute and nice girl comes into game, im fucked. Any other suggestions?

Author:  n2thevoid [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 5:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

You know them all of a few days or weeks and already saying they're a good match? I'd ask yourself why you do this, because there's no way you truly know someone in such a short span of time. You're just wanting something so fast, and it looks thirsty so i'm not convinced you're truly leading at all, rather you're acting as a guy who leads but the facade drops fast and they see the neediness fast.

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 6:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

Not every girl wants a relationship, most just want some good company, some good sex, and somebody they vibe well with.

Not a guy that would hack off a finger and tape it to the toilet seat, just so he can touch that ass one more time.

Author:  n2thevoid [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 6:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

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Not every girl wants a relationship, most just want some good company, some good sex, and somebody they vibe well with.

Not a guy that would hack off a finger and tape it to the toilet seat, just so he can touch that ass one more time.
It never grew back eh.

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 6:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

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Not every girl wants a relationship, most just want some good company, some good sex, and somebody they vibe well with.

Not a guy that would hack off a finger and tape it to the toilet seat, just so he can touch that ass one more time.
It never grew back eh.
She sewed it back on.

Author:  requiem11 [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 6:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

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You know them all of a few days or weeks and already saying they're a good match? I'd ask yourself why you do this, because there's no way you truly know someone in such a short span of time. You're just wanting something so fast, and it looks thirsty so i'm not convinced you're truly leading at all, rather you're acting as a guy who leads but the facade drops fast and they see the neediness fast.
I believe I can read the people at some degree. She was nice, interesting, beautiful, smart. You know what I mean, It's not that I'm in love with her, I sensed her as a good match. That's why I showed more interest than usual, also I felt like she gave me the space to do so. I was wrong clearly. Sometimes I forget that women can make a 180º change.
But you are kinda right, I am looking for an intimate close up really fast. and that probably is a problem with myself. Maybe I'm asking how I can work on that.
Thanks for your words and time

Author:  JackZero [ Fri Aug 12, 2016 6:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: After hooking up, she steped back.

The problem is that guys don't remain consistent to what they've presented themselves as at the beginning. Most of the time what happens is that there is a realization of "I got her and now I need to hold on". It happens the moment she is on the hook, and like someone who has never been fishing, they fight to reel her in instead of continuing to do what was successful in the first place.

OP, go back and look at the initial messages that you sent her on FB, think about how you acted when you guys were out and ended up having sex, then read the messages you sent her the day after having sex. My guess is that you will see that you aren't acting like the same person she originally started chatting with. That type of personality shift is unattractive.

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