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Author:  rest02 [ Wed Jun 08, 2016 8:54 pm ]
Post subject:  New problem - they appear scared
When I joined this forum 2 months ago my problem was anxiety, confidence. Now, I got that out of the way. I feel more than good enough for any woman.

Now,
I seem to have been scaring them. For example I did a cold approach, told a woman I was interested in her, in a jokingly way, and she looked very surprised and unsure of what to say. She mumbled, looked confused. I don't know what it was. Maybe they are not used to men approaching in such a bold way.

Now I got a new problem. I think if I make them feel uncomfortable like this, then they'll call the cops on me. Because I almost had it happen to me before, it has been stuck in my mind. The threat of the police hanging over me. So I keep thinking, "is she gonna call the cops on me if I say something creepy"? What should I do to get these thoughts to stop?
Author:  JackZero [ Wed Jun 08, 2016 9:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New problem - they appear scared
Be more descriptive of an average approach for you.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Wed Jun 08, 2016 9:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New problem - they appear scared
Jack, this one's yours.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Thu Jun 09, 2016 2:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New problem - they appear scared
Quote:
told a woman I was interested in her, in a jokingly way, and she looked very surprised and unsure of what to say.
I'm probably a bigger guy than you are. So imagine if I walked up to you and said "I like your shirt" in a very sarcastic, joking manner. What would you do? Probably the same fucking thing.

That's what "being direct" means. You're saying you're interested in her... So why the fuck are you joking about it? Make her take you seriously by actually meaning what you say.

Don't be some poo-ah, self amusing retard. Hit on the girl for fucks sake. Most girls I know spend at least an hour getting ready before they leave the house. To hear a guy make a joking compliment would probably be taken as an insult by them.
Author:  rest02 [ Fri Jun 10, 2016 2:26 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New problem - they appear scared
Quote:
Be more descriptive of an average approach for you.
One example

I walk into a store. Start looking at something on the shelf.

Her: Let me know if there's anything you're interested in.
Me: You mean, other than you? (with a smile)
Her: Um..uh....Maybe. (Unsure look on her face, shrugged her shoulders)

Another example

Ran into someone I hadn't seen in a couple years.
We bullshit with the usual how are you, etc. Both looking right at each other. I noticed she went from a brunette to blonde highlights.
Me: "Did you change your hair?"
Her: Froze for a second. Started touching her hair. "Um...well...it's...lighter"
And for most of the conversation she was talking in this same choppy way.

Causes?
Author:  neo87 [ Fri Jun 10, 2016 3:12 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New problem - they appear scared
You can gauge what a woman's reaction means by.....

Making a move

Its really that simple.

If I go on a date with a woman and she's smiling and touching me, I don't take that as she's interested.

I just make a move regardless.

If she accepts, then I know that her behavior was probably signs she was interested. If she doesn't, I know she was smiling and touching me for another reason.

If in those 2 examples you asked those girls to go out, and both denied, then they were acting weird because they werent interested and may have been creeped out. If they accepted (like really accepted, not these forced number closes going around) then they were acting weird because they were interested.

Also, if the cops are a real fear of yours, and there was even the possibility that someone called or was about to call the cops, most likely you're being creepy.
Author:  JackZero [ Fri Jun 10, 2016 3:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New problem - they appear scared
Yeah, an interaction has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Your examples are all beginnings but it doesn't seem like you get much farther than that and that is probably because you gave up based on the initial reaction.

If you are feeling that you are making them nervous, it's okay to address it. "Am I making you nervous" can be the best comment you can make in order to making her comfortable.
Author:  rest02 [ Fri Jun 10, 2016 3:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New problem - they appear scared
Quote:
Yeah, an interaction has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Your examples are all beginnings but it doesn't seem like you get much farther than that and that is probably because you gave up based on the initial reaction.

If you are feeling that you are making them nervous, it's okay to address it. "Am I making you nervous" can be the best comment you can make in order to making her comfortable.
Yes I left because I thought it was going nowhere. What do I do after I say "Am I making you nervous" ?
Author:  JackZero [ Fri Jun 10, 2016 3:51 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New problem - they appear scared
Quote:
Quote:
Yeah, an interaction has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Your examples are all beginnings but it doesn't seem like you get much farther than that and that is probably because you gave up based on the initial reaction.

If you are feeling that you are making them nervous, it's okay to address it. "Am I making you nervous" can be the best comment you can make in order to making her comfortable.
Yes I left because I thought it was going nowhere. What do I do after I say "Am I making you nervous" ?
"Don't worry, I'm safe. I just thought you were cute and I thought I'd take a chance and introduce myself."
Author:  JustSimplyAttracted [ Fri Jun 10, 2016 7:55 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New problem - they appear scared
Quote:
Quote:
Be more descriptive of an average approach for you.
One example

I walk into a store. Start looking at something on the shelf.

Her: Let me know if there's anything you're interested in.
Me: You mean, other than you? (with a smile)
Her: Um..uh....Maybe. (Unsure look on her face, shrugged her shoulders)

Another example

Ran into someone I hadn't seen in a couple years.
We bullshit with the usual how are you, etc. Both looking right at each other. I noticed she went from a brunette to blonde highlights.
Me: "Did you change your hair?"
Her: Froze for a second. Started touching her hair. "Um...well...it's...lighter"
And for most of the conversation she was talking in this same choppy way.

Causes?
You shouldn't worry about this. Some girls might become awkward for no reason. Also in regards to the first example it might not be the best idea to hit on hired girls, they're literally paid to be there and act nice
Author:  Johnny Utah [ Fri Jun 10, 2016 8:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New problem - they appear scared
I just sarged two different women and showed confidence and they both were super nervous, possibly even terrified. I live in Japan though, so the women will run away even if they make eye contact with a foreigner lol.

It is ridiculous because this one Japanese woman across the street from me was going to cross in the opposite direction, but after only a subtle glance she suddenly went full retard and ran off in another direction. I shouted "what the fuck is wrong with you!" in Japanese haha.

I have also gone to ask a Japanese woman for the time on the street and she literally froze in position like Ice Man from the Xmen blasted her. Most women here are fucking insane.
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