Yup! You see im caught in two minds here. One is the obvious one like you said. She left a good guy to go to a cheater, why should i be someones 2nd choice. I get that.

But on the flip side, we were actually really good together, and in another life if the ex wasnt there we would probably still be together.

I get that going back to an ex, there was a time years ago when i was AFC and hung up on an ex, i would of left anyone to get back with her, for validation and closure mainly. So i understand it and i can see its not as black and white as some people seem to suggest online.

Lets assume i had another chance, it would be a risk but one i would be willing to take, because the payoff seems worth it.

I just need to find out if i have another chance and im not sure if no contact or contact is the way to find that out

Without beating around the bush too much...I get that you want a tactic to get this girl and you won't hear anything but that. If she unblocked you with the purpose of allowing you a way to contact her, then it's her just baiting a hook. You can't take the bait. You need her to come after you so she can invest instead of being the guy that is nothing more than a rebound.

OP, you need to be smarter. Pick women that don't have such a big red flag.

I know you guys will say forget her, but she was actually the first girl in about 4 years ive met that I could actually see some potential long term with...

I often read sentences like this on this forum. It pretty much means you are looking for the advice that you want to hear, instead of REAL advice on what you SHOULD do.

She treats you like a door mat and you are STILL interested in her??? Do you not have any pride in yourself?

This pickup stuff embraces abundance regarding women, this is so important but you evidently haven't grasped that. Stop trying to change people. Accept the fact that you have oneitis for a girl that treats you like that white substance you get at the side of the mouth when you're thirsty.

How are you guys meeting 1 good woman in 4 years?


Is no one approaching women?!

How are you guys meeting 1 good woman in 4 years?


Is no one approaching women?!

She'll contact you eventually.

The fact that you noticed doesn't make you look too good. Thats not the move you want to make. But I aside from that, I strongly think you should reconsider getting serious thoughts about a girl who left you to return to a cheating ex, then blocked you(for no reason. Probably because he said so) and then only unblocked you because he probably broke up with her. Now you're just going to return to her and save the day? How could she ever respect you? You'll let her do what she wants and then run back to you when she's done? No wonder she left you for this guy. And she'll probably do it again if he comes back so long as you have this attitude.


You have to grow beyond your emotions man. Who cares about how you feel. Sacrifice temporary emotions to retain your dignity. Its your fault that she's the first girl in a while you could see something serious with. How often have you been actively bettering yourself and approaching women to find one high enough in quality that you could see a relationship with? How often? Thats your fault. Don't settle because you don't do what you had to do to improve your quality of life. Make the sacrifice and do it now.

How are you guys meeting 1 good woman in 4 years?


Is no one approaching women?!