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how to keep conversation going without awkward silence moments ?

First, be a more interesting person.

Second, realize that even the best of friends are going to have moments of silence during conversation. I usually just look at the girl and smile in adoration. I'll wait for her to say something to try and impress me.

You're coming at women with the wrong attitude. Stop trying to impress people. Be a bad ass and make people want to impress you.

Remember conversation is not the goal. Talking to her has a purpose. If you are hitting awkward silences, you're so busy talking that you are forgetting to try to fuck her. That's why "have fun" is shit advice

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You're telling him to just "be" a specific way which gives an end point but nothing tangible to work on.

That's like telling someone "be happy" "just be confident" - without any specific actionable behavior(s) they're just empty phrases.

Being an "interesting person" involves experiencing life. But really, Op, by building yourself u'll feel far less outcome focused, more present in yourself and as a byproduct your interaction with people will become much smoother - and yes, u'll be comfortable with 'awkward silences' rather than trying to diffuse the tension you're feeling with idle banter/filler.

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Simply put.... He needs to get some hobbies. That will make anyone a more interesting, bad ass person.

Learn to play an instrument. Take a boxing class. Travel somewhere. Try something new and you'll have something new to talk about. Not a very difficult concept.

Author:	algebra [ Thu Jun 02, 2016 12:06 pm ]
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how to keep conversation going without awkward silence moments ?

Author:	R.C [ Thu Jun 02, 2016 1:17 pm ]
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You're fucking lazy.

Author:	nr32 [ Thu Jun 02, 2016 4:19 pm ]
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Quote: how to keep conversation going without awkward silence moments ? Talk to more people. Not just women, but everybody. I had a 3 hour phone call the other day, then we met up, had sex... twice. The goal is to have fun with it, not to get her to open up or whatever. Let the fun be your connection.

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Thu Jun 02, 2016 5:33 pm ]
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Theres a pill you have to take.

Author:	Meeesh [ Fri Jun 03, 2016 12:05 am ]
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Start singing and make it more awkward. And then stop completely. Turn your head towards her quickly, stare her in the eyes with a straight face for 5 seconds, and then make the biggest shit eating grin you can. If she doesn't smile and stop being locked in her shell, you're better off going home and learning how to bake bread from scratch, at least you know you'll be eating that for the next week.

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Author:	n2thevoid [ Fri Jun 03, 2016 3:59 am ]
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Quote: how to keep conversation going without awkward silence moments ? Make awkward animal sounds or incomprehensible squelches in between silences.

Author:	Jay (Majik) [ Thu Jun 09, 2016 4:12 pm ]
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First, be a more interesting person. Second, realize that even the best of friends are going to have moments of silence during conversation. I usually just look at the girl and smile in adoration. I'll wait for her to say something to try and impress me. You're coming at women with the wrong attitude. Stop trying to impress people. Be a bad ass and make people want to impress you.

Author:	n2thevoid [ Thu Jun 09, 2016 5:55 pm ]
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Quote: First, be a more interesting person. Second, realize that even the best of friends are going to have moments of silence during conversation. I usually just look at the girl and smile in adoration. I'll wait for her to say something to try and impress me. You're coming at women with the wrong attitude. Stop trying to impress people. Be a bad ass and make people want to impress you. You're telling him to just "be" a specific way which gives an end point but nothing tangible to work on. That's like telling someone "be happy" "just be confident" - without any specific actionable behavior(s) they're just empty phrases. Being an "interesting person" involves experiencing life. But really, Op, by building yourself u'll feel far less outcome focused, more present in yourself and as a byproduct your interaction with people will become much smoother - and yes, u'll be comfortable with 'awkward silences' rather than trying to diffuse the tension you're feeling with idle banter/filler.

