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Author:  Adam_Sandler [ Mon Jun 06, 2016 4:25 am ]
Post subject:  Online dating alternatives
Although I have used online dating in the past, I feel that I have much better success in person. Furthermore, online dating is very time consuming and there a plenty of flakes/time wasters.

Between grad school, work, and the gym I do not have much time to go out. Plus I am not able to go out to the bars and clubs often due to distance, logistics, strict schedule, and plenty of responsibilities. I no longer live next to a university since I am recently graduated, and its summer so there are slim pickings there anyways.

What are some less time consuming to online dating, and less time consuming gaming methods in general?

Fortunately a lot of my work and studying is done from home, so I considering heading to local coffee shops, hookah bars, malls, libraries, etc and doing work/study there for a few hours. Taking brief breaks to approach attractive people close by.

Other thoughts or tips?

Never really had to go out of my way or spend much time approaching the last several years living by a large state university.
Author:  neo87 [ Mon Jun 06, 2016 4:54 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Online dating alternatives
There are no easy fixes. You want something you have to put in the time. If you have time to date you have time to go to a bar or somewhere and spend a few hrs. For guys who say that they don't have time to go out... Get a pro. If that's how busy you are that's your only option. Otherwise manage your time better. As far as I know there is no speedy alternative to dating unless you do online.. And even then that requires time unless you already have the skills.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Mon Jun 06, 2016 2:38 pm ]
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There's always time... Girls are busy too you know. They also want to meet a guy just as bad as you want to meet a girl. They are horny and get lonely and want to cuddle... Just like you.

Are there no girls at your gym? You need to just get the fuck out of your house. People will talk to you as long as you're not some negative suck hole of energy. You'll meet girls. Your problem is solved.

You know the answer to the problem. Comfort is keeping you from actually taking steps to solve the problem.
Author:  Adam_Sandler [ Mon Jun 06, 2016 6:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Online dating alternatives
To clarify, I am not looking for the holy grail to meet women. I use online dating when I have the time, and try to get out once a week.

I am looking for suggestions to better apply my time with such a busy schedule, such as the example I described in original post. I know there are some clever ideas out there, that I am overlooking. I am trying not to leave a stone unturned.

As for the gym, I am not a big fan of shitting where I eat. Although, since my gym is a chain gym, I consider going to the next closet location perhaps once or twice a week. I can focus more on multi tasking there. I.e. approaching while working out.

I talked to a buddy of mine regarding the issue, and he gave me the following advice: "Any time you go to the store, out to eat, run errands etc. Try to find a girl and ask for your number. Just approach say, 'I am busy, and have to get back to work, but I noticed you and like to swap information.' That takes 30 seconds. If you're going to play the numbers game online might as well do it in person too."
Author:  JackZero [ Mon Jun 06, 2016 6:09 pm ]
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I talked to a buddy of mine regarding the issue, and he gave me the following advice: "Any time you go to the store, out to eat, run errands etc. Try to find a girl and ask for your number. Just approach say, 'I am busy, and have to get back to work, but I noticed you and like to swap information.' That takes 30 seconds. If you're going to play the numbers game online might as well do it in person too."
This is shit advice. This sort of approach will lead you to so many flakes that you'll end up asking why you're getting so many.

Girls are everywhere but you have to be willing to put in the time to each interaction. You walk up to a hot girl and give her the "I have to get back to work" routine and you may get the number but later on you'll get the rejection. It's about making her want to give you her number because you intrigued her and there's nothing intriguing about what your friend told you to do.

It's a numbers game for guys who aren't good with women. For the guys that are good with women, it's a finesse game.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon Jun 06, 2016 6:12 pm ]
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As for the gym, I am not a big fan of shitting where I eat.
Unless you're going all out and walking up to random women grabbing their asses and tits I'm not sure how being social in an area you frequent could be considering "shitting" where you eat. As long as you're honest, upfront, and confident about your dealings with the women around you shouldn't have to worry about too much backlash from any women you may sleep with that frequent the gym. I've seen being an honest about my intentions and laying it down in the bedroom bring a lot more women from the area around me than anything else. Women talk, vibes talk, and energy talks. You play it right and the gym could be a easy source of quality women you'll have access to without having to break your busy schedule. You'll just have to play it right and be honest and respectful with all of the women you deal with.

