PUA Forum :: What's wrong with this girl? (Never experienced this ever)

This is a girl with some mental problems, she never had lots of friends, uses more besides alcohol and already tried to kill herself in the past (And for some reason i like these type of girls because i think i should help them or something, cant explain)

, i know most of the responses here are gonna be "Delete her" etc. But can anyone give some insight on whats going on here? Did i do someting wrong or is she just 100% crazy?

You think she will come back to me and appologize again? If so what should i do?

and eventually another guy will come along who doesn't tolerate her neediness and she'll fall hard for him and leave you broken.

Do you have other options ? I am highly doubting you just keeping it on a sexual level.

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Do you have other options ? I am highly doubting you just keeping it on a sexual level.

Yes, Girl2 i was talking about in my story, but if possible i would like Girl1 too for sexual purposes then,

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Do you have other options ? I am highly doubting you just keeping it on a sexual level.

Yes, Girl2 i was talking about in my story, but if possible i would like Girl1 too for sexual purposes then,

a girl that told you she is worried about guys just using her you now want to just use? dont be a cunt.. find another girl

My first intentions with this girl was to NOT use her and see where things would go

Then after all this finding out she is just crazy.. Im not sure it would be the right idea to go for something serious

In an ideal world she would change her behaviour and we could have a normal relationship but thats just not gonna happen

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Lol...you only like her because she is crazy. If she becomes normal and doesn't seem like she needs saving anymore, you'll probably lose interest.

Author:	JohnDigwood [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 5:31 pm ]
Post subject:	What's wrong with this girl? (Never experienced this ever)
So i can literally post 20 pages of information about this situation but im going to try and sum it up as quick as possible Note: This is a girl with some mental problems, she never had lots of friends, uses more besides alcohol and already tried to kill herself in the past (And for some reason i like these type of girls because i think i should help them or something, cant explain) -Met girl at a festival, she was alone so she went with our group, after this started going to festivals more with our friend group -I get interested, i show interest, she says she just wants to have a good time within the group and doesn't want to get intimate with anyone because she wants to stay in it -We are at a afterparty after a festival, im with another girl (Lets call her Girl2). Girl1 starts crying all of the sudden and leaves -1 Day later Girl 1 and me are both bored and went to the movies ( i assumed just as friends) during the movie she starts getting close to me and cuddling me, after the movie she said that she started crying the other time because i was with Girl2 all the time and not with her. I asked her if she changed her mind about not wanting to get intimate with me, she said "I didn't change my mind i just lied" So she was interested in me, we dated a couple times then all of the sudden this text conversation happens: Girl: Something is bothering me, the thing that i told you that i started crying about you being with Girl2 i take that back because to be honest i didn't give a shit about that , you're basically just a slut or something Me: A Slut? Girl: You use people, im done with this i can't deal with people , this is my choice, goodbye Me: Okay. And just for the record: I didn't hang out with you with the intention to use you, if you would keep hanging out with me you would realise this is the truth. Anyway, let me know if you change your mind. 7 hours later Girl: Sorry im really sorry about everything i don't know why i acted like that So we talk things out and date a few times again, we have a good time and we had sex The day after sex i go on vacation, a week later i come back and texted her if she wanted to go to a festival, she said she didn't sleep all night the day before so she couldn't go so i went by myself, then this conversation happens: Girl: Are you free tomorrow? Me: Yes Girl: Wanna hang out Me: Yes sure, anything specific in mind? Girl: No not really, Girl: But if you don't want to fine 1 Hour later ( didnt respond fast because i was at a festival) GIrl: Nvm Me: Yeah lets do something, not sure how i'll feel tomorrow after the festival so lets just decide tomorrow what exactly we're gonna do! Girl: No not okay, have fun at the festival Me: Just come to my place tomorrow and we'll decide there what we wanna do! With me its always fun so should be ok Sends picture of festival Then she ignores the first thing i said and starts talking about the festival couple hours later this: Girl: Why didn't you tell me you went to the festival alone? You could have told me Me: You didn't want to do anything anymore because you didn't sleep, so i figured i'd go alone, why do you mind? Did you want to come? Girl: No but you're acting weird Me: What's weird? Girl: Im gonna sleep first and see if i still find it weird tomorrow, goodnight x Me: Goodnight After this she saw on facebook that my ex-Gf was at the same festival as well ( i wasn't with her, i was by myself, i did saw her and said hello on a normal way but thats it) So now she's thinking that i went with her and that we were together blabla, i told her clearly i wasn't with her and that i didn't even wanted to be She didn't talk with me for 2 days so i was kinda tired of it and send this: Me: The way things are going now im kind of getting tired of it. I only have good intentions with you and all i want is to have a good time with you. The way you speak and accuse me of things is not something im going to accept silently. If there's something bothering you you can just speak to me like a normal person. Everytime im with you in person i have a good time so i find it very unfortunate that something like this happens again. You are again worrying about something that you shouldn't worry about Anyway, i say lets meet in person, talk things out, i want to say some things, you maybe too, and after that we can just continue as normal and have a good time again with eachother. Girl: I don't think that i can act normal towards people, and you're right. Im selfish and weird and im sorry for that. I don't think i can change and communicate on a normal way with people, not with you and not with anyone. So i think its better that we do not have contact with eachother anymore, then there will also be no more drama Girl: And no you didn't do anything wrong im just not normal Me: Im not saying you should change, you are who you are, im just saying you should deal with some things differently, and i think you can. So lets speak in person, you have nothing to lose, i have nothing to lose, if after the conversation we still think its best to not contact eachother anymore then thats that. Girl: I really don't want to, i mean that Me: Okay, if you don't want to do any trouble then i won't either anymore. Lets just leave it like this then Girl: You shouldn't do any trouble because i already told you i want to leave it like this Me: Fine Thats all I never experienced something like this before, its like she has 2 personalities, i know most of the responses here are gonna be "Delete her" etc. But can anyone give some insight on whats going on here? Did i do someting wrong or is she just 100% crazy? You think she will come back to me and appologize again? If so what should i do? Thanks to anyone who took the time to read through all of this..

