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Author:  newinSF [ Sat Oct 17, 2015 11:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Any good suggestions from gurus to respond tothis shit test?
Looking for some guidance from the gurus to respond to this shit test:)

Got a FB message from this girl today around 4pm - "I am looking for good fun friends here and you keep hitting on me!! At least it appears that way"

Wondering what's a good way to respond to this and some of the responses that I can think of are:

1. LMAO...Don't flatter yourself. You are cute but soo not my type;) (OR you are cute but too one dimensional OR your are cute but too much of one track mind)

2. You are absolutely right! ;)

3. Haha...don't flatter yourself..you are too plain Jane for me ;)

4. And you’re like my little sister. Lovable, but a little annoying. I’m going to get you one of those tshirts that says - Please take me on a hike. ;) (since she had asked me 10 days back if I am doing any camping trips around Thanksgiving as she would like to join)

5. Haha...don't start getting ideas. I had plans for tennis and brunch with friends, so you could have tagged along;) (Since we talked about brunch and tennis. She asked me to come to her town for brunch and also said that she is not good with tennis)

Background:
She messaged me on FB today around 8:30am asking if I am going on any hike today. I responded that she can come to SF (50 mins drive for her) and we can hike here. She pushed back on driving to SF and we bantered a bit around it. My last message to her was that - "you are in luck that I am not out biking today"

I met this girl on a hike and during that time she was chatting me up and at the end of the hike she asked me to add her on FB and I told her that she should add me and she complied. She came to the first hike with a guy friend who panders to her and she was showing me some IOIs. Btw she usually messages me with messages ending in :p and I have told her "No tongue! I don't know you that well ;)"
Author:  oceanx [ Sun Oct 18, 2015 12:59 am ]
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#4 all day every day.
Author:  newinSF [ Sun Oct 18, 2015 1:05 am ]
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Quote:
#4 all day every day.
Awesome! Thanks a lot.

Also added a 5th option, any thoughts on that?
Author:  oceanx [ Sun Oct 18, 2015 2:36 am ]
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#4 playfully redirects the convo and VERY IMPORTANTLY does not directly answer the question in any way whatsoever.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Sun Oct 18, 2015 4:50 am ]
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No matter what you say... the girl is still going to find you needy.

Your need to respond properly to her "shit test" is unattractive.
Author:  newinSF [ Sun Oct 18, 2015 8:44 am ]
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Great points guys! Thanks a lot for the follow up and tips, appreciate it.
Author:  oceanx [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 8:28 am ]
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Np :) Deflecting or ignoring this comment by her would make a guy look quite weak.
Author:  R.C [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 10:13 am ]
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"Oh wow, you're so very perceptive".

That's what I'd go with.
Author:  FeaganMox [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 10:46 am ]
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Yeah just be real with her. Say something like we can be just friends If that's what you want but I'd rather get to know you in another way(in your own words)

Worst she could say is no and from there you don't have to waste your time.
Author:  CopernicanShift [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 2:11 pm ]
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I think that girl's interest level is so low you don't have a chance with her but you could probably make a good impression and get her to introduce you to her other friends. What do other people think? can someone bring it back from that point?

I don't think it's a shit test. I think it's genuine lack of interest. Not everyone is going to like you. NEXT.
Author:  ColaGuy [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 7:10 pm ]
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nah bullshit she's pushing you to make a move 'at least it appears that way' ??? she's fishing to see if you're interested or not because she's unsure herself. I say go nuclear bro and have fun ;)
Author:  newinSF [ Tue Oct 20, 2015 12:42 am ]
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Great tips...I went with #4. [Thanks to Oceanx)
"And...you’re like my little sister. Lovable, but a little annoying. I’m going to get you one of those tshirts that says - Please take me on a hike. wink emoticon ;)"

I hear you guys as some of you are suggesting about being un-reactive etc. I still believe that no good deed should go unpunished..Agree with ColaGuy who mentioned that she is somewhat interested/fishing and I believe she is also used to guys pandering to her. We are both part of a hiking group with me being one of the few organizers and she is a new member. As such, I gotta be little diplomatic in what I respond on FB message. If it was in person, my respond would have been - Totally! you are hittable (or you are cute!)...But beauty is common..I am drawn too ....1..2..3

Here's the current update. She gets back to me with two messages on Sunday early evening ( I had responded on Saturday evening).
1. Hehe...ok ok i will be a little less annoying. Will you take me on a hike now bro?:)
2. btw i went with a few friends today to this less busy hike at blah peak...Amazing trail!! Was about 9 miles total and the weather today was just perfect for a hike!!:) Hope you did something fun

She also added here on WaitList for one of my trip on Thanksgiving and she won't make the cut (mainly because she's not cut out for that difficult trip).

Haven't responded to her last comment yet. Thinking about saying something like - "Haha...Get in the line! I might let you tag along...if only you are good with bringing homemade treats;) "
Author:  oceanx [ Tue Oct 20, 2015 2:22 am ]
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Nice reply by the girl, she asks u to take her on a hike. Although she plays into it by calling you bro, still, well done. See what you get for listening to brother OceanX? J/k, it was your idea to begin with. :D

For a reply I might avoid the "get in line, tag along" arrogant stuff that they can usually see right through and go with something like "but are u good with bringing homemade treats;)"
Author:  skills360 [ Fri Oct 23, 2015 4:08 am ]
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"I am looking for good fun friends here and you keep hitting on me!! At least it appears that way"


lol! wishful thinking but i understand i am too irresistable, aren't we projecting much(whoever points a finger is the person that did it)... the truth is i am just being friendly, you are kind of cute but you are really not my type plus i am kind of talking to couple of girls right now and getting to know them. I am just a very social and friendly type dude.

then go into another thread, also always finish with a question, who ever ask question control the convo. curious what gave you that impression...


Anyways, if depending on how she responds, she may be interested, or not interested, or a maybe...take it from there...
Author:  CopernicanShift [ Sat Oct 24, 2015 11:04 am ]
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Quote:
1. Hehe...ok ok i will be a little less annoying. Will you take me on a hike now bro?:)

/.....
Haven't responded to her last comment yet. Thinking about saying something like - "Haha...Get in the line! I might let you tag along...if only you are good with bringing homemade treats;) "
I think that's your cue to set a date, if you can't take her on a hike yet
"Not yet, sis, but I am free for lazer tag (or whatever the hell you do) on such and such a date at such and such a time"
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