2) more importantly, how can I believe? honestly, I think that is the only thing missing from the equation. If I just believe, my whole life will turn around.

First of I know I have absolutely no experience compared to you due to the fact that I learned that the game existed yesterday. I do however know a little bit about confidence. I learned my biggest lesson in confidence when I was doing door to door sales. I went in and was ready to take over the world. Every new hire has to shadow a manager for a day before they can go knock on doors by them self, but the day I was suppose to shadow there had accidentally been 2 guys assigned to shadow my manager. Me and another kid. Well you can't go up to a door with 3 people because that's just creepy so we were alternating going up to the door with the manager. After about 3 doors I said fuck it I'll just go by myself because the other kid had no clue what he was doing and needed help more than I did. I led the company in closes that day. The reason why was simple. I got 3 closes that day. Nobody had ever told me what was average in the company, I had no idea that getting 1 close was considered a good day and 3 closes was for the best. I figured that average was probably 5 closes a day, that's what I thought most people in the company got. When I met back up with my manager he was in shock. I out-knocked a division of 30+ guys on my raining day when I wasn't even suppose to knock on the doors by myself. When I got back to the office everyone freaked out, my managers boss bought me a pizza and told me I was going to be great. I worked there three months. I only had 2 other days where I got 3 closes. Most days I got 1 or 0. I went out on my first day with confidence that I would at least be average at this and to me average was 3-5. When they told me I did amazing it made me immediately doubt myself because in my head I was saying "there's no way I'm that good" and from then on I wasn't. Sorry for such a long story, the point is confidence is key. The best way to gain it is to do something that you thing is to easy for you. Your confident you know how to drive a car right? So next time your in a bar/club look around and find a set that when you look your first thought is "I'm way the hell outa there league" and go throw yourself at it. You don't have to take a girl home. The more success you have the higher you will place yourself and I promise you that you will be surprised. You might start the night talking to 2s and 3s and go home with a 8 or 9. My last little bit of knowledge to you is this. The reason you don't understand girls is because they don't even understand themselves. It's proven right here by the fact that the game exists. If they understood that when we opened and then begged and then isolated etc. there wouldn't be a game. Yet we do because it works. The minute you find a girl who knows who she is and understands herself is the minute you find a girl that can't be gamed. At least that's my opinion, and for all you curious bastards out there yes I did end up closing at a door once. Got invited inside and we hooked up in her living room. Why? Because I said with confidence the second she opened the door "hey I know you don't own this house so you don't want to buy anything but I can tell you think I'm cute, nah don't blush it's ok I get that a lot. It's cold though, mind if I come inside?" I didn't get 3 closes for the company that day, but that 1 close was well worth it.

To everyone who reads this: I know I'm new and the new guy normally doesn't know shot. I'm just offering my opinions and thoughts. I hope to make many lasting friendships here and cause nobody any problems. If what I have said is wrong just tell me. I've got more to learn than anyone here

Also, how's your career and social life? you happy with those?

no

I am guessing the answer is "approach more"