PUA Forum :: Situation advice please

I have been talking to this girl over fb messenger for 2 weeks, managed to get her out for a drink/date at a great bar overlooking the beach.. it went SO WELL. Anyway walked her 90% of the way home, asked for her number and managed to close with a kiss.. I was fairly drunk but was so happy.

This is the advice part I need.

She goes on holiday in 6 days time and has said she won't be able to meet up before she goes, she said she's definitely up for meeting after she gets back in one week.. We have been texting everyday since the date (5 days ago) but only like 3 - 4 texts per day.. conversation has gone flat,

It's my turn to text back but the conversation has gone flat!

Should I message back as normal with something to talk about or leave it a few days or just send her a text the day before she goes? I don't want to seem too keen but at the same time want to be interested.

Also how can I stay in touch while she's on holiday but obviously let her enjoy her holiday with her friend.

Any advice tips would be appreciated.

I am almost 23 and she is 25 if that makes any difference

Author:	Will181181 [ Tue May 17, 2016 7:47 pm ]
Post subject:	Situation advice please
I have been talking to this girl over fb messenger for 2 weeks, managed to get her out for a drink/date at a great bar overlooking the beach.. it went SO WELL. Anyway walked her 90% of the way home, asked for her number and managed to close with a kiss.. I was fairly drunk but was so happy. This is the advice part I need. She goes on holiday in 6 days time and has said she won't be able to meet up before she goes, she said she's definitely up for meeting after she gets back in one week.. We have been texting everyday since the date (5 days ago) but only like 3 - 4 texts per day.. conversation has gone flat, It's my turn to text back but the conversation has gone flat! Should I message back as normal with something to talk about or leave it a few days or just send her a text the day before she goes? I don't want to seem too keen but at the same time want to be interested. Also how can I stay in touch while she's on holiday but obviously let her enjoy her holiday with her friend. Any advice tips would be appreciated. I am almost 23 and she is 25 if that makes any difference

Author:	n2thevoid [ Tue May 17, 2016 8:01 pm ]
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If your motivation for texting her is out of a fear of losing her, I would resist. And, well, seeing as you're afraid of losing her interest to me at least that sounds a bit like scarcity, above and beyond the fact you're giving it so much thought. That said, this may be a good opportunity to work on your text 'game' to at least keep the momentum going if ONLY for the sake of sharpening a skill, so-to-speak. I would keep things light, fluffy, and funny. I can understand wanting to keep the ball in motion, and if I were in your shoes I would engage her in a playful way, whilst keeping it short (unless she's reciprocating in kind). If she starts texting me and seems chatty I have no issue doing the same and I just let things unfold naturally. That said if you really have nothing to say and are digging for something, a day or 2 without a text isn't a big deal and can build intrigue on her end, though I do believe in striking while hot I don't want to overextend myself (for MY own welfare, not hers). As for her going on vacation I'd let things be. If you've piqued her interest enough she will contact you, whether its while away or when she returns. I know you're worried about a potential space with no contact, but you can easily use it as a way to 'qualify' her level of interest in you early on. In the mean time create opportunities with other women, just as you've created this one - that, I strongly believe, is beyond all else the thing to keep in perspective here rather than how do you hold ANY one woman's interest;)

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Tue May 17, 2016 8:07 pm ]
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Quote: I have been talking to this girl over fb messenger for 2 weeks, managed to get her out for a drink/date at a great bar overlooking the beach.. it went SO WELL. Anyway walked her 90% of the way home, asked for her number and managed to close with a kiss.. I was fairly drunk but was so happy. This is the advice part I need. She goes on holiday in 6 days time and has said she won't be able to meet up before she goes, she said she's definitely up for meeting after she gets back in one week.. We have been texting everyday since the date (5 days ago) but only like 3 - 4 texts per day.. conversation has gone flat, It's my turn to text back but the conversation has gone flat! Should I message back as normal with something to talk about or leave it a few days or just send her a text the day before she goes? I don't want to seem too keen but at the same time want to be interested. Also how can I stay in touch while she's on holiday but obviously let her enjoy her holiday with her friend. Any advice tips would be appreciated. I am almost 23 and she is 25 if that makes any difference I assume you've been using a 1 to 1 ratio? Good. Flat conversation, bad. Flat = Boring. Are you being flirty? I already know the answer. Example "So many dirty thoughts today…you inspired them all." Put a smiley on the end maybe. Read R.C.'s text guide as well.

Author:	n2thevoid [ Tue May 17, 2016 8:12 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Situation advice please
What Haywood Jawbone is saying, in essence, is based on 60yearsofchallenges' (a PU 'guru') mantra "Risk creepy". In other words, don't be afraid to escalate things (flirty w a sexual vibe), especially if you're more on the introverted side. You can use reframes for example if she talks about something, frame it in a way where you're accusing her (in a playful way) of implying something sexual. But ya if its just idle jibber jabber "How's your day?" "What's up?" "Hey U!" that's pretty standard fare boring stuff women get all the time. I've said some pretty outlandish stuff before but I own it, often times I'll text as if we're mid-conversation, sometimes I'll be crass, or cut-in with something observational I found funny in the moment, but with the sexual stuff I'll be highly suggestive pit her as a massive pervert, or accuse her of objectifying me completely and act offended, I've even told girls I'm taking a shit if they're asking what I m doing in the moment and that's what I'm doing - I don't take it seriously AT ALL. Sometimes I'll even talk like a chick she's usually thinking "omg he gets me!" turning myself into the prize, telling her we need to hit-up Victoria's Secret for a supportive sports bra (I got some pretty big tits so it works and I'll even play along by going into the store w her and asking the sales lady for some to try-on just to see the expression) etc.. I'll even cut her short (not rudely) if she's gabbing on about some girl that pissed her off such as a friend, coworker etc... and in a valley girl voice, or hers, or with a severe gay-man lisp (imagining how Heywood speaks) i'll say what I think one of her female friends would say only more ridiculous.

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Tue May 17, 2016 8:37 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Situation advice please
Quote: (imagining how Heywood speaks)

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