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Author:  Vegeeta [ Sat Jun 18, 2016 8:14 am ]
Post subject:  When do you know you've found the right girl
I believe in the mentality of abundance and I've been living that for quite some time. In the last two weeks I went out on dates with 10 different girls. I am a good looking guy with successful and interesting lifestyle so the quality of women is high (in my subjective opinion they're all hot or as some guy rate them 8-10). I am absolutely LOVING where I am but a part of me really hopes to find a girl to have a relationship with.

Out of those 10 girls I am seeing 5 again as they had more to offer than just good looks and I want to fuck them too. One of my friends (who's actually female) said that I come across as desperate (to her and she tried to hook up with me too but got rejected) meeting more than 1-2 girls at one time Can abundance also stand for desperation? Should I cut back on the volume, meet 1 or 2, get to know them and then move on if it doesn't work out? Am I not giving them a fair chance to impress?

Most importantly, how do you know which girl is the right one? It clearly can't be a process where you eliminate them and theres just the one last standing :lol: I do know what values I search for and I date only specific type of girls so they generally tick all the boxes yet something is stopping me from taking it past sex.

NOTE: I am not complaining, this is where I've wanted to be with women for years and years and I am finally there. I do, probably like most men, want to find "the one" to share my life with and the more women I see the further away from that I get.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sat Jun 18, 2016 8:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: When do you know you've found the right girl
Keep dating them. EVENTUALLY you will see flaws that you don't like.


I have a rotation going. So far the 2 girls I have now have good personalities and I enjoy their company. I don't call that time wasted. I did have a third girl but after a couple more dates I sensed how boring she really is. I dropped her. I only hit her up once in awhile.



Just keep digging deeper.. find out more about them, connect with them. IF none of these girls are worth a relationship, then don't do it. Relationships are best when your girl is like your best friend but you get the option to fuck her.
Author:  Stoliar [ Sun Jun 19, 2016 2:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: When do you know you've found the right girl
First off, there's no such thing as THE right girl. Rather, there are right girlS.
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I do know what values I search for and I date only specific type of girls so they generally tick all the boxes
Good. To the values you search for you should add the flaws you won't compromise on. The bad news is, that's stuff you generally discover over time (you never thought about it but you realize you can't tolerate her love for Justin Bieber, for instance).
And once she ticks all the boxes, you got yourself one right girl. There's definitely be better girls out there, no matter who you got. The question is, will you let yourself starve looking for the best apple of all, when you got dozens of edible apples in front of you?
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yet something is stopping me from taking it past sex
Be more specific.
Author:  Vegeeta [ Mon Jun 20, 2016 10:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: When do you know you've found the right girl
Mr. Assertive - should I mention I am seeing other women (in case they ask)? I also added a few fresh dates so keeping my options open.
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First off, there's no such thing as THE right girl. Rather, there are right girlS.
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I do know what values I search for and I date only specific type of girls so they generally tick all the boxes
Good. To the values you search for you should add the flaws you won't compromise on. The bad news is, that's stuff you generally discover over time (you never thought about it but you realize you can't tolerate her love for Justin Bieber, for instance).
And once she ticks all the boxes, you got yourself one right girl. There's definitely be better girls out there, no matter who you got. The question is, will you let yourself starve looking for the best apple of all, when you got dozens of edible apples in front of you?
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yet something is stopping me from taking it past sex
Be more specific.
As in it doesn't matter how interesting and nice they are - I tend to get bored of them after sex
Author:  lukeyx [ Mon Jun 20, 2016 11:46 pm ]
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As in it doesn't matter how interesting and nice they are - I tend to get bored of them after sex


I think you'll get that a lot, it's all part of the game. One day, you'll come across a girl where you just get hooked, sometimes for reasons you dont even know. Don't worry about finding a connection. If a connection wants to happen, it will.
Author:  neo87 [ Tue Jun 21, 2016 12:04 am ]
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As in it doesn't matter how interesting and nice they are - I tend to get bored of them after sex
More specific
Author:  JackZero [ Tue Jun 21, 2016 12:47 am ]
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As in it doesn't matter how interesting and nice they are - I tend to get bored of them after sex
Do you care about how interesting and nice they are before sex?
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Tue Jun 21, 2016 1:54 am ]
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As in it doesn't matter how interesting and nice they are - I tend to get bored of them after sex
Do you care about how interesting and nice they are before sex?

