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Author:  willoughbeast1 [ Mon Jan 25, 2016 10:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I over
Ok So I've read 2 books on texting and it helped me land this date, neither really address the step right after the in detail of what to say after the first date just briefly. Everything is about leading up to the first date and continuing onto the dates after but they kinda skip over what to say between date one and 2. My dilemma is that I had a great first date at starbucks (I could tell she was mutually interested bc she kept qualifying her self) had a good report for an hour so it wasn't to long it was brief I feel like. Set up the 2nd date like so. I wave her down quick hug completely casual. We enter starbucks
Me "You got this right?"
Her "I got this? You got this!"
Me pause for about a minute
Me "Tell you what I'll get it this time you can get it the next time." Smiling
Her " I can get mine if you want me to."
Me no response
Get to the register she orders and the lady ask anything else I proceed to add mine and then pay for it reminding her shes's got me next time. Smiling
All fun and games she was biting and laughing she actually kept bringing it up saying now you better hold it to me! Dont forget! Remind me! I got you next time! All on her own.

So the date went on we talked about a few things for a solid hour, then she mentioned she would need to leave soon bc the roads were gonna Ice over and It's an except able excuse. So Ik that was my cue. I gave the convo about five more minutes before saying
Me "I need to go to walmart to grab a couple things for my place wanna ride?"
Her "Its getting late." not so blunt but kinda like that.
Me "Ok cool."
Get up walk out were she then reminds me to hold it against her to pay the next time so the second date is setup unofficially.
We talk as we walk to the cars I walk to hers she gives me a story why her car had a huge dent in it. Qualifying herself so to speak.
Things Ik I could have done better on the date.
Made her laugh a little more.
Been a little more flirtatious/sexually aggressive.

I head to walmart send a quick snapchat of the huge ass valentines bears
Me "These things are as big as me"
Her "Ik they're like 40 to 50 bucks right?
Me" Idk anyone worth that lol"
Her "Me either haha"
Me 10 mins later snapchat "Had a great time btw lets shoot for soon"
Her " Me too very soon!"
Me" 5 minutes later. Drive safe dont wanna scrape you off the road."
Her "Ik I need to be looking at the road" again these are snapchat pictures
Me "Ik I'm not that sexy you can look at the road now lol"
No repsonse
Me An hour or so later snapchat picture "Driving the race car prob wasnt good idea (crazy face)"
No response so I leave it at that then say about 2 in the a.m before going to sleep I sent a text
Me "Fwehh just getting in... Hope you made it home safe! Night punk. :P"
About 18 hours later still no response still trying to calculate the next move! Any advice?
Author:  DW-Heart-Charmer [ Tue Jan 26, 2016 1:43 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I
Way too needy after a date dude. Give her some time to miss you.
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We talk as we walk to the cars I walk to hers she gives me a story why her car had a huge dent in it. Qualifying herself so to speak.
This isn't qualifying.
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Me" Idk anyone worth that lol"
Her "Me either haha"
Me 10 mins later snapchat "Had a great time btw lets shoot for soon"
Her " Me too very soon!"
This works well. You IOD, she IODs, you respond with an IOI and she responds with an IOI. She is not super into you, but she is into you.
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Me" 5 minutes later. Drive safe dont wanna scrape you off the road."
You give her an IOI and she gives you an IOD:
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Her "Ik I need to be looking at the road" again these are snapchat pictures
Stop here. Instead you get more needy and desperate. Let her miss you before you text her like she is your gf.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Tue Jan 26, 2016 2:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I
You're trying too hard to be cool. You're trying to find a cool way to be needy with pickup lines.

You were trying to set up a date before the first one was even properly over. I know the 3 day 2 hour 19 minute rule is pathetic, but at least wait a day or 2 and then call and ask when she's free to get together again.

At this point you do nothing until she reaches out to you. When she does, you ask when she's free. Either you set a date from there to the point that you have no reason to contact her whatsoever before the date (yes, not at all and if she contacts you you don't let her keep you for long because you're busy) OR if she doesn't want to date you, you politely tell her to SUC..... to give you a call if she changes her mind because you'd love to see her.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Tue Jan 26, 2016 2:26 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I
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Me" 5 minutes later. Drive safe dont wanna scrape you off the road."

