PUA Forum :: Accepting rejection / Giving up

Pretty sure many times I've just walked away. Sometimes I say bye... sometimes not... Why elaborate on the reasons you're leaving to someone who isn't interested... Move on to the next!

that is just your ego trying to keep itself intact

As far as I'm aware "plowing" or "barreling through" is only meant to be used as a method to reframe an interaction and eliminate an autopilot response on cold approaches and as such should only last 2 to 3 minutes if that.

Any longer and you give off needy vibes.

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Pretty sure many times I've just walked away. Sometimes I say bye... sometimes not... Why elaborate on the reasons you're leaving to someone who isn't interested... Move on to the next!

How do you handle the girl if she gets too clingy ?? I told a girl as politely as I could that we can't go along together. But she got too clingy and few days later had her new bf texting me and threatening me for stalking her, which obviously I hadn't.

(And irony is, we were not even in a relationship. I had hardly talked to her a week.)

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Pretty sure many times I've just walked away. Sometimes I say bye... sometimes not... Why elaborate on the reasons you're leaving to someone who isn't interested... Move on to the next!

I think I'm more talking about chicks that I'm approaching or hitting on who aren't showing me any interest, or that you can tell are just... not going to warm up.

In those cases I'm saying it's fine to just not waste another breath on them and walk.

Author:	takky [ Mon Oct 26, 2015 1:37 pm ]
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Hi, I'd like to know how you are ending interaction with girls that don't like you. When I get some resistance I try to plow through it but sometimes I just know that this isn't going to work. I continue talking and I often get "You should leave." (No some token resistance. The girl just really isn't interested.) When I recognize this in advance, should I be honest and just give up with "I'm bored here. I should leave." and then leave the set? I read a lot about not giving up, plowing, re-approaches and stuff, but you know - should I bother? There are another girls... I just wanna know your opinion. Are you ending sets like a leader or are you trying to plow?

Author:	CharlesFinley [ Mon Oct 26, 2015 1:49 pm ]
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Pretty sure many times I've just walked away. Sometimes I say bye... sometimes not... Why elaborate on the reasons you're leaving to someone who isn't interested... Move on to the next!

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Mon Oct 26, 2015 2:17 pm ]
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You've got to know when to hold 'em Know when to fold 'em Know when to walk away Know when to run. - Kenny Rogers

Author:	Dragula [ Mon Oct 26, 2015 2:18 pm ]
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Plowing is another one of those PUA tactics that do more harm than good like negging Here is how I view it: There is a difference between persistence and Plowing. The reality is, Plowing isn't gonna make an uninterested girl interested. It Is only for the neutral girls only and even then, it's not effective use of your time. It's important to identify disinterested and neutral. Then feel free to Plowing when you've identified the neautral. How can you tell which girls are neutral? • isn't giving you defensive body language • isn't tell you to go away • she could be telling you that you're not her type but her feet are pointing towards you I see way too many guys wasting their time Plowing girls that don't like them. That's time spent away from the sexually available girls. If you sense that there could be something there, then continue. These days I don't have the patience for neutral girls. I just find the ones that are into me at the start and then turn on "don't fuck it up" mode.

Author:	Style981 [ Mon Oct 26, 2015 9:24 pm ]
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Quote: Pretty sure many times I've just walked away. Sometimes I say bye... sometimes not... Why elaborate on the reasons you're leaving to someone who isn't interested... Move on to the next! How do you handle the girl if she gets too clingy ?? I told a girl as politely as I could that we can't go along together. But she got too clingy and few days later had her new bf texting me and threatening me for stalking her, which obviously I hadn't. (And irony is, we were not even in a relationship. I had hardly talked to her a week.)

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Author:	Melodical [ Mon Oct 26, 2015 11:32 pm ]
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As far as I'm aware "plowing" or "barreling through" is only meant to be used as a method to reframe an interaction and eliminate an autopilot response on cold approaches and as such should only last 2 to 3 minutes if that. Any longer and you give off needy vibes.