Author:	DJ_Z [ Thu Jun 09, 2016 7:31 pm ]
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Remember conversation is not the goal. Talking to her has a purpose. If you are hitting awkward silences, you're so busy talking that you are forgetting to try to fuck her. That's why "have fun" is shit advice

Author:	n2thevoid [ Thu Jun 09, 2016 7:37 pm ]
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Quote: Remember conversation is not the goal. Talking to her has a purpose. If you are hitting awkward silences, you're so busy talking that you are forgetting to try to fuck her. That's why "have fun" is shit advice Wrongheaded view. Try chasing something u'll find that something becomes ever-so increasingly more elusive.

Author:	Jay (Majik) [ Thu Jun 09, 2016 9:31 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: First, be a more interesting person. Second, realize that even the best of friends are going to have moments of silence during conversation. I usually just look at the girl and smile in adoration. I'll wait for her to say something to try and impress me. You're coming at women with the wrong attitude. Stop trying to impress people. Be a bad ass and make people want to impress you. You're telling him to just "be" a specific way which gives an end point but nothing tangible to work on. That's like telling someone "be happy" "just be confident" - without any specific actionable behavior(s) they're just empty phrases. Being an "interesting person" involves experiencing life. But really, Op, by building yourself u'll feel far less outcome focused, more present in yourself and as a byproduct your interaction with people will become much smoother - and yes, u'll be comfortable with 'awkward silences' rather than trying to diffuse the tension you're feeling with idle banter/filler. Simply put.... He needs to get some hobbies. That will make anyone a more interesting, bad ass person. Learn to play an instrument. Take a boxing class. Travel somewhere. Try something new and you'll have something new to talk about. Not a very difficult concept.

Author:	sadDog [ Fri Jun 10, 2016 1:48 am ]
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Quote: Quote: Quote: First, be a more interesting person. Second, realize that even the best of friends are going to have moments of silence during conversation. I usually just look at the girl and smile in adoration. I'll wait for her to say something to try and impress me. You're coming at women with the wrong attitude. Stop trying to impress people. Be a bad ass and make people want to impress you. You're telling him to just "be" a specific way which gives an end point but nothing tangible to work on. That's like telling someone "be happy" "just be confident" - without any specific actionable behavior(s) they're just empty phrases. Being an "interesting person" involves experiencing life. But really, Op, by building yourself u'll feel far less outcome focused, more present in yourself and as a byproduct your interaction with people will become much smoother - and yes, u'll be comfortable with 'awkward silences' rather than trying to diffuse the tension you're feeling with idle banter/filler. Simply put.... He needs to get some hobbies. That will make anyone a more interesting, bad ass person. Learn to play an instrument. Take a boxing class. Travel somewhere. Try something new and you'll have something new to talk about. Not a very difficult concept. I am a amatuer muay fight(6 years practicing, and some fights. also boxing and BJJ), I also travelled half of my continent, dancing classes(5 styles),ok, I have a lot of hobbies. I still have problems with 'awkward silences', if it is a active date I just say nothing, and most of the time works. But sometimes you have to say something, like after cum(in the break). I dont know how to start talk about my hobbies, should be like "do you know I can crack a dude ribs with my knee...blablabla"?hahahahaha. I always do in a chaotic way, and some times I just fail, and increase the awkwardness.

Author:	nr32 [ Fri Jun 10, 2016 5:03 am ]
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It's funny how I see so many guys go into a conversation with an objective like Have fun with your conversations! Tease her. There's almost always something to banter, like what she said or something in the environment or whatever. Awkward silences are normal and will reduce the more you develop a spontaneous mindset to have fun.

Author:	JustSimplyAttracted [ Fri Jun 10, 2016 7:47 am ]
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Don't try to force conversation to fill in the silence. If you're chatting and there happens to be a moment of silence just roll with it and continue expressing yourself. Afterwards continue to lead the interaction

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Author:	kidfromcro [ Fri Jun 10, 2016 10:02 am ]
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that"s a good way to see if she is interested,when silence happens lay back and see if she tries to keep conversation going,if she does,you have something to go on from there so there will be no more awkward silence