I met with a business colleague, she is a Chinese woman. I'd known her only on the phone but we met a couple of months ago in person. we met only once at a coffee shop and talked for like an hour. she is married and she is ugly and not my type.
a couple of days ago I was talking to her on the phone and she asked "what happened with those dating apps that you were trying? did it get anywhere?"
I said no, I didn't match with anyone.
she said "but those apps are for people looking for just sex. you don't strike me as the type of guy that would want that. you seem to be the type of guy that would want a long term relationship with one girl"
I am sad because it's a little true. how did she figure that out?
also, I was talking to this gay guy and telling him of my problems and he said "you seem unapproachable and closed. you need to be more open."
when I asked what an open person looks like, he said he can't explain it in words, it's just a feeling he gets.
I am not sure what to make of these revelations?
was the gay guy bullshitting or can you tell if someone is open or closed within one minute of meeting them?
how can I be more approachable?