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Author:  Classy1911 [ Sat Apr 23, 2016 1:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Does she play me?
Hello.

Not sure if this is the right place to ask about this question.

Hooked up with a girl about a week ago. We connected really good and had sex the at my place first night.

(It was alot of cuddle and kissing but the sex was not the best, my fault.)

Next morning she said she where abit hungover but we had a coffe in my kitchen, and we talked for abit.
I followed her down to the station and I asked her if she wanted to hang out an other time.

She said yes but I think she doubted in me abit cus when i was to type her in my phone-book she said "guess my name" (Like I forgot that) ofc i knew it so was no prob. Then she said "How you know I am not making this number up?". me: "I just call you one dail so i pop up on your phone so you can have my number as well."
She: "Oh one more number to block"

At this point she started to piss me off so I told her "just tell me if you don't want to hangout instead". Then shes like no I am just joking. :?: (No clue what this was about)

So I kissed her goodbye and went back home.

After 2 days I text her and ask if she wanna hang out someday this week. She says she have lots of work and here family is coming over but asks if next week is ok.

I respond it's okey and loosely suggests a day for an activity i know she likes. She says "yea maybe I might do that with X, not sure. But we can probably do it anyway"

It's like she did not say yes or no.. :?

Am I trying to plan to long ahead? To much pressure on her? Be more spontaneous?

However she desslikes texting so she adds me on facebook and we been chatting almost everyday. She is driven in conversation with questions about me and talk about how her/mine day was/been blablaba... And she even started the conversation once.

Now I can see from her posts on facebook that she is not what I would call that busy so she can't meet me. Shes spontaneously going out with her friends for day-trips, posting pictures of her being home alone doing almost nothing.
"Oh it's only me and my Tea-cup and a book <3 #cozy"

Needless to say I am sort of into this girl not really sure why, prob cus we connected really nice the first night and in our chats. So I am not out to just jump her pants again, I wanna see if she is gf-material, but i really start to doubt her now.
Author:  JackZero [ Sat Apr 23, 2016 3:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Does she play me?
Sounds like you are invested in this girl way too early and can't appreciate the fact that she hasn't prioritized you the same way.
Author:  Finished [ Sat Apr 23, 2016 3:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Does she play me?
Once you've fucked them and spent some good time together, just leave them alone afterwards and get one with your life.

If they're interested in anything more then they will make the effort to contact you. Then it's your decision on whether you want to see her again.

You're being a needy little bitch. Stop pestering her and find something better to do.
Author:  dicemaster [ Sat Apr 23, 2016 3:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Does she play me?
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Once you've fucked them and spent some good time together, just leave them alone afterwards and get one with your life.

If they're interested in anything more then they will make the effort to contact you. Then it's your decision on whether you want to see her again.

You're being a needy little bitch. Stop pestering her and find something better to do.
This.

My 2 cents are, for FUCKs sake why acted you that way after you Fuck that chick. Try to have this mindset, you fucked her anc this chick become your bitch. So afterwards let her go, she would probably call you for validating her actiona. They feel like bichted up after one night stands , they feel used. For beating this guilt they are trying to validate theirselves by try to make a connetion with you. Next time fuck and do not call till she calls or be their little bitches. It is up to you.
Author:  JackZero [ Sat Apr 23, 2016 4:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Does she play me?
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Once you've fucked them and spent some good time together, just leave them alone afterwards and get one with your life.

If they're interested in anything more then they will make the effort to contact you. Then it's your decision on whether you want to see her again.

You're being a needy little bitch. Stop pestering her and find something better to do.
This.

My 2 cents are, for FUCKs sake why acted you that way after you Fuck that chick. Try to have this mindset, you fucked her anc this chick become your bitch. So afterwards let her go, she would probably call you for validating her actiona. They feel like bichted up after one night stands , they feel used. For beating this guilt they are trying to validate theirselves by try to make a connetion with you. Next time fuck and do not call till she calls or be their little bitches. It is up to you.
Maybe it's me, but I don't see him as appearing needy or pestering in a way that it could be seen by her that way. Possibly, he looked like he couldn't take a joke at most. The only thing that the OP needs to really do is quit analyzing her Facebook page to gauge her interest.
Author:  Fahreineit [ Sat Apr 23, 2016 4:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Does she play me?
was this girl called Rebbecca ?

