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Author:  lolpants [ Sun Aug 23, 2015 8:59 am ]
Post subject:  Red flag(s) or not
just need some opinions here

girl i've been on 2 dates with told me yesterday;

- she has a list of all the guys who she kissed ( showed me the list)
- showed me some pics of her and friends and whom of those friends (male) she kissed
- while going out she suddenly disappeared to say 'hi' to her ex bf, who she apparently often sees to have a drink with.
- 2 dates, still no sex ( this is the girl from my previous thread that supposedly has sex with guys who are her boyfriend)


These are some major red flags right ?
I just wanna check if I 'm not overthinking 'cause I feel like not seeing this girl again, ever.
Author:  oceanx [ Sun Aug 23, 2015 10:15 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Red flag(s) or not
I'd drop her too. Dude there are SO MANY girls out there it's unfathomable. Go meet some cool ones.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Sun Aug 23, 2015 12:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Red flag(s) or not
These are red flags, apart from the one about no sex after 2 dates. If you do everything right, it'll usually take 2-3 dates.

The ex boyfriend thing is definitely a red flag.

The kissing list... I'm fucking a girl who has a list in her phone of everybody shes slept with lol - I don't see why it's a red flag.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sun Aug 23, 2015 1:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Red flag(s) or not
If you feel like not seeing the girl again then just don't. What is there for you lose? Not much. There has been little investment and according to you she hasn't shown much of anything that would make you want to continue.

Learning to walk away while there are still possibilities is one of the most powerful things you can do as a man. Trusting and believing that you can attract a new woman of the same quality. It is this spirit that keeps a woman loyal and committed to you. NO woman wants to think she is your only option. She wants to feel chosen. And your willingness to walk away allows her to feel like you being with her is your choice.
Author:  lolpants [ Sun Aug 23, 2015 2:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Red flag(s) or not
Aight, she's out of my contacts list.

Too bad in a way, since her roommate ( single btw ) was so much more fun and way hotter :)
Author:  neo87 [ Sun Aug 23, 2015 4:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Red flag(s) or not
Red flags depend on your intention. For a relationship, yeah I guess so if you dont trust her due to being friendly with exs and kissing her friends... but you shouldnt be thinking a relationship at 2 dates. For sex, not really. The list thing is weird to me though. Anyways, it just sounds like she's not super interested so you're nexting her. She's in control and this is your move to at least take some of that back. If it's sex you're after, why would you care who she has kissed.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Wed Aug 26, 2015 2:48 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Red flag(s) or not
Quote:
These are red flags, apart from the one about no sex after 2 dates. If you do everything right, it'll usually take 2-3 dates.

The ex boyfriend thing is definitely a red flag.

The kissing list... I'm fucking a girl who has a list in her phone of everybody shes slept with lol - I don't see why it's a red flag.
The girl I mentioned, sent me a screenshot of this fucking post. Fuck me, right?
Author:  On A Rampage [ Wed Aug 26, 2015 3:58 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Red flag(s) or not
Quote:
just need some opinions here

girl i've been on 2 dates with told me yesterday;

1. she has a list of all the guys who she kissed ( showed me the list)
2. showed me some pics of her and friends and whom of those friends (male) she kissed
3. while going out she suddenly disappeared to say 'hi' to her ex bf, who she apparently often sees to have a drink with.
4. 2 dates, still no sex ( this is the girl from my previous thread that supposedly has sex with guys who are her boyfriend)


These are some major red flags right ?
I just wanna check if I 'm not overthinking 'cause I feel like not seeing this girl again, ever.

I'd like some more clarification and I've numbered your list to make it easier.

1. Did you ask to see the list, or did she just randomly show you?
2. Did you ask to see the photos of the guys she's kissed, or did she just randomly show you?
3. Why you care about her ex? Back yourself. She may be out having drinks with him, and fucking him every now and then, who cares? She's not your girlfriend. You can fuck her too. Escalate her.
4. Don't blame her for not having sex with you. Blame yourself for not getting her worked up and horny so that she wants to have sex with you.

I personally don't see any red flags here, I just don't think you've got the self confidence at this time to deal with this situation. You're caring about things you shouldn't. You need to be out fucking, or at the very least trying to fuck other girls and this little 'problem' which you think are red flags won't be.
Author:  lolpants [ Wed Aug 26, 2015 9:08 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Red flag(s) or not
Quote:
Quote:
just need some opinions here

girl i've been on 2 dates with told me yesterday;

1. she has a list of all the guys who she kissed ( showed me the list)
2. showed me some pics of her and friends and whom of those friends (male) she kissed
3. while going out she suddenly disappeared to say 'hi' to her ex bf, who she apparently often sees to have a drink with.
4. 2 dates, still no sex ( this is the girl from my previous thread that supposedly has sex with guys who are her boyfriend)


These are some major red flags right ?
I just wanna check if I 'm not overthinking 'cause I feel like not seeing this girl again, ever.

I'd like some more clarification and I've numbered your list to make it easier.

1. Did you ask to see the list, or did she just randomly show you?
2. Did you ask to see the photos of the guys she's kissed, or did she just randomly show you?
3. Why you care about her ex? Back yourself. She may be out having drinks with him, and fucking him every now and then, who cares? She's not your girlfriend. You can fuck her too. Escalate her.
4. Don't blame her for not having sex with you. Blame yourself for not getting her worked up and horny so that she wants to have sex with you.

I personally don't see any red flags here, I just don't think you've got the self confidence at this time to deal with this situation. You're caring about things you shouldn't. You need to be out fucking, or at the very least trying to fuck other girls and this little 'problem' which you think are red flags won't be.

I told her it was weird to keep a list. She then showed me the list.
After that she started showing pictures of some of her guy friends she kissed.
I didn't really ask to see all that stuff...I didn't even count or asked questions...I just wanted to fuck, which wasn't happening :)

But to clarify...when we went out the other day I forgot my phone at her place and when she just bailed to say hi to her ex I got lost and it took me 2 hours to find her place again.
She let me back in and when checking my phone I had 16 missed calls from her and a text saying that I was an asshole :D
No fucking happened that night.
next day was awkward....I tried to go for sex but she stopped me telling me she only has sex with guys who are her boyfriend.
I left shortly after that.

I have no regrets, the only thing that bothers me is that I didn't invest enough in the roommate, who came along that evening, to keep in touch with her.
She was smoking hot and was way more fun !
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