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Author:  Hufsa [ Thu Jun 23, 2016 10:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Downgraded from fwb to just friend (Ultimate AFC)
- Went in class with this chick
- She initiated kiss at party
- Had sex with her the week after, agreed to be fwb at this point, feelings for her came..)
- Continuing having sex ( 3 different occasions ) she mentions she does not want a relationship (I have not told her about my feelings)
- Plan at this point is to eventually fuck feelings into her, lol
- Contact her less, try to seem a bit indifferent, seeing as I have shown a bit to much interess beforehand
- Right before meeting me, she wrote that she didn't want us to be fuck friend anymore, but that I should still come, as a friend.
- Come over to her, and confront her why we cant be fwb
- she says that the sex is great, but that she rather would want me as a friend
- I answer something like: "then why end something that is so great"
- she says "idk" I true pushung for a real answwr, but she said thats everything she got
- Had a good time as friends, planned on making a move, but I had to reach the train about an hour in (sexual tension, smile and good conversation)

All this happened over the course of 2-3 months. I have developed feelings, but seeing as I know it isnt returned from her side, I havent said anything.

What the fuck? Needless to say, Im an AFC. Need help getting this woman to atleast be my fwb again. I dont understand this woman at all.. So many mixed signals, I dont know what to make off it.

If something is unclear to be able to properly analyze this, and provide me with a solution: be free to ask questions, and I will answer.
Author:  Finished [ Thu Jun 23, 2016 10:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Downgraded from fwb to just friend (Ultimate AFC)
She wasn't the one giving mixed signals.

It was you.
Author:  JackZero [ Thu Jun 23, 2016 10:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Downgraded from fwb to just friend (Ultimate AFC)
Yeah OP, your mixed signals killed you.
Author:  Hufsa [ Thu Jun 23, 2016 11:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Downgraded from fwb to just friend (Ultimate AFC)
Seeing as I kind of were pushing for a relationship, and the fact that she told me at different occasions that she does not want to be in a relationship, Im pretty sure she had a clue that I were starting to get feelings for her.

Posts with actual tips for getting this woman are greatly appreciated.
Author:  JackZero [ Fri Jun 24, 2016 12:02 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Downgraded from fwb to just friend (Ultimate AFC)
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Seeing as I kind of were pushing for a relationship, and the fact that she told me at different occasions that she does not want to be in a relationship, Im pretty sure she had a clue that I were starting to get feelings for her.

Posts with actual tips for getting this woman are greatly appreciated.
You don't need any tips for getting this woman. She has already told you what she wanted from you and you messed that up by sending her mixed signals by agreeing to the FWB and trying to push for more, so she downgraded you. You trying to move forward is going to make her cut you off completely.

Your advantage is that you've already had sex with her. Treat her like a friend and fuck other girls and let her be aware (not tell her) that you are fucking other girls. Then there's a possibility that she'll want what was once hers...especially if the sex was a good as you say.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Fri Jun 24, 2016 12:50 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Downgraded from fwb to just friend (Ultimate AFC)
Quote:
- Went in class with this chick
- Plan at this point is to eventually fuck feelings into her, lol
That's what usually happens. Make them cum every time and it's inevitable.

Quote:
- Come over to her, and confront her why we cant be fwb
Haha that's a great way to get friendzoned for life. Women cannot stand a man who grovels about sex. Don't do this.

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- she says that the sex is great, but that she rather would want me as a friend
Then the sex wasn't great. Sorry bud, but you did not blow her mind or she would never friendzone you like this so soon after sex. Two things: Fuck her as hard and wildly as you can, and LEAD in the bedroom, No hesitation, no "asking". And if she can't orgasm vaginally, get to work with your tongue. If you want a woman for a long, long time, always make her cum:

http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2011/08/ ... e-her-cum/


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- I answer something like: "then why end something that is so great"
You've had sex with her what, four times? This is way too early to say this.

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What the fuck? Needless to say, Im an AFC. Need help getting this woman to atleast be my fwb again. I dont understand this woman at all.. So many mixed signals, I dont know what to make off it.

