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Author:  Pennstate315 [ Sat Oct 10, 2015 9:52 pm ]
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I've been seeing a girl lately every weekend and we've been texting pretty regularly. The past three times we've hung out we had sex and she has spent the night. Last night she texts me that she now has a boyfriend at a different school. She said, "I don't want that to stop us from hanging out because you are really chill and I do like hanging out with you." Is this just a polite way of her saying we can't hook up anymore or does she still intend seeing me regardless? How should I treat this situation?
Author:  R.C [ Sun Oct 11, 2015 3:06 pm ]
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Only one way to find out.

Keep doing what you usually do. If she suddenly starts being unreceptive to the physicality then let her live out her relationship and find other girls.

You can't "force" someone into cheating. They're either into it or not. So find out if they are and if so, enjoy.
Author:  Pennstate315 [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 12:18 am ]
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Just an update on the situation i posted earlier:

Met up with the girl twice this weekend at parties. Made out with her first night, second night she came back to my place. We hooked up but said she didn't want to have sex because of her situation.

This morning we had a conversation via text:

Her: I cant keep cheating on my bf like this... We can still have a friendship, but it's just getting too out of control.

Me: I respect that, but I'm interested in being more than just friends, and it's seemed like you were too.

Her: Trust me I would be too and you were the only reason I would have said no to going out with this guy.

Me: I understand that, but at this point i'm interested in being more than just friends.

Her: Okay I guess that's it then, cause idk what else to do about all this.

At this point I stopped responding. My two questions are:

1. Did I play out this situation like I should have?
2. Should I maintain no contact with her, or still once in awhile still text her. I feel like this isn't a typical LJBF situation?
Author:  oceanx [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 1:34 am ]
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Yes you played the situation out appropriately in my view.

I would move on completely and see if she tries to re-engage.

She now knows the "rules of the road" with you.

This is a variation of something that was referred to in the old days of the seduction community (1990s) as "returning fox" theory.
Author:  R.C [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 7:29 am ]
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You did fine. Open your eyes to other girls and if she comes back, decide what you wanna do then.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 7:55 am ]
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Lol I've got girls who will tell me this same shit. Then we hang out and have sex anyways.

Don't even worry about it dude. It's just her blowing smoke. She knows you're gonna fuck her when you hang out.

I think some girls like the idea of being "that girl" .... so I just let them. She wants to act like a whore, I'm willing to accept her whore-ness :)

Make sure you don't fall for some shit though where she starts asking you for money or to keep shit at your house.

You're the guy she cheats on her boyfriend with. Not some chump who's gonna let her work you for everything you've got.
Author:  FeaganMox [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 10:42 am ]
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I think you did the mature thing. You let her know what you wanted nd she let you know and that was that. I think you should let things play out from here.

Plus I think in the long run you'd regret being the guy a girl cheated with
Author:  R.C [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 12:47 pm ]
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Plus I think in the long run you'd regret being the guy a girl cheated with
Why would that ever be the case?
Author:  FeaganMox [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 12:54 pm ]
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Plus I think in the long run you'd regret being the guy a girl cheated with
Why would that ever be the case?
Umm...Because it's dickish?
Author:  R.C [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 1:09 pm ]
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Why?

You don't "force" people to cheat. That's their choice to make. How is her being unhappy with her current relationship, and thus open to other options make you a dick?
Author:  FeaganMox [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 1:26 pm ]
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Why?

You don't "force" people to cheat. That's their choice to make. How is her being unhappy with her current relationship, and thus open to other options make you a dick?
Yeah but you have the option not to be the guy she cheats with. Say your friend got cheated on by his girl. What are you gonna think of that guy. Are you gonna commend her?

Plus it's just basic decency and being a man
Author:  R.C [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 3:05 pm ]
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I'm not gonna think anything of that guy, he did nothing wrong.
A relationship involves two people, and responsibility for either one's actions lies on them alone. When your girlfriend cheats on you, it's her decision, not the new guys'.

Being a man is being true to your desires. Don't mistake decency for naivety.
Author:  FeaganMox [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 3:19 pm ]
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I'm not gonna think anything of that guy, he did nothing wrong.
A relationship involves two people, and responsibility for either one's actions lies on them alone. When your girlfriend cheats on you, it's her decision, not the new guys'.

Being a man is being true to your desires. Don't mistake decency for naivety.
Hm different strokes I guess
Author:  Dragula [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 4:56 pm ]
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You will be stroking your penis instead..

I met the most stunning girl of my life who fucked me behind her BF's back. I found out this after of course. I guess I'm going to hell...

It takes 2 to tango.

A lot of girls do monkey branch theory. Which means she will find a new man before she lets go of her last one. Some girls are afraid to be single for 24+ I guess. But doesn't mean the new branch is a bad guy. Not his problem.
Author:  Pennstate315 [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 7:06 pm ]
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Thanks for all the answers, however no one really answered my second question. She also re-initiated me today via text, I haven't responded, it's been like 24 hours since we last texted yesterday. Any advice?
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