Just f*cking around.

I think you don't see this relationship the same way. She hooked up with you and the sex was bad, it happens, but if you havent done her right after ward she will think you're a loosy shot, and lets be honest no one wants that.

If you have sex with her and she was horrendous would you call her again ?

It happened to me once where I got way to drunk and could not lift it, I brought her to the station, I said " I text you later on " she said " yeah okay *smile, kiss leave* ) and when I hit her up she's like " I am busy I cant even though I want to " ( british people always sugar coats stuff ) so I pushed harder the second week until it pissed me off and here's what I did.

I just ghosted and moved on.

Sometimes you ghost and they come back later if they care that's great, sometimes they don't.... well, there's plenty of wish in the sea
Author:  MagicPlus [ Sat Apr 23, 2016 5:19 pm ]
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(It was alot of cuddle and kissing but the sex was not the best, my fault.)
Maybe this a clue. Next time when you're together try to make it better.

Relax, and don't over-analyze the situation, if she likes you, then she like you, and will probably hook up again.

Also, try to use her form of humor against her, but be subtle about it.
Author:  Classy1911 [ Sun Apr 24, 2016 1:12 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Does she play me?
Thanks for the input guys I really appreciate it.

I should probably try to use abit more humor, but in my defense it was early in morning half hungover it and it was cold af. So I lost my playmode.

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For beating this guilt they are trying to validate theirselves by try to make a connetion with you.
Never thought of it this way, I like your input.
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If you have sex with her and she was horrendous would you call her again ?
No.. But if she called I would give her clear signals that I am not interested. Not maybe or a loose date or discussing other personal maters for no reason. And defiantly not starting conversations my self.
Else I would be totally cool with that. I really like it when people say to my face what their intentions are.

What bugs me is that shes keeps chatting with me and asks me about my life. "baiting me" :? . To me this is the same as saying "I am interested in you, would you like to meet up some day."

But maybe this is as Natural_Dec said a way of validating them self.

Rebbecca why? You know her? :D

I am probably bit to needy and analyzes to much so I guess I will go passive against her. 8)
Author:  JackZero [ Sun Apr 24, 2016 1:28 am ]
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If you have sex with her and she was horrendous would you call her again ?
Hmm...doesn't sound like something I'd say. I believe everyone deserves a second chance.
Author:  Finished [ Sun Apr 24, 2016 11:08 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Does she play me?
Woahh don't go putting dicemasters words into my mouth! I don't need this kind of insultary... especially on a sunday! :)
Author:  Fahreineit [ Sun Apr 24, 2016 8:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Does she play me?
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Thanks for the input guys I really appreciate it.

I should probably try to use abit more humor, but in my defense it was early in morning half hungover it and it was cold af. So I lost my playmode.

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For beating this guilt they are trying to validate theirselves by try to make a connetion with you.
Never thought of it this way, I like your input.
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If you have sex with her and she was horrendous would you call her again ?


Rebbecca why? You know her? :D
Hey That was my quote :D

Nah I had sex with a Rebecca that pulls me the same scenario, a tinder date that I had sex with on the first date and then we got drunk at mine and in the morning when we did it again I had whiskey cock. she did the same and baited and never saw her again.

it's like, you got this chick, she's allright but she ain't your favorite, but you keep her warms this way when your favorite arent around you still have your weekly BJ know what I mean ?
Author:  R.C [ Mon Apr 25, 2016 10:44 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Does she play me?
You got a bit insecure about your performance, and hence the interaction down the road had to suffer because you came at it from a negativistic standpoint. That's why you couldn't take an obvious joke.

Also don't be surprised to get half assed replies when you make half assed proposals.

"Let's go out next week" is not an acceptable date invite. "Let's go out for bowling, Tuesday, 8PM." is. A date needs to have set a time, a location and an activity.
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