Author:	JackZero [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 5:39 pm ]
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I started reading this and by the time I got to the first exchange, I realized that you already said what's wrong with this girl. Quote: This is a girl with some mental problems, she never had lots of friends, uses more besides alcohol and already tried to kill herself in the past (And for some reason i like these type of girls because i think i should help them or something, cant explain) Doesn't this make sense to you at all? Girls with mental issues are not going to be normal. If you pursue batshit crazy types...you're going to eventually find the most extreme of them.

Author:	n2thevoid [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 5:42 pm ]
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Co dependency.

Author:	Mr. Assertive [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 5:45 pm ]
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Quote: , i know most of the responses here are gonna be "Delete her" etc. But can anyone give some insight on whats going on here? Did i do someting wrong or is she just 100% crazy? You think she will come back to me and appologize again? If so what should i do? I like how the OP knows what the usual consensus will be here but yet, tries to rationalize a plan for the woman to stay put. This lady does not sound stable at all. The theme of this post is drama, and more drama. You already know what will be suggested, this girls is just going to break your heart in the end. You are trying to be a therapist here for unecessary drama. You are getting sucked into it like the sucker that you sound like.

Author:	ColaGuy [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 5:52 pm ]
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She is a pure crazy paranoid girl, that won't change. i've been with a girl similar to this (no idea she was when i got with her) and at one point i spent literally all day everyday with her and even still she was accusing me of shit even though the only time i was out of her sight was when i went to piss you need to stay away, if she texts you again then you can reply but be clear you want no more than to be friends.. even being friends though will probably end in drama.

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Author:	nr32 [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 6:00 pm ]
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Sounds like she is bipolar, has ADHD, depression, and exhibits cognitive dissonance and various degrees of psychosis. She'll use you for validation and emotional support and her neediness will break you to pieces, and eventually another guy will come along who doesn't tolerate her neediness and she'll fall hard for him and leave you broken.