Srsly tho op :idea:
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Wed Jun 22, 2016 2:53 am ]
Post subject:  Re: When do you know you've found the right girl
Easy answer: when you try to pull away, you can't. To you, she's hotter, smarter, and better in bed than anyone else...the kind of girl that erases your past jerk-off material from other girls like they were nothing.

The girl that falls asleep in your arms and you LIKE it. The girl that wakes with you and you dig it.
Author:  sadDog [ Wed Jun 22, 2016 3:00 pm ]
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Easy answer: when you try to pull away, you can't. To you, she's hotter, smarter, and better in bed than anyone else...the kind of girl that erases your past jerk-off material from other girls like they were nothing.

The girl that falls asleep in your arms and you LIKE it. The girl that wakes with you and you dig it.
This seems a romantic view, you can have that with a girl needy, with mental disorders(eg: depression, bipolar...), untrustworthy...so, it is not the right girl.

I am a beginner so, my target is:

Hot
kind
Emotionally balanced(just normal)
intelligent
Ambitious
Loyal

If I find a girl like that, I will consider a LTR
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Wed Jun 22, 2016 6:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: When do you know you've found the right girl
There are a decent amount of really amazing girls out there. Saying any particular one is "the one" is pretty asinine. I'd actually like to have a relationship with all of the "relationship quality" girls.... Why not?

I have an amazing girlfriend. And to be honest, I'd be pretty sad if something happened between me and her.

However, there are so many girls out there. So, while I'll maybe never find a girl who's EXACTLY like my girlfriend, I'll definitely always be able to find another girl that I enjoy spending my time with.

I wrote an article on my blog called "the girlfriend checklist- 5 signs a girl will make a great girlfriend." I think it will be something you find of value. They are a bunch of tools about me posting links on here so if you want it, you gotta search for it.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Wed Jun 22, 2016 8:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: When do you know you've found the right girl
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I am a beginner so, my target is:

Hot
kind
Emotionally balanced(just normal)
intelligent
Ambitious
Loyal

If I find a girl like that, I will consider a LTR

haha, good luck my friend.
Author:  sadDog [ Thu Jun 23, 2016 3:26 am ]
Post subject:  Re: When do you know you've found the right girl
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I am a beginner so, my target is:

Hot
kind
Emotionally balanced(just normal)
intelligent
Ambitious
Loyal

If I find a girl like that, I will consider a LTR

haha, good luck my friend.

hahahaha, yeah, will be difficult, but "love" a problematic girl isnt the solution. I had been in that situation that you said, but with one of those problematic girl...at the time, for me was normal. But after the break up, I made a solid evaluation if the famous "girlfriend formula back" was worthy annnddd, no. I really loved her, and probably would get her back, but I just let it go.

oh,I will swap hot for "Attractive to me", and add independent. haha, now is near impossible
Author:  R.C [ Thu Jun 23, 2016 7:25 am ]
Post subject:  Re: When do you know you've found the right girl
Every woman, or rather every relationship (quality relationship) is unique in it's own way. There is no "the one". There's only your standards. If a girl qualifies and fits your blueprint, she's a good match for you.

Your question is like asking how do you know what your favorite food is. It's the one you enjoy most by your own upheld standards.
Author:  Vegeeta [ Fri Jun 24, 2016 8:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: When do you know you've found the right girl
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As in it doesn't matter how interesting and nice they are - I tend to get bored of them after sex
More specific
I lose my interest, I feel like've done it and there's nothing else I can get out of this particular girl.

@Jack

Yes, I do. I only go on dates with girls who I find to be firstly physically attractive and secondly can hold an interesting conversation for longer than 5 min.


I feel like no matter how happy I am with one girls, there's always doubt if she's the best out of the whole bunch. I am fully aware of "the perfect one" existing but I find it hard to just settle.

@TheMajikalMethod

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