Hi everyone!
The question is: is the reputation of being a seducer positive or harmful?
It is a general question, but here is my recent experience.
Last night I was hanging out with some friends when I bumped into another friend of mine. He was in a mixed group, and immediately introduced me to the girls with enthusiasm. He flattered me and claimed that I was the greatest seducer he had ever known. They exclaimed: "So you're the one he was talking about!". I swear I could feel an underlying enthusiasm in their gestures and they warmly introduced themselves to me. I got the number of one girl and agreed to join them later, when my group would be over.
I have to make a clarification now. I'm not a seducer. Not even a "small" seducer. I actually had only one romantic relationship, and it was by chance. Although I am a well groomed, good looking guy who does not reject company, I have the attitude of the perfect AFC - the nice guy. You know the situation: feeling terribly shy, being not able to escalate, getting clumsy and silent. However, I am surrounded by female friends and people may really think that I am successful with women.
The night ended up like this. I re-joined the group later, they were sitting in a bar and I couldn't get a good spot. I felt cut off. I had no idea how to play. We did a little conversation but I did not catch clear IOIs. Enthusiasm slowly turned into frustration.
The fascination of the seducer was a false qualifier or maybe I made some mistakes?
Feel free to stay general or relate to my case. Any advice is gold!
