South African Here.
Now, let me just get a few things out the way before i ask my question.
*Girls are ruthless, i understand that now.
*I struggle with completely using the game. Ill use bits and pieces of it when an opportunity arrives but never follow a whole routine/method.
*I am very self confident and can talk to anyone, yet i struggle with approach anxiety i think, and i usually overthink things.
*im 18 going onto 19 so my "target audience" might be a bit younger than most of yours.
So here is the low down:
I few months back, i went to a friends house where we all were just hanging out, smoking hub (which is a huge south african past time). There were friends of friends there and it was a nice environment. Towards the end of the night, i got close with these 2 girls. I wasn't really interested because i felt shit that night, but i still started a conversation.
Anyway, it came time for me to go, and being the person i am, ill greet everyone individually, whether i know them personally or not. So i went around the room greeting everyone, and when i cam across one of the girls i was spewing to, she asked me what my name was, so i told her, and then she told me hers. End of the night.
ULTRA came, and i saw her again (a few weeks back) and we didn't do much talking really, we just said hello.
Then, I decided to get a new look and i completely hanged my hair, and got a lot of compliments about it. So i hit the club, lets just stop here for a second...
I have a very strict set of parents so going out doesn't happen often with me (going out clubbing) so when i do go to these kind of things, i try to enjoy myself instead of focusing on hooking up.
ANyway, I'm at the club, standing there, moving my feet because the club was still a bit empty. I caught this girl looking at me, and we held eye contact for a second, then i looked away. To make sure it wasn't a fluke, i looked at her again and she looked at me. I smiled and she smiled back. I held eye contact till she looked away (basics right?).
A few minutes later, after finishing y drink, i went to the bar and she was there. I said high to her, only to realise it was the girl i was speaking about above. we took a shot together after having a quick chat. After the shot, this guy came up to me and said i just bought his gf a shot, so i backed off and didn't pursue anymore.
I saw her again later that evening and asked her about the whole boyfriend situation to which she replied "I don't have a boyfriend". I walked away because i nearly pissed myself due to the amount of water i had drank that day.
The night ended, i went home. I had already gotten her number off of Facebook. This is the conversation that ensued.Yes, my generation uses a lot of emoji's
ME: Ay, hows my favourite little brat doing?
HER: Hii, Im good *laughing face* - Thanks for the shot last night, hopefully I'll get more
ME: Well that depends, If you get permission form your boyfriend
Her:I don't have a boyfriend *Laughing face*
ME: Oh well, i guess there will be more shots then, but not everything is take and no give hey
HER: Yah *laughing face*
we talk about this street party coming up and how expensive tickets are
HER: How old are you? *laughing face*
ME: How old do you think I am, because apparently my age and looks differ
HER: You said You're studying, so maybe 20?
ME: Thats what everyone says, but I'm actually 18 going on 19 hun
HER:oh okay
ME: How old are you? (i genuinely didn't know so i had to find out to make sur rim not a pedo)
HER:Guess
ME: Do you want me to guess high or low?
Her:Just guess. How old do i look? *laughing face*
Me: Id say 18 -I like to add because i think you're quite mature. (taken straight from the forums)
Her: Im 16. !7 in June.
ME: ah dam, I'm sorry to disappoint, but 17 is as low as i go... Need some stability, not some young unpredictable party animal!! maybe next tie
*Doesnt reply*
Me: oh, i must have mistook you for someone who had a sense of humour, dork. Haha, but i still love you - so don't go jumping off a building or anything.(Taken from the forums) Are you throwing a Jol? *devil face* (Jol meaning party for her birthday).
She read these messages and didn't reply. What should my next move be?
Thanks in advance
Mystro