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Author:  LandoShred [ Tue Aug 02, 2016 10:10 am ]
Post subject:  Thoughts on Approaching at Work

Recently I've had to get a bunch of new clothes from various outlets. This includes business clothes and some "professional" casual clothes. I dress very sharp, and enjoy high quality things (think Hugo Boss, Versace, Banana Repub, etc). I'm preparing to start a new gig at a major brokerage, and am definitely bringing my A-game.

Anyway, since I've been out at these stores I pretty much always notice attractive women working at the front desks or in the aisles etc. I don't always have to come in contact with them to buy what I want, but I won't hesitate to approach if I'm interested.

It's pretty natural to get conversation going with all the different material to draw from. And I can usually tell if they're interested or not right away. I've had a pretty good success rate at getting digits too, right around 50%.

But I'm wondering if you guys have any suggestions to get through that "Oh - I need to be professional barrier." I completely understand if a woman's boss is around. But when that's not the case, I feel like this is a barrier I need to smash with an iron hammer (preferably one made from my own power of will).

Many of the women who are most respectable, interesting and/or attractive seem to get stuck in this sort of mental rut. Sometimes I can even tell they're interested, but they purposely decline - even regretfully... I can definitely respect a woman's work ethic, though it is irksome when it gets in the way for seemingly no reason.

Any tips to offset the "wall of professionalism."

Author:  Marauding Pillager [ Tue Aug 02, 2016 5:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Thoughts on Approaching at Work

Hmm, you shouldn't shit where you eat.

If you must, use them as target practice, nothing more (no sex, nothing). Then you take it and apply to the outside world. That's what I think

Author:  Cross De Lena [ Wed Aug 03, 2016 9:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Thoughts on Approaching at Work

Cmon... It's obvious your pick up tactics need more work, no women will decline mans offer if you cause tingles down there.

From what I can see from text, maybe you already got a label as "smooth talker" or guy who tries to pick every women in the office.

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Aug 03, 2016 3:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Thoughts on Approaching at Work

I'm reading this as approaching while they are at their place of employment not your own. You want to ask retail sales girls out.

Ask for assistance - Major flirting that she responds to - Ask her out. Right there, just as you plan to leave, away from prying eyes and ears.

Just be chill about it. Not all gamey, but relaxed and non committal. "Hey, you're a lot of fun. Would you like to see me again?"

Just be normal, and keep it simple. It will go a long way.

Author:  JackZero [ Wed Aug 03, 2016 3:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Thoughts on Approaching at Work

Yeah...the op is not talking about women at his place of business. I usually don't like talking to women while they're working. It's like putting them in a hostage situation.

Author:  R.C [ Wed Aug 03, 2016 3:52 pm ]
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Yeah...the op is not talking about women at his place of business. I usually don't like talking to women while they're working. It's like putting them in a hostage situation.
Kinda this.

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Aug 03, 2016 4:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Thoughts on Approaching at Work

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Yeah...the op is not talking about women at his place of business. I usually don't like talking to women while they're working. It's like putting them in a hostage situation.
I understand the "Hostage" vibe thing, don't do that. There's a way to creep a girl out by asking her, and there's a way to make her day.

If your are being a normal guy, flirting with a cute girl, and she is reacting in a positive manner, asking her to hang out is the next natural move.

Author:  JackZero [ Wed Aug 03, 2016 4:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Thoughts on Approaching at Work

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Yeah...the op is not talking about women at his place of business. I usually don't like talking to women while they're working. It's like putting them in a hostage situation.
I understand the "Hostage" vibe thing, don't do that. There's a way to creep a girl out by asking her, and there's a way to make her day.

If your are being a normal guy, flirting with a cute girl, and she is reacting in a positive manner, asking her to hang out is the next natural move.
I'm not saying that you can't be normal. She's just in a bad position if she's really not interested because she has to react positively no matter how you present yourself. I'm pretty sure that I may have passed on women that have been working but I'd rather talk to the girl that has the option of not being nice so I'm sure I'm getting a genuine response.

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Aug 03, 2016 4:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Thoughts on Approaching at Work

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I'm not saying that you can't be normal. She's just in a bad position if she's really not interested because she has to react positively no matter how you present yourself. I'm pretty sure that I may have passed on women that have been working but I'd rather talk to the girl that has the option of not being nice so I'm sure I'm getting a genuine response.
No argument.

Jack, you are well aware yourself, most cute girls never get hit on. Swear to god. Or if they do, it's by the sleaziest of guys who hit on anything and are totally disgusting about it. Like "Damnnnn girl! Dat sum fine ass."

I'm saying if you should decide this is a girl I'd like to try, and this would be your only opportunity, that the above suggestion is how "this guy" would go about it.

Author:  LandoShred [ Thu Aug 04, 2016 1:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Thoughts on Approaching at Work

Quote:
I'm reading this as approaching while they are at their place of employment not your own. You want to ask retail sales girls out.

Ask for assistance - Major flirting that she responds to - Ask her out. Right there, just as you plan to leave, away from prying eyes and ears.

Just be chill about it. Not all gamey, but relaxed and non committal. "Hey, you're a lot of fun. Would you like to see me again?"

Just be normal, and keep it simple. It will go a long way.
Thanks for your thoughts man. This has been almost my exact approach. I don't expect anything out of these women, and a lot of times they'll come over to me, even if I've already been helped by the manager or whomever.

I'll make more of an effort to keep things noncommittal/relaxed as you suggested. Sometimes I can come off as a bit intimidating, though that's certainly not my intention

Author:  Dragula [ Thu Aug 04, 2016 1:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Thoughts on Approaching at Work

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Yeah...the op is not talking about women at his place of business. I usually don't like talking to women while they're working. It's like putting them in a hostage situation.
Kinda this.
RC seduces all his co workers lol

Author:  LandoShred [ Thu Aug 04, 2016 5:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Thoughts on Approaching at Work

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I'm not saying that you can't be normal. She's just in a bad position if she's really not interested because she has to react positively no matter how you present yourself. I'm pretty sure that I may have passed on women that have been working but I'd rather talk to the girl that has the option of not being nice so I'm sure I'm getting a genuine response.
No argument.

Jack, you are well aware yourself, most cute girls never get hit on. Swear to god. Or if they do, it's by the sleaziest of guys who hit on anything and are totally disgusting about it. Like "Damnnnn girl! Dat sum fine ass."

I'm saying if you should decide this is a girl I'd like to try, and this would be your only opportunity, that the above suggestion is how "this guy" would go about it.
Really appreciate the comments from all you guys! When I meet these women, it's literally my only chance. I will more than likely never see them again.

I'll just keep doing my thing and chalk up the "no-gos" to being their loss at this point. What I was trying to express though, is there seems to be a particular mindset where a woman will truly want to give me her number, but something in the back of her mind says "This is wrong. I'm at work." I can try to be a little bit more playful, but I doubt that will make too much of a difference. Adding a more casual air, while making an indirect push might be the best way to go.

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Aug 04, 2016 6:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Thoughts on Approaching at Work

If you don't take the chance, you won't have a chance.

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