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| Author: | Homelessnewb [ Tue Aug 18, 2015 2:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Wanting to get back my pregnant ex girlfriend |
Hey dudes, Heres the deal, i have been in relationship about 4 years with my ex-girlfriend, we have had about 4 times (now is 4th) on/off situations when she left me and later wants me back, because i move on with my life and actually last time everything changed if my rebound girlfriend posted picture in Facebook where we kissed, then my ex was contacted me and said "Its nice to see that you are moved on with your life." etc and since then she was looking for contact, until we was back together. I am honest, there was time in relationship about 1 year long, when i was complete pig, so i was cheating on her and she figured it out, but we didnt break-up, because she said that she cant imagine living without me and the reason i cheated was i wasnt sure about her either, because i took her granted, but all this changed when she was starting hang out more with her friends and i was feeling "fear of loss" and i understood that she is best thing in my life what is ever happened to me. At the moment we have broke-up and she is living in her friends place.. a long time friend who she knows about as long as she knows me. We have had sex after break-up about 8 times and after break-up i have read thousend of pages different books about "Getting ex back" etc so i am not completely newb, but its pretty hard to follow the road and in some point i still fuck up the situation, after last time we fucked, i was acting too needy and insecure after that, so i stared approach her etc and it pushed her more away, so she has been offline about few days and it seems the attraction level is dropped. One another thing is that she is pregnant of me and she said that only way to raise the child is with me, but i afraid i can fuck up the situation more, if i cant control my emotions. Yesterday i sent her SMS-message that "I asked you about date of doctor in Facebook, but never mind, i am moving on with my life in occupationaly and other way also. Let me know if u think its right time to discuss these things with me also" and today i sent another message: ":D Sorry for that yesterday SMS, everything is chill, i understand what u are feeling at the moment. Today i decided i will apply "no contact" period, because it has worked every fucking time, but this time its harder to apply this, because previous times she didnt live together with her friend and also there wasnt no child included, so it was easier to move on... now its easy few days and then my emotions will boil over again. So whats your suggestions in this situations? Every good advice is welcome. Sorry, my english is maybe not so native, because its not my mother language. Also if u have any more questions, you are welcome to ask. |
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| Author: | Dragula [ Tue Aug 18, 2015 4:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Wanting to get back my pregnant ex girlfriend |
This sounds messy. You got caught cheating and yet....she still managed to get herself pregnant. My only suggestion to you, is to quit the needy SMS texting, quite the Facebook jealousy plotlines. The way to 'get back at her' is lead a cool life. Period. I get the feeling that she will come back since she has done it 4 times before...it is now more likely she will come back now that she is pregnant. No girl wants to go through that alone I guess. The 'Get your ex' books don't work, save your time and money. It's more about having a solid foundation to start with. But to be honest, you both sound crazy and I can't see it lasting to be honest, the foundation is so weak.... But good luck and congrats on the baby. Hope the baby get's to grow up with both parents. |
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| Author: | Homelessnewb [ Tue Aug 18, 2015 5:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Wanting to get back my pregnant ex girlfriend |
Hi, Thanks for advice. Should i wait her to contact me first, if at the moment she is completely distant? Last time which perfectly worked was if she saw picture about me with other girl, which makes her jealous and i think she was feeling fear of loss, because i was no longer one who chased after her, so i moved the power from her to me, do you have some good suggestions what to do to steal her power and make her chase? Because definetly as at the moment she knows that i want her back, she has all the power... |
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| Author: | neo87 [ Tue Aug 18, 2015 5:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Wanting to get back my pregnant ex girlfriend |
Look don't play games if a kid is involved. If you sincerely feel like a relationship can work between you 2 drop the games. Doesn't sound like it. So let her go, establish how your future non romantic parenting relationship will go and take care of your kid. Playing games is just gonna drag the kid through the Rollercoaster that you 2 keep going on. Man up and accept that you 2 don't work. Ps if you don't care about the kid then play thetjealousy game with your kid in the middle. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Wed Aug 19, 2015 12:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Wanting to get back my pregnant ex girlfriend |
The lack of self control is a little ridicules. There is the life of a child involved and you're still playing high school catch me if you can games. How is she suppose to respect you? And how are you suppose to respect yourself? At what point do you man up, call her to have a serious sit down, and talk about the plan and direction the relationship needs to go in. Whether you guys are going to work it out or call it quits and remain friends for the sake of the child. You gotta be serious man. Call the girl. Stop with the texting. Calling and schedule a sit down to have a serious talk about the future. For the sake of the child first, the relationship second. |
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| Author: | Homelessnewb [ Thu Aug 20, 2015 8:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Wanting to get back my pregnant ex girlfriend |
Yeah, i am not planning to play games, at the moment the point is she is not answering my calls and SMS, i think she has lot in mind at the moment. I am interested raising this child together with her and as she said the only way to raise this child is with me, also to her, but as she break up with me before she knew she was pregnant and still hooked me up after we werent together no longer... its obvious that in some point her attraction level was lower and some point higher and EVERY fucking time things are back OK, if i back up and move on with my life and dont act insecure and needy, the problem at the moment is that at the moment i cant just call her every day or something like that to "ask to talk", because it is weak and insecure, so i need suggestions to get her attraction level up and not to fuck up this. Also there is problem that she is pretty closed person, so its not easy to just go and talk this kind of topics and get straight answers.. |
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