Author:	DJ_Z [ Tue Oct 27, 2015 12:10 am ]
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To quote Gunwitch: Make the ho say no. Until she either walks away, or tells you to leave her alone or that she's not interested etc, you keep trying. Stop trying to read her body language for indicators she isn't interested since that means you are looking for reasons to walk away from the very beginning of the pickup. And when that does happen, your last priority should be to say something like "I'm bored I'm going to leave" because that is just your ego trying to keep itself intact. It's just as likely girls are losing interest because you're not pushing things forward and are stuck in that early smalltalk stage.

Author:	takky [ Tue Oct 27, 2015 3:04 pm ]
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Quote: that is just your ego trying to keep itself intact Or that's just me concluding that I just bother this girl (+ I am wasting my time) and I should go for another one who will appreciate me. Quote: As far as I'm aware "plowing" or "barreling through" is only meant to be used as a method to reframe an interaction and eliminate an autopilot response on cold approaches and as such should only last 2 to 3 minutes if that. Any longer and you give off needy vibes. That makes sense.

Author:	dtrak [ Tue Oct 27, 2015 11:56 pm ]
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Either she accepts you or she rejects you. If she is politely not interested i excuse myself like a gentlemen towards a lady, fair enough, not her cup of tea. Next. If she's a bitch i just walk away like if she never existed. And she ceases to exist. lol. But i do that with all negative people. But most of the time when you are alpha they are never mean, they are just not interested, in that case, move on. Of course, plow on to see if it isnt token resistance, but often times interactions go smooth, if she's giving you shit you better be on a good mood if you're going to plow. More often than not i move on. Don't got time for bullshit. Only plow if its fun for you and can increase your mood. Learn to tell the difference between token resistance and real resistance. It becomes clear after a while.

Author:	R.C [ Wed Oct 28, 2015 7:12 am ]
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There's no point "plowing" when she's obviously unreceptive. Anyway, what Drag said.

Author:	CharlesFinley [ Wed Oct 28, 2015 12:41 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Pretty sure many times I've just walked away. Sometimes I say bye... sometimes not... Why elaborate on the reasons you're leaving to someone who isn't interested... Move on to the next! How do you handle the girl if she gets too clingy ?? I told a girl as politely as I could that we can't go along together. But she got too clingy and few days later had her new bf texting me and threatening me for stalking her, which obviously I hadn't. (And irony is, we were not even in a relationship. I had hardly talked to her a week.) I think I'm more talking about chicks that I'm approaching or hitting on who aren't showing me any interest, or that you can tell are just... not going to warm up. In those cases I'm saying it's fine to just not waste another breath on them and walk.

Author:	Style981 [ Wed Oct 28, 2015 9:23 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Quote: Pretty sure many times I've just walked away. Sometimes I say bye... sometimes not... Why elaborate on the reasons you're leaving to someone who isn't interested... Move on to the next! How do you handle the girl if she gets too clingy ?? I told a girl as politely as I could that we can't go along together. But she got too clingy and few days later had her new bf texting me and threatening me for stalking her, which obviously I hadn't. (And irony is, we were not even in a relationship. I had hardly talked to her a week.) I think I'm more talking about chicks that I'm approaching or hitting on who aren't showing me any interest, or that you can tell are just... not going to warm up. In those cases I'm saying it's fine to just not waste another breath on them and walk. Ok I get it.

Author:	adaptordie [ Fri Oct 30, 2015 11:39 pm ]
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rejection is part of life….definately sucks. i recently got rejected by a girl who i thought for sure was gonna give me her number. built up repertoire over a few months at work, flirting week after week. finally bit the bullet and asked her for her number and got the "sorry i have a boyfriend but we can still be friends line" i responded with…"its all good girl i aint mad at ya! its always better to ask, than to wonder What IF?" the what if at the end kind of gives the illusion of lost romance, etc, maybe make her wonder 'what if" lol…

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