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Author:  Lonious [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 7:51 am ]
Post subject:  Is my being overweight hindering girls from liking me?
Hello, all!

I just want to ask you for some advice regarding an issue mine of being overweight.

This will be quick.

The thing is, I am overweight. Obese, to be frank. However, I am very conscious of how I dress up. I always wear decent clothes and am in good hygiene whenever I go out.

However, there have been like at least 3 girls already who aren't very receptive to me. When I Facebook message them it takes long for them to respond and it's clear that they aren't really interested; one did not answer a message of mine.

Do you think my weight is causing this? Do you think that if I lose weight, these girls would be attracted to me?

By the way, I'm very much a newbie to pick-up.

Thanks!

Regards,
Lonious
Author:  DJ_Z [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 10:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is my being overweight hindering girls from liking me?
Probably. But also pickup is about going out and approaching women in person. Fuck facebook
Author:  kidfromcro [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 10:37 am ]
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in that case you should start getting yourself in shape,being overweight is not healthy,hit the gym but keep approaching meanwhile
Author:  GenesisPUA [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 11:11 am ]
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This lifestyle is not just about picking up girls. It's about self improvement in every area of your life. If you are fat, hit the gym regularly and get into shape, check your diet and stop eating crap, read books to broaden your knowledge on the subject and go out there as often as possible to experience life in the real world.

Stop over thinking as to why a girl did not respond to your message. There are so many reasons why a girl did not respond to your message which has nothing to do with your self image.
Author:  Lonious [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 12:44 pm ]
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Thanks all!
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in that case you should start getting yourself in shape,being overweight is not healthy,hit the gym but keep approaching meanwhile
I understand. I know this is important. However, in terms of "game", do you think that my capacity to attract a woman will significantly decrease if I'm fat, even if I appear "confident"? Will I almost never be able to attract a girl just because of this?
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Probably. But also pickup is about going out and approaching women in person. Fuck facebook
I like that. It is really disappointing. I don't know why. But for some reason I take much pleasure upon an attractive girl's answer over an electronic device - or if there is none, much pain. I'm not kidding.

Recently I felt emotionally down for several hours just because a girl didn't answer my FB message. I could feel my heart beat faster than normal, and I was filled with a strange, empty, "desperate" emotion. It sucked. I wonder if I'll get used to this?
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This lifestyle is not just about picking up girls. It's about self improvement in every area of your life. If you are fat, hit the gym regularly and get into shape, check your diet and stop eating crap, read books to broaden your knowledge on the subject and go out there as often as possible to experience life in the real world.

Stop over thinking as to why a girl did not respond to your message. There are so many reasons why a girl did not respond to your message which has nothing to do with your self image.
I understand. It's just that it's happened like three times already it's getting really frustrating. Sorry for ranting about what might seem to you as irrelevant. Maybe I should just capitalize on real-life game more. It's just that I kind of don't know what to tell a girl to game her, or something.

Once more, thanks for all your advice!
Author:  DJ_Z [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 1:08 pm ]
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This lifestyle is not just about picking up girls. It's about self improvement in every area of your life. If you are fat, hit the gym regularly and get into shape, check your diet and stop eating crap, read books to broaden your knowledge on the subject and go out there as often as possible to experience life in the real world.

Stop over thinking as to why a girl did not respond to your message. There are so many reasons why a girl did not respond to your message which has nothing to do with your self image.
No it is about getting laid. The guy wants to hookup, not a zen coach.
Author:  kidfromcro [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 1:25 pm ]
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if you"re good and doing this for some time,meaning being grounded in yourself etc then no,by starting to look after yourself you also kick yourself for something more then just girls,setting a purpose for yourself,having a purpose is attractive,you"re addicted to validation,which is bad,let go of reactions,you should be feeling awesome for you doing something no matter the reactions,example a girl didn't answer your message,instead of being depressed just say fuck it,there is another girl and don't even care if she replies at all,view yourself as a prize,not her,you"re on the path of becoming the best you can be,so who is she????just another girl,don't worry so much on what to talk about when you"re talking to her in person,talk about whatever you want,joke around,push her a bit etc,just go out and meet them,it"s all about experience,there is no bad experience if you learn from it,play around with it,see what works,watch and read but don't overdo,you cant avoid going out and actually talking to women,you"ll learn something from everyone you talk to,commit to it and replace the bad mindset with positive one
Author:  neo87 [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 2:37 pm ]
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This lifestyle is not just about picking up girls. It's about self improvement in every area of your life. If you are fat, hit the gym regularly and get into shape, check your diet and stop eating crap, read books to broaden your knowledge on the subject and go out there as often as possible to experience life in the real world.

Stop over thinking as to why a girl did not respond to your message. There are so many reasons why a girl did not respond to your message which has nothing to do with your self image.
No it is about getting laid. The guy wants to hookup, not a zen coach.

I get what you're saying. Some guys just want to fuck chicks.. However whether he does it for hooking up or he does it for his health... He needs to lose the weight if he wants to hook up. Maybe there are some obese guys who get success out there that can say how they do it... I've just never seen it.
Author:  GenesisPUA [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 4:03 pm ]
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This lifestyle is not just about picking up girls. It's about self improvement in every area of your life. If you are fat, hit the gym regularly and get into shape, check your diet and stop eating crap, read books to broaden your knowledge on the subject and go out there as often as possible to experience life in the real world.