It all really depends on where you are on your 'getting good with women journey' though. How often were you getting laid before all of the business took over?
Author:  Adam_Sandler [ Tue Jun 07, 2016 3:29 am ]
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As for the gym, I am not a big fan of shitting where I eat.
Unless you're going all out and walking up to random women grabbing their asses and tits I'm not sure how being social in an area you frequent could be considering "shitting" where you eat. As long as you're honest, upfront, and confident about your dealings with the women around you shouldn't have to worry about too much backlash from any women you may sleep with that frequent the gym. I've seen being an honest about my intentions and laying it down in the bedroom bring a lot more women from the area around me than anything else. Women talk, vibes talk, and energy talks. You play it right and the gym could be a easy source of quality women you'll have access to without having to break your busy schedule. You'll just have to play it right and be honest and respectful with all of the women you deal with.

It all really depends on where you are on your 'getting good with women journey' though. How often were you getting laid before all of the business took over?
Few new chicks a month. About three times a month with on going friends with benefits scenario. [Had two friends with benefits at the time.]

A side note: Spent a 2 hours studying at the library of a local community college and 2 hours at a local coffee. Neither was fruitful.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Tue Jun 07, 2016 6:28 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Online dating alternatives
I've picked up several girls from the gym, including a couple of crazies just be careful lol
Author:  n2thevoid [ Tue Jun 07, 2016 6:32 am ]
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As for the gym, I am not a big fan of shitting where I eat.
Unless you're going all out and walking up to random women grabbing their asses and tits I'm not sure how being social in an area you frequent could be considering "shitting" where you eat. As long as you're honest, upfront, and confident about your dealings with the women around you shouldn't have to worry about too much backlash from any women you may sleep with that frequent the gym. I've seen being an honest about my intentions and laying it down in the bedroom bring a lot more women from the area around me than anything else. Women talk, vibes talk, and energy talks. You play it right and the gym could be a easy source of quality women you'll have access to without having to break your busy schedule. You'll just have to play it right and be honest and respectful with all of the women you deal with.

It all really depends on where you are on your 'getting good with women journey' though. How often were you getting laid before all of the business took over?
Few new chicks a month. About three times a month with on going friends with benefits scenario. [Had two friends with benefits at the time.]

A side note: Spent a 2 hours studying at the library of a local community college and 2 hours at a local coffee. Neither was fruitful.
Where do you live?

Here I do my cardio outdoors when its nice like along the various sea walls i have in my city TONNES of cute fit girls jogging around gets a bit distracting, lots of eye fucking going on. There's also a ratio of 7 women for every guy here so I'm not complaining lol
Author:  Adam_Sandler [ Tue Jun 07, 2016 6:47 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Online dating alternatives
Sparsely populated and developed suburban community, on the very edge of the city. Not much in the way of life night life, entertainment, or social hubs. Mainly a family/retirement community with an abundance of conservative churches in the area (fundamentalist christian and mormon).

1 Mall about 15-20 minutes away.

Closet entertainment/night life district is over half hour away.

Admittedly not my ideal living situation, but temporarily conducive to my life circumstances at logistic at the moment.

Moving in a year, likely to New York or California.

Might also explain there is not a wide array of good looking and chill women online.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Tue Jun 07, 2016 6:53 am ]
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well your tasked with getting out more odds are u'll bump into a few all you need is one good one can't be an impossible mission
Author:  Adam_Sandler [ Tue Jun 07, 2016 4:16 pm ]
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well your tasked with getting out more odds are u'll bump into a few all you need is one good one can't be an impossible mission
True. Between Work, Study, and Gym its often 12 hour day.

I will give the other gym a try today, the women at my gym are mostly moms and high-school girls.

I also have to head down by the mall anyways, so will do some walking around/studying there in the food court.

Perhaps, there will be some better opportunities there since both place are in more densely populated and developed areas.
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