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| Author: | darrryll [ Sat Dec 26, 2015 8:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | cheating, what next |
so, I've been together with a girl for 3 years now. Last four months she was abroad and I already had gotten some hints (lower text frequencies, less fun communicating, ... ) She has been back for a week now and finally she revealed she had been cheating. In a way I don't really care that much, we've been together since she was 18 and i am a lot older (27). I've had my share of women and in her case I think it would be silly to be with one partner from 18 onwards. In some kind of fantasyland college studying abroad I wasn't really that surprised. So now i've sent her home and said I needed some time to think things through. Since we had been togheter for 3 years and honestly i had no complaints: she doesn't nag, looks good and she fun to be around... I think she might deserve another chance. Any pro tips on how to handle this cheating behaviour and how to get a stronger relationship after this? Or would you never consider taking a cheater back? Anyways just wanted to hear some opinions and tips. |
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| Author: | Dragula [ Sat Dec 26, 2015 10:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: cheating, what next |
Do you not have any self respect? If you can't resist, Why not make an open relationship if you're both just gonna fuck around regardless? Surely that is the logical thing to do? You both evidently can't be monogamous so why fight it? But anyway, she cunted you big time, don't reward her bad behaviour, especially when there is a few billion more girls in the world. Why are you on PUA forum? |
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| Author: | J.Daniels [ Sun Dec 27, 2015 3:19 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: cheating, what next |
A stronger relationship? Impossible. The first time is always the hardest when it comes to cheating. The relationship is weak, she made it weak. |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Mon Dec 28, 2015 3:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: cheating, what next |
I could see being okay with cheating if you were dating for a month or two and it wasn't really serious. But you were together for 3 years? And living with each other? I'd toss her ass to the curb. That shows she had no respect for you or the relationship. And the fact that you're willing to take her back shows you have no respect for yourself. You need to revamp your dating life. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Mon Dec 28, 2015 4:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: cheating, what next |
Put her in the FWB pile. |
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| Author: | Dragula [ Mon Dec 28, 2015 4:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: cheating, what next |
Quote: Put her in the FWB pile.
I get the feeling for the OP it has become a FWB's situation...to which it would be one of those kinds where they are both exclusive, see each other 8 times a week type of fuck buddies and get mad at each other if they look at another person.
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| Author: | J.Daniels [ Mon Dec 28, 2015 9:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: cheating, what next |
Quote: Quote: Put her in the FWB pile.
I get the feeling for the OP it is becomes to a FWB's situation...it would be one of those kinds where as they are both exclusive and see each other 8 times a week type of fuck buddies and get mad at each other if ,they look at another person.
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| Author: | R.C [ Tue Dec 29, 2015 8:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: cheating, what next |
She will do it again OP. As you said, she was 18. Of-course she's curious. You won't make this relationship stronger in any way, all you can do is turn it into an open one. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Tue Dec 29, 2015 7:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: cheating, what next |
She definitely has to be downgraded to a friends with benefits as she takes time to work her way back up in your life to regain commitment. You go out there and start meeting new women and she'll be doing everything she can to regain status in your life. Now if you downgrade it to friends with benefits and don't start pursuing other women it will be of no use. Nevertheless, I personally would just let her go completely. It is your willingness in your frame to forgive and forget that provided her with some of the motivation to cheat in the first place. And unless that is corrected, history will repeat itself. |
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| Author: | 199Flags [ Thu Dec 31, 2015 5:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: cheating, what next |
Ouch, I'd get out of that sooner than later and use that distrust you learned for women through her to use on banging multiple girls at once without getting serious. |
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