Author:	JohnDigwood [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 6:18 pm ]
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ok so ill definately need to stay away and not get invested in anything, maybe just use her for sex after a festival if she appologizes again? (the thing she is so afraid of) Quote: and eventually another guy will come along who doesn't tolerate her neediness and she'll fall hard for him and leave you broken. Could you explain this more? I figured the way i acted and called her out on her behaviour is me not tolerating her, or am i wrong? In other words: How would the guy act/behave who wouldn't tolerate her neediness?

Author:	Mr. Assertive [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 6:32 pm ]
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Do you have other options ? I am highly doubting you just keeping it on a sexual level.

Author:	JohnDigwood [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 6:36 pm ]
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Quote: Do you have other options ? I am highly doubting you just keeping it on a sexual level. Yes, Girl2 i was talking about in my story, but if possible i would like Girl1 too for sexual purposes then,

Author:	ColaGuy [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 6:45 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Do you have other options ? I am highly doubting you just keeping it on a sexual level. Yes, Girl2 i was talking about in my story, but if possible i would like Girl1 too for sexual purposes then, a girl that told you she is worried about guys just using her you now want to just use? dont be a cunt.. find another girl

Author:	JohnDigwood [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 6:48 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Quote: Do you have other options ? I am highly doubting you just keeping it on a sexual level. Yes, Girl2 i was talking about in my story, but if possible i would like Girl1 too for sexual purposes then, a girl that told you she is worried about guys just using her you now want to just use? dont be a cunt.. find another girl My first intentions with this girl was to NOT use her and see where things would go Then after all this finding out she is just crazy.. Im not sure it would be the right idea to go for something serious In an ideal world she would change her behaviour and we could have a normal relationship but thats just not gonna happen

Author:	n2thevoid [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 6:51 pm ]
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Comes across as labile (emotionally unstable). When I was younger I had a penchant for these girls as typically they run push/pull with wanting to hang-out/pushing away behaviors and if you aren't careful u'll get hooked fast. She's exhibiting some pretty strong red flags, and it seems in spite of it you still want her attention. I strongly caution you against proceeding with her as she lacks emotional maturity and she can turn into a VERY strong headwind in your life, sapping you of your energy. I am leary of pathologizing her behavior. I don't see anything looking like ADHD, or psychosis in her texts. There's likely some pretty unhealthy core beliefs, its possible she's an Avoidant personality (may have some characteristics consistent with Borderline, but I am in no position to diagnose. Still, I'd heed the signs and cut all contact while its early before you allow yourself to get sucked in.

Author:	JackZero [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 6:52 pm ]
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Quote: My first intentions with this girl was to NOT use her and see where things would go Then after all this finding out she is just crazy.. Im not sure it would be the right idea to go for something serious In an ideal world she would change her behaviour and we could have a normal relationship but thats just not gonna happen Lol...you only like her because she is crazy. If she becomes normal and doesn't seem like she needs saving anymore, you'll probably lose interest.

Author:	JohnDigwood [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 6:55 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: My first intentions with this girl was to NOT use her and see where things would go Then after all this finding out she is just crazy.. Im not sure it would be the right idea to go for something serious In an ideal world she would change her behaviour and we could have a normal relationship but thats just not gonna happen Lol...you only like her because she is crazy. If she becomes normal and doesn't seem like she needs saving anymore, you'll probably lose interest. seems like a win win situation, she becomes normal and i lose interest LOL but yeah maybe some truth to that

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Author:	n2thevoid [ Tue Jul 12, 2016 6:56 pm ]
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Quote: My first intentions with this girl was to NOT use her and see where things would go Then after all this finding out she is just crazy.. Im not sure it would be the right idea to go for something serious In an ideal world she would change her behaviour and we could have a normal relationship but thats just not gonna happen SO long as you have honest intentions, it matters not what others accuse you of - that is their projecting onto you. An ex of mine accused me of being a "mean" person. She knew it'd rattle my cage because I was nothing but out-going and loving towards her, always available when she needed a shoulder, did favours for her, was emotionally available etc. When you begin defending what someone else accuses you of being, you give proof to the lie so-to-speak. In other words, if someone is calling you a player/"slut", or 'not nice' and you then begin defending yourself that's a losing proposition. Best let them have their characterizations of you and move on to find people who see the light inside of you, not accuse you of things you aren't doing.