Stop over thinking as to why a girl did not respond to your message. There are so many reasons why a girl did not respond to your message which has nothing to do with your self image.
No it is about getting laid. The guy wants to hookup, not a zen coach.
LOL! I'm sure you can give him some magic lines to get him laid, not that I know of.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 4:47 pm ]
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I created this great new diet where you just spend all your grocery money on strippers.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 5:23 pm ]
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If you are overweight yes I am sorry that will make it all the harder to get women.

Hire a trainer, learn about nutrition, exercise etc..

Do SOMETHING.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 5:24 pm ]
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Probably. But also pickup is about going out and approaching women in person. Fuck facebook
Or he can just go to Fuckbook, or higher an escort.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 5:36 pm ]
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This lifestyle is not just about picking up girls. It's about self improvement in every area of your life. If you are fat, hit the gym regularly and get into shape, check your diet and stop eating crap, read books to broaden your knowledge on the subject and go out there as often as possible to experience life in the real world.

Stop over thinking as to why a girl did not respond to your message. There are so many reasons why a girl did not respond to your message which has nothing to do with your self image.
No it is about getting laid. The guy wants to hookup, not a zen coach.
LOL! I'm sure you can give him some magic lines to get him laid, not that I know of.
Magic lines? No, but it would be stupid to start the bullshit neverending self improvement "journey." The problems are probably much lesser. For one, lose weight.

If you want to meditate, try to make a million dollars a year, go gluten free, and read a book a day, go nuts. None of that is pickup though. Unrelated shit
Author:  Dragula [ Fri Jun 17, 2016 5:57 pm ]
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If you want to success with girls who are in shape, you should at least be in shape yourself.

Would you fuck a REALLY obese girl if you had the opportunity? If not...Get lifting and eat protein and green veg
Author:  GFRESH2DEF [ Sat Jun 18, 2016 6:50 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is my being overweight hindering girls from liking me?
Your weight may be the reason, or it may not be the reason why these girls aren't facebook messaging you back. Personally..i just think for the simple fact that they are pretty, and pretty girls are in abundance and usually having alot going on, and people hitting them up all the time on social media. Unfortunately, if you aren't really an important or special person in her life at the moment, then you may get dismissed by them. It happens to me also, and i'm not obese and i'm a pretty decent looking guy. So don't take it as a personal hit okay.


What i would recommend is that you "plow" the girl. Do not stalk her, but plow her - meaning that you are persistent. Send her a message every now and then (even if she doesn't responds to any of them). This is called a "bait". Keep baiting her until she takes the "bait". But don't message her every time that you see the girl online either. You want her to think that you have other things going on in your life as well. Patience is key! Also, keep in mind that when you aren't messaging her, she's still getting messages from other guys too. So don't worry about you looking needy to her, because she won't be thinking about when you messaged her last. I know that was my main fear too. Just like in text message game..send messages that take very little investment on your part like: "What up girl?", "Hi...., what u up to today?". If that doesn't work, just send self-amusing type of messages (messages that you find funny) like; "My mom warned me about girls like you. LOL" or "It's daisy dukes weather today girl. It's going to be a nice one..so don't forget to leave the house with some..LOOK AT THAT GIRL WITH THE DAISY DUKES ON!" You can't lose with that because you're just offering value. Even if that didn't work, you truly enjoyed it..so you will not feel the sting of rejection. I guarantee that the girl will respond to that kind of message. As long as she responds to that message..you can keep her on the "hook" by responding back to her with another conversational thread that demonstrates high value, followed by disqualifying and qualifying her (push pull), and at some point get her phone number. This is how just 2 weeks ago, i was finally able to fuck a girl living in my city, after messaging her for several months online. Since i already established rapport with her online (ie attraction & comfort), i got her phone number to keep in contact with her during the entire day of the meet up. Once we finally met up that night, we went strait to my house to fuck..no date, and little to no LMR.


Gaming online works exactly the same as it does in the field..the only difference is you're doing it virtually. Also, sometimes gaming online is better because it's more socially acceptable than cold approach to which you can be blown out of the set quickly in the field, and that will be the end of it. In the field you will have to establish attraction and comfort with girls quickly in order to seduce them, where-as online..you can take your time building attraction & comfort with the girl over time, just as long as she doesn't block you or unfriend you. So you don't want to push it too far with her. You want your escalation with girls online to be gradual. That's why plowing girls online is imperative! It could take days, weeks, or even months..it just depends on the girl. But when you established enough comfort with the girl to the point that you and her are communicating on facebook (or any other social media site) pretty regularily, then you can set up a meet up in person with her (aka day2 or date). The only thing that you will have to worry about then is logistics. So make sure that the meet up location isn't far from your house. Once she meets with you on the date or hangout, then you can do all the pickup stuff that you would normally do with the girl in person.


As far as the weight stuff goes..you should want to lose weight by dieting and working out, but do it for yourself and not for girls. The weight thing has little to do with why the girls aren't messaging you back on facebook, otherwise she would've denied your friend request from the jump. It's most likely to do with what i mentioned in the 1st paragraph. Your weight will only factor in when she sees you in person.


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