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| Author: | BruceWayne1 [ Tue Sep 15, 2015 4:58 am ] |
| Post subject: | How do you get people interested in what you have to say? |
How do you get people interested in what you have to say? Not just with women. I want people to actually care about my opinions, etc. I notice the only people who seem really interested in my opinions are girls who are interested in me (which probably is just pseudo-interest) and close friends/family. Even my girlfriend at this point (we've been together a little over a month) seems less interested in the stuff I have to say as time goes on. For example, I was telling her about the new place I'm going to be working at (we're both 18, so work isn't as big of a deal compared to college and life) and she didn't seem like she really cared. Idk it just seems that people are largely only self-interested. But I know there are people who people just hang on to every word they say. So how do I become that kind of person? (maybe not too that high of an extent but still have people be interested) Is it all about passion in what you're saying, or is it something else? Advice? Video suggestions, etc Thanks |
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| Author: | R.C [ Tue Sep 15, 2015 7:21 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you get people interested in what you have to say |
People are mostly self-interested. Even when they listen to what you have to say they do it because you spark some sort of emotion in them. Fear/excitement/joy/happiness or whatever else. That's still quite self centered. You have to elicit emotional responses with the things you say and the way you say them. "I changed my job. I now work at X". or "So I'm changing my slave-pens. I get to spend the majority of my day on coffee breaks, pretending to do some actual work, but at a new place. With people I'll probably like even less than the ones I currently work with." All that in a really overly dramatic way. Those strong exaggerations are a form of humor. You're conveying the same message, but adding some emotional value to it. People will respond differently to what's essentially the same thing. |
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| Author: | Monsignor Crisanto [ Tue Sep 15, 2015 1:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you get people interested in what you have to say |
There's a science to influence and persuasion. Look for the works of Professor Robert Cialdini. Personally, as a professional manager, I get the opinions of people first and then angle what I have to convey based on their reactions (both verbal and nonverbal). I do this whether I'm interacting with the president of a company, an investor, banker, a big client, a mayor, a governor, a senator or the office rank-and-file. I earn my living through persuasive communication (oral, written, diagrammatic, video or presentational) and this approach works really well for me. As an officer of the university student council, I don't talk much. I mostly persuade through action and example rather than words. So on the rare instances that I convey my opinion, everybody listens. Personally, as a seducer, I adapt my communication style (verbal and nonverbal) according to the profile of the girl. I only dish out my opinions on the things I am passionate about after bouts of hardcore pussy pounding. I have discovered that girls tend to listen more intently to your opinions after you have fucked them good. You can read Cialdini's book or try some of the approaches I described. Find something that works for you. |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Wed Sep 16, 2015 6:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you get people interested in what you have to say |
Quote: I want people to actually care about my opinions, etc.
It'll happen when you stop caring about if people care about your opinions.And honestly, it won't even happen then. You just won't care. And because of that, more people will find you interesting. It's a big catch 22. You almost have to get to a point where you don't even care about your own opinions. (You're not fully attached to an idea. Or very open minded...) Do you see what I'm getting at? Maybe start listening to other peoples opinions more instead of worrying about everyone hearing your opinion. Cause quite honestly, unless someone like me told them, who happens to be someone like you that wants to change, most people aren't going to give a flying fuck about your opinions. And like I said, once you're cool with that, then people start listening to what you have to say. |
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| Author: | dtrak [ Sat Sep 19, 2015 8:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you get people interested in what you have to say |
Ran across this bit on google, couldn't have said it better myself: 1.Make sure people are interested in a topic before talking too much about it. 2.Stick to upbeat subjects. 3.Balance the amount of talking and listening. 4.Find out what other people enjoy discussing. ~Pretty common sense |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Tue Sep 22, 2015 3:43 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you get people interested in what you have to say |
A lot of it is passion. The other portion of it is how interested are "You" in what it is you are saying. If you think you're interesting, you will speak with more passionate and that will provoke others to want to hear what it is you have to say. What are you passionate about? And how do you support this passionate? How often do you throw yourself outside of your comfort zone for this passion? If you want to get people more interested in what you have to say you have to get out there and talk to more people. You'll become more interesting as you become more interested in others. |
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