Her "Ik I need to be looking at the road" again these are snapchat pictures
Me "Ik I'm not that sexy you can look at the road now lol"
No repsonse
Me An hour or so later snapchat picture "Driving the race car prob wasnt good idea (crazy face)"
No response so I leave it at that then say about 2 in the a.m before going to sleep I sent a text
Me "Fwehh just getting in... Hope you made it home safe! Night punk. :P"
About 18 hours later still no response still trying to calculate the next move! Any advice?[/b][

Stop texting her, see other women. This is too needy, too available. The lack of contact can "cleanse" this kind of neediness. It depends how into you she was.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Tue Jan 26, 2016 2:28 am ]
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if she doesn't want to date you, you politely tell her to SUC..... to give you a call if she changes her mind because you'd love to see her.
:lol:
Author:  willoughbeast1 [ Tue Jan 26, 2016 2:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I
Awesome I see what you guys mean! Ik that being needy has always been a bit of a problem for me but didnt realize I was being that needy apparently I judged wrong thanks for the in site!
I'll keep you posted on the outcome! I think its a go for now we'll see! If i screw it up then I just learn from my mistakes!
Author:  willoughbeast1 [ Tue Jan 26, 2016 2:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I
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Way too needy after a date dude. Give her some time to miss you.
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We talk as we walk to the cars I walk to hers she gives me a story why her car had a huge dent in it. Qualifying herself so to speak.
This isn't qualifying.
Ik its not the true definition of qualifying what I meant was she was trying to show she was kinda ashamed of it than again maybe not...
She did qualify herself a couple of times.
example I was telling how one of my exes has a kid I'm 21 btw my ex is 26 and it was a problem for me. She went on to say I'm not married and I dont have any kids thank god. Something along those lines...
Author:  WillEdward [ Tue Jan 26, 2016 9:31 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I
Yup, I agree with what's been said. You're investing and qualifying yourself a lot more than she is. You should never double text. Just leave it for now until she responds back and just game other girls.
Author:  R.C [ Tue Jan 26, 2016 10:03 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I
Read my guide on texting, it covers everything I'd normally reply to you.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Jan 26, 2016 2:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I
Everything was fine until you did too much and start triple messaging her.

All you had to do was leave things how they were after she didn't respond to your first snap. She may of started driving, got busy with something or just forgot. She would of messaged you later. But instead you went all desperate and kept contacting someone that wasn't even replying to you. That is turn off, and you haven't even had sex with her yet. You invested your time, and your money, and hadn't even gotten a return yet.

There is never a need to double text after the moment with a girl. Let her be the one to reinitiate if you send the last message once you have her hooked. She was hooked. You just had to chill. She may message you tomorrow. If not, just take this is a lesson, power through the "whats if's" and move on. Don't contact her again.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Tue Jan 26, 2016 4:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I
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Read my guide on texting, it covers everything I'd normally reply to you.
I second this. It's long but you'll learn from it. I disband I only read it last week.
Author:  ridinsolo [ Wed Jan 27, 2016 3:57 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I
Agreed with other posters, triple text way too needy. I'd add that phrases like "I hope you got home safe!" should be avoided - they make you sound like a chode.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Wed Jan 27, 2016 5:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I
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A I'd add that phrases like "I hope you got home safe!" should be avoided - they make you sound like a chode.

Yep. As if women can't drive and are these fragile, wilting flowers. It's a bit eager.

And please try not to double text unless it's been over 12 hours and you're setting up a meet.

I like to leave a girl's text hanging sometimes just so I don't double text that night or a couple days out. They do pay attention to this shit unless they're drunk or infatuated with you.

If a girl is texting you first thing in the morning (I don't care why) you can get away with this for a bit, but it will lower your value over time.
Author:  nr32 [ Thu Jan 28, 2016 5:00 pm ]
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If a girl is texting you first thing in the morning (I don't care why) you can get away with this for a bit, but it will lower your value over time.
What do you mean by this?
Author:  nr32 [ Thu Jan 28, 2016 5:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I
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Read my guide on texting, it covers everything I'd normally reply to you.
OP, ^ this
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