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Author:  thequietlife [ Thu Mar 31, 2016 7:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Is this a stupid or good idea.
Basically two girls is my reasons for this post. One girl that's flakey as fuck ( who personally think is just using me for attention) I met through a friend, it's her cousin basically. Now personally I'd know whether my cousin was into someone or not, it's a conversation we would have. I personally feel her cousins leading me on, but my friend ( which is the girl of the cousin i like) plays dumb and oblivious to the whole situation. Both really immature about it. Now she's told me she has a free week off and she free when ever so I'm planning to meet on Monday,which she's blanked already. ( obviously shit signs, never making a solid date)

Now the girl b I actually do kinds of like ( I've fucked her) but she's also kind of being distant at the moment now she's seeing someone, won't even treat me as a friend, blanks most of my messages

I personally believe both have come to an end, and was going to delete them off all social media and delete their numbers, or is that too much or too harsh, I mean I value myself and respect my self too much to keep being ignored or messed around, I just want to know if I'm being hasty, I mean after all they'll get back in contact if they cared.


Side note one of themselves likely to ask why I deleted them, what response should I give if any at all. Or will a logical response just make me sound like a bitch.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 2:53 am ]
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Deleting is an over-reaction that shows how invested you were/are.

Ignore them, game new girls, have said girl on your arm next time you see them.
Author:  R.C [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 6:07 am ]
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Deleting is an over-reaction that shows how invested you were/are.
And patching up a wound is an over-reaction that shows how injured you were?

Do what you gotta do OP.
Author:  thequietlife [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 10:23 am ]
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I maybe being a bit slow rc but are are you agreeing with arch or disagreeing and thinking I should delete if I feel like it ?
Author:  R.C [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 11:13 am ]
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I'm disagreeing with him.
Author:  nr32 [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 3:12 pm ]
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Do what it takes to move on. If that means deleting numbers, so be it. If you keep the numbers because you want to show that you don't care -- guess what, OP, you care -- and that's validation-seeking behavior, i.e. neediness.

There was a period of time just two months ago when I was overcome with oneitis, but now that I look back at it, she was the most boring woman I've ever talked to. It's normal to have these attachments, but don't let it start dictating your life.
Author:  thequietlife [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 3:32 pm ]
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It's bizarre because I feel like I'm in this weird cycle of girls just speaking to me for attention (pua term orbiter) to pass the time for when they want to get back with their x or somone they deem
To better. In one way I do feel like deleting the number shows I cared but in another way, once I've deleted their number my output has stopped and as I mentioned earlier if they cared they would put the effort back in.

It happens that's fine, but im this shit cycle where I'm meeting and talking but when I pop the date issue nothing comes off it and I I have more self respect than keep giving them
My time.

Weird side note I heard someone once say in life "you're right where you're supposed to be"
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 4:01 pm ]
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It's bizarre because I feel like I'm in this weird cycle of girls just speaking to me for attention (pua term orbiter) to pass the time for when they want to get back with their x or somone they deem
To better.
I often say build more comfort, but the reverse is true here. You focus on not being a sexual threat and only building comfort.

Flakes happen for many reasons, but the two biggest are to much comfort, and not enough comfort.
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In one way I do feel like deleting the number shows I cared but in another way, once I've deleted their number my output has stopped and as I mentioned earlier if they cared they would put the effort back in.
I don't delete (often), not because it shows anything. I'm lazy sometimes in the respect that it can be easier to turn am already stored number, into a drunk text late night booty call. I do that.
Author:  thequietlife [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 5:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this a stupid or good idea.
I have deleted some girls recently because I felt like keep them them
In my snapchat and phone was just pointless as they were going nowhere. In regards to the first girl unknown it's her birthday soon she'll start her shot like why didn't you get me a card, even though she's ignored my date ideas and will try and play games. I think the only reason I like to delete is I know I get tempted to text or do something silly that did players lower value.

In regards the the other girl I'm just going to ignore except I can't really see her bother me as she seems happy with what ever she's doing.

I guess if they come back and they still play games or act immature I'll delete. They obviously don't respect me and take me serious so I'll play it by ear and delete if they do restart pointless convos or continue to waste my time without me initiating anything.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 5:45 pm ]
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You' not picking up what I'm laying down.
Author:  thequietlife [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 6:11 pm ]
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Aha I'm frustrating myself, im taking on board what people are saying. Deep down I know what i should do but there other side of me is fighting it and self sabotaging.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 6:21 pm ]
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Aha I'm frustrating myself, im taking on board what people are saying. Deep down I know what i should do but there other side of me is fighting it and self sabotaging.
It's the catch 22 of not maintaining options, the more options you have, the less you give a shit. The less you give a shit, the more options seem to fall in your lap.

Stop giving a shit.
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