Simple solution:

Show up where she is with a cute girl on your arm or near you. Somehow, you have desexualized yourself to her (too much contact? Needy behavior? I don't know, but it happened, that's why you get demoted to FZ).
Author:  R.C [ Fri Jun 24, 2016 10:18 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Downgraded from fwb to just friend (Ultimate AFC)
Quote:
You don't need any tips for getting this woman. She has already told you what she wanted from you and you messed that up by sending her mixed signals by agreeing to the FWB and trying to push for more, so she downgraded you. You trying to move forward is going to make her cut you off completely.

Your advantage is that you've already had sex with her. Treat her like a friend and fuck other girls and let her be aware (not tell her) that you are fucking other girls. Then there's a possibility that she'll want what was once hers...especially if the sex was a good as you say.
This.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Tue Jun 28, 2016 7:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Downgraded from fwb to just friend (Ultimate AFC)
Let me fix the real problem... Stop WANTING a relationship.

Get over this fairy tale bullshit of having someone to snuggle with and grow old with. Start focusing on building a bad ass life for yourself. Start doing cool shit. Pick up new hobbies. Stop thinking about girls and relationships with girls.

Your focus should be on becoming the bad ass guy that girls want so they are chasing YOU for the relationship... Not trying to get some chick to fall in love with you.

When you start doing that instead, girls will fall in love with you without you having to "game" them.
Author:  gameshine [ Tue Jun 28, 2016 8:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Downgraded from fwb to just friend (Ultimate AFC)
You got the pussy and beat about three times, I don't see no AFC in you little homie, pick up those overalls and lets recuperate.

Now I'm gonna be honest, she prob was fucking you and another guy or two at the same time(comes with the fwb territory). Now as your homeboy we could go run-down on these fools with the choppa loppas and slap em up with some mcdoubles with quadruple cheese.

But the thing is little wody she don't love you no more, and she don't wanna be saved( in my project pat voice) she dont wanna be saved dont save her.

Now if you wanna get creative andf ready to earn your stripes out here in these streets and be a real G, I got the lick skeelow plan.

Now im assuming this girl has hot friends or any girlfriends in general? Now what you need to do is stir some stuff up out there in the streets and let them fools know you putting your foot down,and you the real winner, the fool being her.

Take all that passion and get with some of her friends on the low low, where she kinda knows where she thinking about you. You gotta turn the tables around.

This is like playing poker with some strange characters, in the back of little snoopies barbershop in a dark smoky room all in or nothing, and you playing with money you got loaned to you from some russian loan sharks. You gotta rig the deck and put all the odds in your favor even slide a couple cards up your sleeve.

Change up the dynamic pull up on her like a boss and let her figure out what she been missing, then ride out like bonnie and clyde.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Jun 28, 2016 5:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Downgraded from fwb to just friend (Ultimate AFC)
Quote:
- she says that the sex is great, but that she rather would want me as a friend
Whenever your trying to change a woman's mind.-Agree with her.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Tue Jun 28, 2016 5:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Downgraded from fwb to just friend (Ultimate AFC)
Quote:
Let me fix the real problem... Stop WANTING a relationship.

Get over this fairy tale bullshit of having someone to snuggle with and grow old with. Start focusing on building a bad ass life for yourself. Start doing cool shit. Pick up new hobbies. Stop thinking about girls and relationships with girls.

Your focus should be on becoming the bad ass guy that girls want so they are chasing YOU for the relationship... Not trying to get some chick to fall in love with you.

When you start doing that instead, girls will fall in love with you without you having to "game" them.
This guy's got it right.

It's the chaser's paradox - the more you chase something, the more elusive it becomes. Whether its women or wealth. MJ Demarco uses the perfect metaphor in his book The Millionaire Fastlane: “Money is like a mischievous cat; if you chase it around the neighborhood, it eludes you. It hides up a tree, behind the rose bush, or in the garden. However, if you ignore it and focus on what attracts the cat, it comes to you and sits in your lap.”

Replace "Money" with women in this instance. Same deal applies.

Work on bettering yourself for yourself and others will be naturally drawn to you. Funny how that works, eh?
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